Does this guy like me or is he playing?

[Anonymous]

So i know this guy through a mutual friend. We've seen each other occasionally. Recently we have each other on snap. One time he send me a picture of his cat, but in the mirror i could see him in only a towel on his hips from head to toe almost. And he send me an outfit check and he was looking pretty good. I only said something back about his cat and he kinda ignored me after that and didn't send me any snaps. When we went out with a group (my friend invited me with her friends). At an after party he asked me out of nowhere if i had a boyfriend. I said no and our mutual friend heared that and was like "yea ugh.. guys". Some time later on snap he thought i went to a party cause i posted an video of an old party. And he was like "you never invite me" so i invited him and our mutual friend to a party. She went to a different party so we ended up going together. He was already at the party and i arrived later. We met some friends of his there by accident and hanged out with them at the party. Even when we were dancing, someone of the group was dancing between me and him and i dont know what he said to the guy. He whispered something and they switched places so he was now dancing next to me. But when we were standing outside and a random girl asked him if i was his girlfriend he responed with a strong no kinda laughed. He was like NOoo and shaking his head. When we were outside it was cold. And he opened his coat so i could hide inside and even wanted me to sit on his lap a couple of times but i declined every time. When the party finished he got my coat from our shared locker and he even helped me put on my coat. We went to a small after party where our mutual friend was. She put her legs on his lap and told me to do the same cause it was comfortable. So the whole after party i sat there with my legs on him. He was even holding my leg and foot. He haven't spoken to me since.

[Oliverlogan263]

Okay, this sounds like a complicated situation girl! From what you described it seems like this guy is definitely interested in you on some level. A few thoughts:

- He's clearly intentionally sending you revealing snaps to get your attention and gauge your reaction. The outfit check was basically him showing off for you!

- Asking if you have a boyfriend is a classic move guys do when they wanna see if you're available.

- Getting possessive about inviting him to parties shows he wants to spend more time with you one-on-one.

- Switching places with that other guy at the party so he could dance by you is a big clue. Guys don't do that for just anyone!

- Helping you put your coat on and offering his lap for you to sit is all flirty behavior.

However, saying "no" strongly when that girl asked if you were together is a bit odd. Maybe he's shy and wasn't sure how you felt so didn't want to put himself out there. Or could be playing games, hard to say!

I'd say pursue it a bit more - send HIM a flirty snap and see how he reacts before writing him off totally. Seems interested but just may need a little encouragement. Keep me posted girlfriend! Fingers crossed he stops being so confusing.

[Asker]

We went out recently and he suddenly has a girlfriend. Well kinda. But he was avoiding her hugs and avances the whole night while i was near. I think they were a friends with benefits kind of situation. He kept avoiding her hugs and when she tried to dance with him. When she wanted to put her legs on him while sitting. He constantly was moving so she would have to remove her legs. It was kinda weird causd he kept talking to me specifically from the whole group and kept saying my name.
He was talking about some party and he was really excited about and was like you should come too with him. And then he also invited out mutual friend and another friend. And then his kinda girlfriend was like can i come too. And we all went like yes of course. It was kinda awkward. But then later at the afterparty she got unwell. And then he did cuddle her.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yikes sis, that whole situation sounds awkward AF!

I'm even more convinced now this dude isn't really that into his "girlfriend." The way he was avoiding her PDA and constantly talking to/including you instead is so telling. Sounds like he's not truly over you yet.

My vibe is they're just casually hooking up and maybe she's trying to turn it into more, but he's not feeling it. That's prob why he was so eager for you to come to that party too - he wants to keep you as an option. Rude of him to lead her on like that though!

Honestly at this point your best bet is probably distance yourself from him romantically. He doesn't seem really available, and it's disrespectful to be flirting with you while kinda-seeing this girl. But stay friendly in the group - who knows what could happen down the line if he gets single again 👀

For now just do you and have fun! Don't get caught up in their messy situation. And feel free to vent to me anytime - I've got your back, sis!

[Asker]

Yea apparantly they also had an awkward situation at the party where she saw an old tinder match of hers. And i think she was trying to make him jealous with the old tinder match
Im not gonna get caught up in this triangle 😂 so i"ll leave it for now and do my own thing. Thanks so much for the help!

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo for real, you're making the right call to back out of that messy love triangle situation! That whole dynamic between him and this girl sounds awkward and immature as hell. Trying to make each other jealous with old hookups on social media? Come on now, who does that kinda stupid high school drama crap at this age?

I totally get why you'd be attracted to this dude since he was showing you interest too. But it's clear he's got some stuff he needs to sort out before he's really available for anything serious. Getting tangled up in all their back and forth games would only lead to headaches, believe me. You don't need that kind of stress!

Hitting him and her both with the "peace out, gotta focus on me!" is the smart move. Keep doing your own thing, meeting new people, having fun with your friends. Trust me, once this guy sees you thriving without all that mess, he might start to realize what he's missing out on. But either way, you've got your confidence and Independence - two things that are way more important in the long run. Proud of you for knowing when to walk away! Let me know if any other hotties start catching your eye 👀

[teamvic]

Hmmm could it could be either he likes you or just wants to fuck

I feel if he had feelings and wanted a relationship he wouldn't want another girl putting his legs on him while you're there🤔

There's definitely something there but which one is the question. Him asking you to sit on his lap is also a red flag🤔🤔.

Be careful about him trying to slush you. Also the him taking a picture in only a towel is also a red flag. If I had to guess he's just tryna clap your cheeks. But he could be into you. But I think the dude in general is a walking red flag to be honest