People who are eye Candy what’s the pros and cons do you experience pretty/handsome privilege?

[Summeroflove]

Many people experience pretty/handsome privilege. At the same time you get people you don’t want flirting with you making you uncomfortable as well as not respecting boundaries when you’re taken. At the same time some people are also assholes to attractive people

[lilBigPotato]

Pros: lots of people help, more friendly, you can get free stuff sometimes etc. So a bit easier life here and there

Cons: you get reduced a lot to your looks, people some you achieved something just because you look good, you get a lot of unwanted attention or creeps or just anything horny guys

[Summeroflove]

Yeah I agree with that a hundred percent. Also quality over quantity. People get jealous over people who gets TONS of attention from the opposite sex whether that’s women or men.

Truth is those who have lots of people throwing themselves at them have to sift through a lot of sand to find the gold nuggets.

[Summeroflove]

Many people want someone for appearances or social status. Financial reasons the list goes on.

The unwanted attention too. Because a lot of the times the people who just won’t stop are people who aren’t the type you want bothering you. Many attractive people don’t need to act that way because they’re either with someone or could get someone easily if they got that desperate.

[Nikki1989]

All the obvious bonuses, free drinks, meals, taxi rides, free passes for traffic violations, those kinds of things.

[ShellyB]

I think everybody has their own factors so it is hard for me to compare myself to an “average person” bc nobody is really average, but trying to go with it and not overthink. Most people smile at me, do most people smile at you? Some of my friends say that is not their experience. Even people they tell me are unfriendly are usually friendly to me. There are exceptions.

I have been stopped by police 3 times and have never gotten a ticket, but I can’t prove the reason for that, I kind of suspect the reason but I am not sure.

I get free stuff a lot, like free drinks and even free food at bars, I used to get free food most days in college like, guys would let me mooch off their food just because I was walking by and I said hi to them.

Teachers and professors were mostly nice to me and tried to help me. I also deliberately flirted with some when I thought that might help and, I think it did help.

My coworkers all treat me like their niece and want to help me and protect me.

However, I often feel like people think they know me based on surface level things when they really do not. And, I don’t think I am a genius or anything, but I also think people tend to assume I am dumber than I really am. Also, sometimes other girls or women will act cold toward me and I usually don’t know why, sometimes I suspect they caught their guy checking me out or something like that and other times I really have no idea.

And the big negative that is awkward to talk about, I have been sexually mistreated a couple of times and I think that is more likely to happen with girls who look a certain way, actually any girl you consider sexy who is older than 16, I bet she has been groped at least once maybe more than that. That is maybe kind of a dark thought but, I think it is true.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

Did you ever try modelling or anything like that?

[Summeroflove]

You know there’s two sides to this. I’ve definitely had my ups and downs when it comes to looks. You can TELL a difference. I’ve never been fugly but I’ve let myself go and had “glow” ups. Really being attractive depends on the effort you put into yourself.

I can say from what I noticed when someone’s below a 5 people will be visibly annoyed even disgusted at your presence. I will admit to getting free stuff before even if I can’t “prove” it. If the gas station attendant for instance smiles at me a lot and talks to me a lot. And just let’s me go with free drinks and shit all the time. But doesn’t really do that for everyone

[Summeroflove]

But people also make a lot of assumptions about good looking people and are disappointed sometimes. Because they really expect a lot of things out of someone.

Most really good looking people are either honestly pretty normal one could say and on the other extreme they are extremely vain and narcissistic they look good because that’s all they care about is looking good.

People do need to be careful because most
The people who are not goingto know boundaries are NOT the people you would want grouping you or catcalling you. Not saying good looking people can’t be weird and bad people. But a lot of times it’s those who can’t easily get someone who do this type of stuff.

[Summeroflove]

But the really other extreme to be completely honest is that. Some people are complete assholes to good looking people as well. Maybe they’re jealous I don’t know… But I’ve noticed some people have been extremely rude to me for no reason as well.

Dudes like puff up and act douchy around me (more often when their woman’s around) or they’re extremely nice and almost trying to follow you around maybe to make themselves appear more attractive being around someone who looks good.

I don’t like bragging about my looks. Because honestly I don’t alwHs look that good. When you’re more average such as you don’t spend a lot of time fixing yourself up you’ll be able to tell you’re more invisible. You can sort of go incognito so to speak. From turning heads to just being another human.

Really if you don’t fix your hair and makeup or spray good smelling perfume on yourself… You will be able to visibly see people treat you differently. No matter what your personality is.

