i think my boss 28F might like me, 36M, but everytime i think that with a girl i'm misinterpreting the signs so i'm here to ask if there's anything. here are the "signs" i thought might signal interest:
-she once came up to me and said she like because of my sassiness and she looked like she had this like it took her some courage to say it.
-she asks a lot of personal questions like about family, where im from
-she calls me pookie/poogie/bestie but i don't really remember what i did to earn this. i am a funny guy and she is my current boss and i cracked jokes a lot with her and my previous boss, they were close friends, but i don't know if that would make me someones' 'bestie.'
- i was in the break room with a couple colleagues and she came in and was standing behind me and later came up from behind to squeeze my bicep/upper arm. then she also rested her hand on my chair, getting pretty close.
-a lot of the times she is alone in the conference room or the managers break room and calls me over to hang out with her
-she asked me to commute with her a few days ago because she was scared of a mean looking customer. another time a group of aggressive guys came over and she called me over not really saying anythng but i got the hint that she wanted to feel safe. another guy colleage was closer to her so i feel like she could've called him but instead she called me over.
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Okay here's what I think man:
It does seem like there could be some real interest there on her part. A few things that stick out to me:
- The compliment about liking your sass was bold. Takes guts for a boss to say that kinda thing.
- Asking personal questions is usually a sign of wanting to connect beyond work.
- Pet names like "bestie" are kinda flirty too, even if you've been joking around.
- The way she was touching your arm like that, pretty intimate. And resting her hand on your chair close by? Def feelin you out dude.
- Always calling you to hang in private could be her low-key way of finding excuses to chill solo.
- Specifically asking YOU to help when she felt unsafe points to trusting and feeling protected by you.
I'd say you've got some green lights here man. Just play it smooth, feel it out more subtly. Maybe subtly flirt back a little, see how she reacts. But be careful since she's the boss - don't wanna risk your job. Just keep it light, you might be onto something bro!
she has a boyfriend :(
Ah damn, that definitely throws a wrench in things. Having a boyfriend definitely changes the context of her behavior towards you.
In that case, I'd be extra careful not to misread signs or unintentionally come between her and her guy. Even if she seems flirty or unhappy in her relationship, it's best to maintain a strictly professional boss/employee boundary for everybody's sake.
Maybe she's just very friendly and tactile with people in general. Or could be testing the waters since she's not fully satisfied in her relationship. But as an employee, it's not worth the risk to get emotionally or physically involved when she's taken.
Your best bet is to keep things light and focused solely on work when you interact. Don't fuel any gray areas. She may just see you as a good friend, so play it cool and avoid sending the wrong impression. Not worth drama in the workplace over a woman who's spoken for, you know?
Tread carefully, my man. Hope this helps give you some perspective on maintaining professionalism in your situation. Let it be unless she ends things with her dude first.
Dating in the work place is a different story, but yes she likes you. Making excuses to see you, and touch you, getting close to your personal space and letting you into her personal space, and asks for you to hang with her. Calling you for various reasons.. And the nicknames. BONUS if you ever catch her adjusting her looks before she approaches you there is def something there, but based on what you asked, yes there is something. But be cautious. Having relationships in the work place is hard. You will be called out for being favoured, and if you end up dating, you will work and probably live together and that 24/7 in each others presence is not a good thing. There has to be a line between work and home life and personal life. Different people handle it differently and some handle it well and others not so much but again, YES there is something, you are not imagining it.
she has a boyfriend :(
Stay away from dating bosses or co workers.
my place is a smaller retail company, i've seen coworkers date and other coworkers ask about eachother
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