How do I flirt with the guy I like?

[MissSunshine2]

I am Autistic and I struggle to know how to flirt. My way of acting interested is in doing nice things for people, favours which they don’t notice and complimenting them on their nice clothes, which I do with my friends, too.

The problem is that I am generally a friendly person who makes friends easily. With everyone. I think I’m better at being the wholesome, innocent girl next door type and all around Nice Girl than having an awareness of how to flirt or act romantically or sexually interested in a man without telling him directly, which scares men off. Then after I give up, those that are at all interested start chasing me. Chasing me really hard. Some of them. After the initial shock wears off that I’m interested.

I don’t want to come across as a skanky hoe though with my flirting or body language. The one I’m into (also autistic, but less emotionally innocent); has started chasing me, one of my best friends said. By turning up more frequently at social events that matter to me and staring at me a lot, all of a sudden acting less like a brother figure. I suck at flirting. I don’t know the first thing about it.

[WonderingManII]

I don't understand why people make this stuff such a game? I think is best to become friends with the guy you like. Just start talking to him, and see where things go.

[MissSunshine2]

Thanks, that’s very helpful 😊

[stratford]

Flash your boobs at him. Just joking obviously.

Be yourself, be friendly, and work your way into it slow - if he feels the same it will just naturally happen.

[MissSunshine2]

So I leave all the future first moves up to him?

[stratford]

No, you should both make first moves, but think of them more as 'micro first moves'. Not huge leaps.

[MissSunshine2]

What sorts of first moves should I be making with him?

[stratford]

Touch his forearm with your fingers and look into his eyes while you talk to him.
When you hug him, mould your body to his, let him feel your breasts and mons pubis pushing against him.
Laugh at his jokes, play with your hair.
He will soon get the message and his animal brain will kick into gear.

[FunkyMonkee]

What makes you autistic? From my understanding of the term, it means you're COMPLETELY anti-social, you keep to yourself, you don't speak, if someone even tries to touch you, you have a fit!! Yet, here you are on a social site conversing with total strangers and asking how to meet more.
Sounds to my like autism, today, is just the cool new fad and the latest thing to try to be! Like they should hand out awards for it.
I just found out I'm autistic!
Hey! Great!! Congratulations!!! Glad you were able to make the cut with the rest of us!!

Anyway, a girl i went to college with would, with a big, cute smile on her face, just walk up to a guy she knows and likes and say, "Hey! What-cha doin'?" He'd tell her and she'd say something like, "I'm going to walk over to such and such for this and that, would you like to come with me?" By the time they come back an hour later, they're married and have 7 kids.

[MissSunshine2]

Not all autistic people are completely disabled. There are mild cases that were once called Asperger’s Syndrome.

[jahaims]

Be more direct