I tend to be boring, how to change this?

[Anonymous]

I am being told that I’m boring by family, because I don’t talk much. Some of the tiles do say things, is due to just joking around. I tend to stutter and not flow properly when speaking. Additionally, I never really know what to talk about, other than surface level stuff. I just feel weird sometimes trying to ask deeper questions, because I feel it’s not my business. There other things I have a hard time making moves to flirt and break the touch barrier. This is not knowing how to, and not wanting to come off as a creep. This is due to me being very awkward. I do have a few girls I would love to talk to, but too nervous to do it. I tend to take rejection quite hard, and as stated before not wanting to come off as weird, creepy, or get laughed out the room. The reason I have this fear, is the stuff I hear from some of the women at my job. It is amazing what they talk about, and makes me nervous. Mind you one of them I would love to ask out, but never done it due to being scared.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, I totally get where you're coming from. It can be really hard when people say you're boring, and dating is scary as hell too. But there are definitely things you can do to come out of your shell more!

For one, try joining some clubs or meetups based on your interests. That way you'll be around people who already share a common topic to chat about. Talking about hobbies or activities is way less stressful than interview-style questions.

You could also practice opening up more with friends/family first before dating. Ask them about their lives, opinions on stuff in the news - little by little it'll get easier to connect on a deeper level.

And don't worry so much what those chicks at work think. Girls are people just like us, they get nervous and screw up too! If you see a chance to casually chat with that one girl, even just say hi and a compliment, take a breath and go for it. Worst that happens is she says nah - but you'll feel so proud you put yourself out there.

Chin up man, I know finding your groove takes work but you gotta believe in yourself. Start small with conversations that don't feel forced, and over time your confidence will grow like crazy. You got this!

[fuddly]

Make yourself as normal as possible
Try to fit in
Be one of the guys
Girls love that
They will come to you, you don't need to try.
Be sensible and responsible.

[RainBat]

Start misinterpreting characters from movies and emulating them, Patrick Bateman is a good start, you should start emulating him, girls will positively piss their pants.

[BrightBubblyKat]

I’m sure you’re not boring. If you are, then most of us are. Just go and try more things.

[AngryCarl2]

There's nothing wrong with being boring. Some of the most successful people on the planet are boring af.

[Anonymous]

It's better to be boring than trying to fake yourself to be entertaining which makes it very awkward, just be you!