Ladies, what does it mean when you call a guy cute?

[JHAYES317]

Women sometimes tell me they think I’m cute…does that mean they think of me like a little brother? Or is it just a substitute word for attractive/hot?

[PeachyPie93]

When I call someone cute it is because they have boyish good looks like you are good looking but still look young Or I think you look nice but not quiet gorgeous. SO it could be either one lol

[JHAYES317]

You had said that you thought I was attractive a while ago, is that the same as cute then?

[PeachyPie93]

No I think you look good looking a bit better than cute 😉

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 I’m confused didn’t you say cute meant good looking but young lol?

[PeachyPie93]

It can be good looking and young/innocent looking òr just cute not really hot lol

[PeachyPie93]

A little bit confusing but not so serious lol its a compliment so it shouldn't matter lol

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 so you’re saying I’m hot then lol?

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah I think you look good

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 so is hot and gorgeous the same thing then?

[PeachyPie93]

Pretty much

[PeachyPie93]

Hot is more like I want to fuck you gorgeous is like you are very very good looking like totally my type 💯

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 I’m confused…so then am I hot or gorgeous? Or neither lol?

[PeachyPie93]

I just see you as attractive because I don't know you lol You are a good looking guy.

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 I see so cute, hot and gorgeous can only apply if you know somebody?

[PeachyPie93]

Cute and gorgeous is for anyone, Hot is for someone I know and want to fuck basically lol
You are attractive but just not fully my type so not gorgeous but very good looking. Gorgeous to me is like a 9 or 10. My definitions are annoying but I know what they all mean LOL

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 How so? Like if I was half a foot taller then I’d be gorgeous? Or is it like you prefer red heads kind of thing?

[PeachyPie93]

I kind of prefer a more feminine kind of guy lol But you are like a 7 or 8 your are good, don't be so self conscious.

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 Ah I get it ok…so you’re saying for your type, I’m like a 7 because I’m too masculine basically? So I’m guessing like Henry Cavill and Chris Hemsworth would also be 7 or 8 for you too then because they are more stereotypically masculine guys?

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah like they are totally are not my type.

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 but I think someone can be objectively attractive but not be your type no? Like in my opinion someone can objectively be a 9 or 10, but subjectively be like a 5 because of their personality or lifestyle or maybe you just don’t like the way they look for whatever reason? Or for you is the only way to be a 9 or 10 is if someone matches your type exactly?

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah that is very true, but when I think someone is objectively attractive I don't think their rating goes down I just admire they are pretty but a piece of shit too and would never see them in a sexual way lol I still see their beauty though. But the only way I would see someone as a 9 or 10 is if they fit my standard fully but maybe that is because I am a bit of an artist and I enjoy beauty😂

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 so basically the only way I could become a 9 or 10 would be the become more feminine lol?

[PeachyPie93]

Basically :D

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 Got it ok. Why do you like feminine guys by the way?

[PeachyPie93]

I don't know I just do, which is funny because I will never end up with someone I deem that high. Maybe because my dad was like a bush guy, my friends always said he looks like a biker, big beard, muscly, strong, hairy, could punch me through the wall. I guess I am attracted to the complete opposite 😂

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 so you have daddy issues?

[PeachyPie93]

I don't think I have daddy issues but who knows?

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 well if you avoid dating any guys specifically because they look like your dad that would be daddy issues no?

[PeachyPie93]

If I had daddy issues wouldn't I be attracted to men who remind me of him or some sort of replacement to him? lol

[PeachyPie93]

Not sure what qualifies as daddy issues lol

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 it can go both ways…basically just either wanting to date the exact opposite of your dad or someone exactly like your dad

[PeachyPie93]

Interesting.

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 so you’d only want to fuck guys who meet your type fully, or it’s more that just in order to find guys a 10/10 they need to fit your type exactly, but you don’t require that in a guy you are interested in?

