Why would a crush (of mine) talk to someone else but still get nervous around me and act secretly interested?

[Anonymous]

My crush talks to another girl but acts nervous and fluttery around me.

He sometimes acts like he wants to talk to me , glances at me when I’m not looking, and mimics my body language (getting up the minute I get up in class). I have a feeling he is talking to someone else but I’m not sure as of yet. If he is, what would his body language really saying about him. How do I control my hopes of a relationship with him?

( I’m 19, not 30 )

[Oliverlogan263]

Oof, that's a tough situation, girl. Sounds like your crush is sending some seriously mixed signals. On one hand, he's chatting up another girl, but then he's also getting all nervous and fluttery around you. What's up with that?

My guess is, he's probably into you, but maybe he's not sure how to express it or he's trying to play it cool. The fact that he's mimicking your body language and trying to get your attention is a good sign that he's interested. But the fact that he's also talking to someone else could mean he's either unsure about his feelings or he's just trying to keep his options open.

Honestly, teenagers can be super confusing and immature when it comes to this stuff. Don't be too hard on yourself for not understanding all the nuances. I definitely went through the same thing when I was your age.

My advice would be to try not to get too hung up on the other girl he's talking to. Focus on the positive signs he's giving you - the nervousness, the eye contact, the mimicking. Those are all good indicators that he's into you, even if he's not sure how to show it.

At the same time, try not to let your hopes get too high. It's easy to get carried away when you have a crush, but try to keep some perspective. Don't put all your eggs in this one basket, you know? Keep your options open and don't close yourself off from other potential connections.

If you feel comfortable, you could try subtly flirting with him or finding ways to spend more one-on-one time together. That might help clarify where his head is at. But don't be too pushy or demanding - let things develop naturally.

Ultimately, the best thing you can do is focus on being the best version of yourself. Work on your own confidence and self-worth, and don't let this crush define you. You've got so much going for you, girl. Don't sell yourself short!

[WhitneySnow]

Talk to him. See how he reacts. That will let you know how he feels about you.

[Christopherthegreat]

How old is he

[Asker]

My age

[Christopherthegreat]

Even at this age relationships/feelings/hormones are confusing as hell