I’ve learned to judge people from meeting them and seeing their demeanor. More so then basically how they look. Sure you can factor things in such as their style and how they carry themselves. But you get the point.

[Summeroflove]

At the same time it’s not all about being sexy either. There are let’s say very respectable looking people who are older. Have their hair fixed nicely and have very nice looking clothes. A older man or older woman.

You will definitely see people treat them a certain way as well.

[ShellyB]

@NotLongKindaGirthy Nothing major, like nothing I would call professional, I had a friend in college who got me to be his model for some photography projects, it was clothed, he paid me with sushi. One of my mom’s brothers had me pose as the secretary or something like that (girl answering phone, and girl handing out folders and smiling in a meeting) for his company for a brochure. He did pay me but, that was my uncle it is not like I had an agent or whatever. And in less official stuff I am usually the one who stands in front of the thing or holds the thing for pictures where somebody wants to show whatever I am standing in front of or holding but they need somebody in the picture for some reason.

[ShellyB]

I don’t get groped much if ever now since I work in an office with the same people and live with my fiance, just my lifestyle isn’t the right one for that stuff to happen now (which is good), well I guess my fiance gropes me a lot but that is different. Anyway when it did happen, sometimes it was actually good looking guys though ones I didn’t like (personality) and sometimes it was guys who most would not consider attractive. And sometimes I didn’t know who it was bc it was a butt grab in a crowded situation like a dance floor or club.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah you have to be careful in places like bars and clubs. Unfortunately some women allow men to touch them unsolicited therefore they think they can get away with it with any woman….

[OneViewpoint]

The upsides

• A lot of men, even men my own age or older address me as sir. Uncomfortable. Feels like some class distinction. Not who I am. But they are trying to be respectful.
• I get hit on by a lot of women. Mostly hotter women. This past Friday 4 tried. The compliments can be pretty unusual / funny sometimes. It's like they're really nervous and don't know what to say.
• Female bartenders are very attentive and sometimes comp me drinks.
• Women buy me drinks or once in a while pick up my entire tab.
• People male and female do make positive assumptions based on looks. About intelligence, wealth, career, etc.

The downsides

• I've had drunk and sober husbands and boyfriends try to pick fights because their wife or girlfriend was paying too much attention to me. Until my friends tell them who they are about to step outside with. Almost always ends it.
• I've had the women arguing with their husband or boyfriend over me. Mind you, I almost always try to shut these women down with one word answers and not asking questions in return. I usually just get up and leave.
• I've had a married woman absolutely drag her husband across a crowded room because (her words), she just had to meet me. Felt bad for her husband while she was rubbing her tits all over my shoulder and chest. Black deep V dress with no bra. Tried to turn away from her and towards him to include him and block her.
• Some women get angry when I ignore their attempts to flirt. Like irrationally angry.
• Groups of women insist I join their group for the evening. Complete strangers. No idea what that's about. But they want me standing with them. Like I'm not allowed to leave. That doesn't work for me.
• I end up being the photographer for birthday groups of 12 women. Like repeatedly being asked to take photos several times during an evening. That's the ice breaker. Then they try to chat me up. Very nice but sometimes I just want some quiet time.
• My friend's girlfriends hit on me or try to date me after they break up. Nope!

[Summeroflove]

That’s the issue too. You’ll notice that a lot of people will be assholes to you as well.

It can be uncomfortable when older women or women who aren’t attractive to yoi flirt with you. It’s even worse when they’re married women or when their man is standing right next to them.

[Summeroflove]

Another downside is that sometimes less attractive women will straight up be bitches to you. Because they don’t feel like they have a chance with you so they sort of reject you before you can reject them.

I also know for a fact a woman who would cheat with me would cheat ON me….

[Summeroflove]

Work situations especially in public facing jobs can be pretty awkward as well. Things I used to think of as innocent I later found our weren’t.

Such as working at grocery stores and women would complain about their husbands to me. Typically ended up being a way of flirting.

And yes you can definitely get comped drinks or comped deserts. I never ask directly but something as simple as asking her favorite desert and then saying “we’ll probably not today but I’ll keep it in mind next time” a lot of times she’ll just bring it lol

[Summeroflove]

I’m sure it’s not just sit either. It’s boss man, big guy, chief, dawg.

Getting called baby or honey by every waitress over the age of 45.

[Summeroflove]

Very good answer would give MHO if I didn’t pick them already. One of the biggest things was the random conversations that sometimes are awkward.

Maybe random teasing or just somehow talking to someone and sooner or later you been talking a long time. Not just be women either. People will just find you to talk to including old people. They will stand around and tell you their entire life’s story.

