Is objectifying really that bad?

[Anonymous]

I feel like both guys and girls do this all the time

Yes it is bad

No it is normal

[NicholasRedone]

I've been objectified by women with their eyes - usually they were attractive to me however because I don't seek a relationship or even a fling - however I did sense, even for oblivious me, their eyes and I just tried to briefly glance, smile politely, and keep to myself. Hopefully they always got the message that I'm indifferent if they're goggling at me but ladies I'm single

[NicholasRedone]

I voted no it's normal

[Anonymous]

I think on some level it is inevitable. I think it's only really bad when you exploit a person with it. Women will exploit guys for attention when they guy fancies them. And men will exploit a woman physically when the woman fancies him. BOTH are wrong!

I'm no Brad Pitt. But I have more than one opportunity to exploit a woman and did not do so because it is not just about me.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

People doing it doesn’t justify it. You know that right? It’s important that you know that.

[Apple1996]

Yeah it's pretty bad to see someone as a object rather than a human

[Summeroflove]

Depends on your definition of objectifying is but people are human beings it’s not okay to use someone else even if some people allow others to do that it doesn’t mean that everyone will put up with it.

[NicholasRedone]

We're all such a catch 🐟 🪝 😆

[Summeroflove]

@NicholasRedone some are more so then others

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, its not negative at all.

Objectifying is a term used by insecure people to attempt to prevent (unavoidable) natural sexual selection. People are going to choose partners based on sexual attraction, and no amount of social engineering will ever stop that, because attraction is not socially governed, its biologically governed (your specific gene combination predetermines which types of looks you will find attractive or ugly when eventually exposed to them, and no one can ever change that).

Also living objects are still objects, so the word object doesn't even have a negative cannotation, because in reality it doesn't imply similarity to inanimate objects (despite what insecure people want you to think).

I say "people", but really its just insecure women. I've never seen a guy who was insecure sit there and think to himself that "hotness promotion" and is bad, which is why terms like "sexualization" and "objectification" are only thought up by women who don't think they are pretty enough to compete in the dating world (not that its even a competition since dating preferences aren't uniform in society to begin with).

The reason for the gender discrepency, is in large part because men do not usually gold dig for rich women, and we don't usually want strong women, so you can be pretty, or you can be with someone who's not pretty, or you can be alone, because us men do not want to use women as tools.

These women will say thats not fair, but these same women are almost always the ones choosing to date and marry for shallow reasons like money and support and strength, while refusing to stop bashing men's hobbies. They treat men as tools. Meanwhile men usually choose love and lust and mental compatibility, the only 3 things that actually matter in a relationship.

And so you have a society where many people who didn't find their love in highschool are single, because those women who are left want to date for utility, and those men who are left want to date for companionship.

[Anonymous]

It isn’t bad unless you view it as “this means all ____ will say yes to it”. Which is a failure of the individual, not those that watch, read, look, indulge in that objectifying stuff.

Women might like to gaze at the occasional sexy Clavin Klein underwear model or whatever, same with men jerking off to BDSM content which is fine unless they view it personally as that person must allow me to do whatever I want and if they say no, I won’t take no for an answer because that is toxic AF.

Sex is about consent between two consenting adults, if you grab an ass or twist a nipple or forcefully kiss someone without their permission you’ll make them uncomfortable or activate their fight response and fuck your shit up.

Basically, enjoy what you enjoy though acknowledge if you want to do it for real, ask for consent & play things safe.

[FreyaRed]

No under most circumstances.

It's bad if a person doesn't has control over it and objectifying is compulsory for this person. It's not different to others socially damned negative things like seeing colors or preferring specific body heights.

[Cormac995]

It's normal to a degree. Obviously, there are unhealthy levels of it. Take for example Baulders Gate 3. Very saucy and "after dark" with a lot of it's themes but it's a fun game a good experience and the models are nice to look at. Then you find out there is a game called "Sex with Hitler" and you realize the line needs to be drawn somewhere between the two.

[Anonymous]

I never understood the whole "objectifying' things. I can think woman has a nice ass and still think she's a human being with thoughts and feelings.

[Asker]

Exactly how I feel

[Manwomanmythmale]

@OP

It can put unrealistic expectations on someone. Women might be a little harder to understand because you're a male, so I'll give you a male example. "You need to hit the G spot," "oh you cum too early" "you're dick is too small" "You need to man up," "You got to make her cum" "Oh no you couldn't get it up" "he needs to see a doctor to get a blue pill"

See how it puts all that pressure on the male to perform without any expectation for the woman to do anything back. It is expected for men to be super hard 24/7 all he needs is for her to lay their with her legs open and he should be able to get the job without any issue or else he needs to see doctor and there is something wrong with him he shouldn't need anything else but a hole. His dick should not cum early or there is a problem with it. And then this cause the male to feel anxiety about himself look at how many ridulous dick size questions you see on this website.

Samething with the women. Both men and womem are human and they are going to have limitations and won't be able to meet expectations all the time or develop mental issue from it.

[NicholasRedone]

And being a male on the receiving end of a woman's eye glares/stares unblinking it's like " is she thinking I'm food or she's happy to see me unhappy to see me* lol 😆 "and I've never seen them before"

[NicholasRedone]

Happened a few times in my 20s to various women and I wonder what the hell are their eyeballs seeing in me :)

[ChicoFromThe305]

Depends on the intentions, some do it joking around or to each other in a relationship but they aren't really objectifying if they are in a relationship but I guess it depends what you mean tho

[WhitneySnow]

It’s bad if the person being objectified has a problem with that. Most guys don’t (at least a lot less than girls do), but some do.

[sawno]

Depends on who is on the receiving end, many guys like it so do some girls.

[Sonorous]

Only if it causes someone to treat someone else in a way that disregards their human rights.

[elizamichale1]

It is bad of course but it has become normal

[red324]

No, I wish a girl would walk up and tell me what a sexy beast I am in the middle of Walmart and take me home.

[Jeff51]

It would be the same if a female model was modeling for men. I say yes.

[ItzTaylor5]

Public, yes. Behind closed doors, no.

[beefcakebradybatson]

No unless you're creeping out a woman.

[PaleDale]

A lot of people do it to some degree I think

[Chargirllll]

It's normal