[PeachyPie93]

Nah I never dated a 10 out of 10 before lol
I don't require the guy to be that high to be sexually or romantically into him.

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 so what is your minimum to be sexually attracted to a guy, like an 8?

[PeachyPie93]

Nah depends on the guy if his personality is really good I have lowered my standards especially for real love.

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 oh ok. Well you had said you’ve never experienced real love before though no?

[PeachyPie93]

First guy loved me I don't think I loved him, I fell for a guy who wasn't into me, nothing happened but that broke my heart fr, then second boyfriend I think we were just using each other, though I did like him.

[PeachyPie93]

Never experienced when you both are in love with each other.

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 neither have I, so you’re not alone in that. It’ll happen eventually

[PeachyPie93]

Maybe but I kind of gave up on that dream

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 after only 3 guys? Seems kind of premature…

[PeachyPie93]

Lol I'm getting too old for love 🤣🤣

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 too old? You’re 30…that’s not old at all…give me a break.

[PeachyPie93]

Lol its old enough 🤣

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 nah you just need to find a guy you’re attracted to and ask them out

[PeachyPie93]

If only things were so easy.

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 they are that easy. Most guys will not reject a woman asking them out. At least in the USA…I’m not sure where you live.

[PeachyPie93]

I think they would if it was me 😂

[JHAYES317]

@PeachyPie93 well at least I wouldn’t reject you if you had asked me out. Can’t speak for all guys.

[laly520]

I often use the word cute in a platonic way with friends n those who r cute
as a friendly comment, nth beyond that

[JHAYES317]

@laly520 so if you were sexually attracted to a guy, what word would you use instead of cute?

[laly520]

ig would use hot

[JHAYES317]

@laly520 damn ok I rarely get called hot usually it’s just cute or maybe handsome. But it is what it is lol

[HappyWoman34]

They find you hot but don’t want to seem pathetic.

[JHAYES317]

Why would that make them seem pathetic lol?

[HappyWoman34]

Women see these guys being targeted relentlessly by predatory women and they worry about being seen as being creepy and weird.

[JHAYES317]

@happywoman34 I’m not sure what guys you are talking about cause I almost never get approached by women lol

[HappyWoman34]

Truly?

[HappyWoman34]

Then it’s what used to happen when people acted human and talked to each other.

[HappyWoman34]

(Before computers)

[HappyWoman34]

Why not approach them, or try dating sites, ask for numbers? I know it’s a really confusing time and I wasn’t mocking you. People aren’t losing their virginity until their mid twenties sometimes nowadays and there’s so much political correctness and there are so many ways to self identify. So confusing. I feel sorry for the younger people today.

[HappyWoman34]

But yes you’re handsome. To answer your question. 😊👍

[JHAYES317]

@happywoman34 I’ve tried dating sites…but I very rarely get matches cause I’m only 5’6” lol…and I would approach women except I’m neurodivergent so social awkwardness gets in the way.

[HappyWoman34]

You’re an aspie? So am I 😊

[HappyWoman34]

I’m a bit old for you, at 35, but you can add me and maybe I can help you, like an older sister might, or an older friend.

[JHAYES317]

@happywoman34 on paper yes…actually no. I was diagnosed as a kid so I could get therapy for an unspecified learning disorder I had…but it’s not technically on the autism spectrum it’s closer to a mix of ADHD and OCD…

[HappyWoman34]

Oh I see 😊. Yeah, that’s still not easy

[JHAYES317]

@happywoman34 just gotta make the most of it can’t change it 🤷‍♂️

[HappyWoman34]

True. That’s how I feel, being autistic

[JHAYES317]

@happywoman34 you seem pretty high functioning at least

[HappyWoman34]

Thanks, I am 😊. I’m mild.

[JHAYES317]

@happywoman34 my best friend has Asperger’s so he lacks social awareness but he’s pretty functional for the most part

[HappyWoman34]

Yeah, we have the same lives as everyone else except we find life more confusing

[JHAYES317]

@happywoman34 good point