But I notice other people. When I tell them things that happen they simply don’t believe me. I do notice people who are unattractive people go out of their way to avoid them.

I can definitely tell a difference sometikes. I’m the way someone will talk to others verses how they talk to me. Most the time their voice changes they may be confident to someone else and to me talk quieter or maybe in some cases show out more. Depending on the personality.

Other people can be straight up assholes. Men and women…. Men you never did anything to will see you as a threat including around their girls. It’s super awkward when a girls walking with her husband being all sweet and then get that over the shoulder look that’s like a smile and a wink. Like girl…. You’re married

[OneViewpoint]

"But I notice other people. When I tell them things that happen they simply don’t believe me."

On that point. This is hilarious to me. My friends all have girlfriends / relationships. My buddy's love recounting the stories of women trying to flirt with me when we're out together. Some of the women weren't buying it. Like, "oh yeah, sure right, you guys are so full of shit". Especially the stuff about married women constantly openly flirting. So they decided to just show up at our boys night out once to see for themselves. Now they show up all the time to watch the circus. And they've admitted it's pretty bizarre. They actually get off interacting with the women trying to chat me up. And I don't mind them fucking with the other women because they can actually be useful as a wall if I just want it to stop.

[Summeroflove]

I have a hard time trusting friends who cheat with or on people. You imagine they do it to someone they love they will stab you in the back first chance they get

[Summeroflove]

But I get it. Things definitely change from times where I’ve let myself go to when I got my self back in shape. You can tell a difference in how people treat you and react to your presence

[Summeroflove]

It’s not all the time either. But I would say it happens more then it does to most other people. A lot of things are things I used to think are friendly until I started learning about psychology and human behavior. That I realized there is more to it.

It’s nice. To get a free dessert sometimes or a free beer maybe. Having things comped I never want to directly ask for it but when it happens I’m appreciative.

[Summeroflove]

Being able to walk out of gas stations with drinks is a perk lol. But a lot of people simply won’t believe you.

The most awkward thing is the married women though or women with boyfriends you’re right. As well as married and girls with boyfriends complaining about their significant other ALL the time.

[OneViewpoint]

There's one waitress at a Tavern I go to. She's latched onto me I think because I'm the only guy NOT hitting on her. She's got that "je ne sais quoi". Anyway they have a great happy hour. I go there solo a lot for happy hour and a bite to eat then go somewhere else and come back for a nightcap at the end of the night. It's almost always a glass of Courvoisier XO Cognac that I'll slow sip for an hour. After I did that a few times, she'd notice me walk in at 10PM and just reach for the bottle of Cognac. It's always on the house. I told her she didn't need to comp me the drink. I was worried she was paying for it. She actually got angry with me. I was worried I'd insulted her. So now I just accept the drink graciously and thank her and we spend an hour talking at the quiet time before closing.

[Texaskid1]

I am 48 years old. I am no Brad Pitt but I do workout and I will get a certain amount of attention from women (although it depends on how I dress). The pros are that it can get you some looks and some sometimes some free stuff ( nothing major though). For a few years I used to like the attention because it was a stroke to my ego but after a while it gets old because:

- the women I really wanted were always spoken for.

- the ones chasing me were ones that I was not attracted to at all

with this I eventually realized that no amount of vapid attention from women was ever going to bring me any particular satisfaction. Also, I actually like smart women that can carry on a conversation with complete sentences. The area of Texas that I live in is Jerry Springer central. Most women that I encounter are vapid and I lose interest pretty quickly. Also, it would get me a lot of attention from weird women (attractive women don't really approach guys). Now I just dress in baggy cloths and I get less attention. And this suits me fine.

[thatgirl2000]

(It's interesting, because I first want to mention I was in really good shape, and feeling confident. Now, I am 40 lbs over weight and way less confident.) when I was in good shape, I would get endless attention. A few cons, the guys I wasn't interested in, thinking me rejecting them meant try harder. Also, unfortunately, women were more likely to be standoffish and guarded around me even though I am always really bubbly and polite and friendly. Pros, was people would just let me in front of them in line a lot more. I would have people randomly pay for stuff for me if I was short at the store, one time and employee bought my whole order of food when I came and picked it up, like 80 bucks. Another pro, just feeling good about myself and in my skin. a lot more opportunities also.

[WonderingManII]

I think for women it makes finding a date easier.

[biraileeşkadını]

The eyes are the mirror of the heart.

[Anonymous]

They have mostly pros, and only a few cons.