My ex thinks I'm boring and easy.

[Anonymous]

Well, pretty much. Basically he tells me I have no interests or makes it sound like I only like sex. He's told me I'm easy because I had sex with him a couple times during our break up. He's the only guy I've ever had sex with! And he's the one who always asks, even begs me. He's shown up at my door begging me for like 30 minutes once and I told him to go home. Yet he'll say "I don't know why we're not together. You're perfect." I'm frustrated because now he's interested in a new girl who "Reminds him of who he really is" which is "someone who is a good guy and not all about sex". His words. Right. I mean he is a great guy despite the above but to pretty much say that I've somehow corrupted him into making him "all about sex" is unbelieveable. Even though he is pursuing this other girl he still says "Well maybe we should get together and have sex" (And no they're not together yet. I don't think he'd cheat on her). And yeah I sometimes go along with it but I have no intention of hooking up with him without something more going on between us. I just want show him that I'm not "easy", and that I do have interests, not that he would notice since he only ever talks to me about sex. I'm sure he's mostly doing it to piss me off but I'm beyond pissed so it's time to get even and move along. Suggestions?

I know head games are stupid. I know it's better to move on. But he needs to realize he can't treat me like this and he needs to feel just a taste of what I'm feeling. I'm fighting fire with fire here. I know he wants me. He tells me different things. Like "You're so funny, gorgeous, amazing in bed" "Don't date an a-hole, I'll kick his a**". Oh and that I should have sex with someone else so he doesn't feel so bad.

Sorry it's long I'm just tired of not knowing what to do. I don't want to completely rid him from my life because we are close otherwise.

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I should also add that while we were together we had a great relationship. Sex ultimately screwed things up between us. This is the first time he's ever been really rude to me. He's gotten really upset about us hooking up during our break up in the past.

[Simple-Simonette]

He sounds like a complete nutcase to me. Why bother trying to figure out someone who is just loony?

Seriously, he's confused about his feelings towards sex and it's manifesting into blaming you. You will never convince him that he is wrong. He's not being logical with his reasoning so how are you going to convince him with logic? It's like trying to put out an oven fire with grease - it doesn't make sense to do so.

If you want to fight fire with fire, then you'll have to be as loony as he is. Convince him you joined a cult that stresses celibacy. Try to get him to join and tell him your punishment for haivng sex is to clean your bathroom 20 times a day. He might actually agree with you. Crazy.

[Asker]

Yeah I'm the only person he's slept with so of course he thinks I'm "amazing". Fight crazy with crazy haha. But you're definitely right. Thanks!

[pielcanela21]

ok so this guy is number 1 is a total jackass and clearly doesn't respect you cause he only looks at you like a sex toy. I think you should move on cause this guy only wants you for one thing and that is sex a relationship can't be build up on that. and like you said he's going for ome other girl so just move on and when he begs to have sex because him out and be like no cause you not a hoe or a booty call. Set dis dirty cows ass straight and move on when he see that you talkin to someone else that respects you and cares for you then he will realize he lost you for good. And ur probably not boring he just trying to put you down so you think no guy wants you so he can keep gettin sex from u.

[amberview]

Guys start to act and talk this way when they are ready to end it. It's to make themselves feel better about themselves. I call it the "bully syndrome". Sometimes it can be that they are running away from guilt. No one likes to feel guilty for a failed relationship. That way they can say to themselves and you if you let them, "It's ok that I'm doing this. You suck anyways." It also sounds like he is a game player. Nothing good will come of being his friend. You need to cut off contact as soon as possible and begin mending your heart.

[glowboy]

im sorry but to me it just sounds like the guy is using you. he knows he can get sex from you and it seems like the only thing he want. I would stop putting up with his crap. if he says you are easy again kick is ass out or leave. show him that him being a jerk is upsetting you. you seem like an awesome girl so move on. find a guy you like. once you hook up with someone else that should really make him made no matter what he says. he obviously keeps coming back to you. the best way to get even would be to move on and cut him off.

[Asker]

I'm waiting for my oppertunity to put my foot down haha. Thanks!

[glowboy]

No prob and good luck : P

[Stanthemilkman]

Um have some self respect and stop being used. This guy is a doughe bag, cut him out of your life like his cancer.

[dasouthernicon]

then get this guy outta ur life- why you wanna put up with this typa crap anyways? He needs to hear from you that you ain't gonna put up with any nonsense from him...