Guys: how do you deal with a last minute resistance fail?

[Anonymous]

So guy's...a girl's pretty much all over you for a night--maybe you've escalated and done stuff before--maybe you just met her (in my case, done stuff before). However you've haven't sealed the deal. Now you like this girl and the night she's all over you and you get her back to your place/room and its hot and heavy--BLAM--she hits you with a LMR excuse (on my period, have to go to church in the morning, parent's will get mad, blah blah) and LEAVES. Now you tried to make her stay, NOT BEGGED, but tried--to no avail.

Fellas, how do you proceed? Would you freeze her out? Would you try to call and escalate? Build Rapport? Make her more comfortable? NEXT HER? Feel free to share experiences, comment w/e. I'm down to discuss.

[hanskis]

I think you need to realize that most girls have a million thoughts running through their head every second, and it can be pretty hard deciding the right thing to do. For girls, sex is more complicated than a lot of guys make it out to be, and even though she wants it, she has reasons not to have sex with you running through her head.

For example, I realllly like this guy, and of course I really want to have sex with him too.. but I want his respect first and want to know how he really feels before I proceed.

Your girl might have reasons that are nothing like mine, but nonetheless she has reasons.

I agree, that it is pretty mean, getting a guy horny and then not going through with it, but I think you have to be understanding. Try building a friendship and making her more comfortable around you, take things a bit slower.

PS, I'm not surprised girlsareconfusing finds girls confusing, because he has no idea about girls. Of course we're not going to fu*k you in a club.

[Asker]

I hear you. From my experience, girls lose interest/play games with guys who try and show genuine sexual respect/interest after LMR --which is MEAN but in the end, is how a lot of girls are wired. A lot of guys will agree--its what breeds douchbags who're quick to NEXT.

In your case, he probably does respect you (friends right?), but has those POWERFUL urges. I'd hope you aren't just manipulating it because you've "got" him. That's where I (and he) probably don't wanna f*** up yknow? a guy's POV.

[hanskis]

I guess, some girls do kinda take advantage of situations like that.. thinking they've got the upper hand and play around. but I still think you should continue to talk to her, it doesn't have to be serious and you don't have to text her everyday.. just be casual and friendly. It's not going to make you look stupid.

[hanskis]

and yeh I get that guys have urges, which is why I feel so guilty getting them horny if I'm not going to have sex with them. I always give him, and other guys, bjs in that case just cos its like common courtesy (I don't know if that sounds stupid but yeh). I don’t feel like I've “got him” but I don’t want him to think I'm leading him on, I just need to discuss it before I have sex with him, I just don’t know how to bring up that convo though.

[jujubeetzzz]

well if she's just getting to know you and she gets home with you and realizes that's what you want, or she realizes she doesn't want to because she doesn't know you that well, f***ing good for her. you don't need to be a douche and freeze her out just because she doesn't act like a slut. its not really an excuse because she's not f***ing obligated to have sex with you, its not like she's irking responsibility by not having sex with you, even if you feel led on by it. its called masturbate when she leaves and call her tomorrow. its not that big of a f***ing deal.

[Yeahhbro]

I f***ing hate when that happens, I get really pissed and don't call her again. If she comes and apologize then I would change if not. I wouldn't talk to her teasing, **** blocking ass. I remember that happened to a girl, we were dancing, we kissed and what not, I told her to come to the corner of the club (it was dark, no body could see us), I started to kiss her and putting my hands in between her legs and then she comes with "i am not feeling it", I was like ohh f*** now. Yeah I don't talk to her now.

If a girl puts one like that on you like that, don't talk to her, it is quiet disrespectful to do that. Het somebody horny like that to drop them on the spot.

[Asker]

I like this answer since it offers some advice and not merely a lecture to jack off. The girl's answer is true--I don't obligate a girl to sex. But this ain't some nice girl that loves to take it slow--she basically teased me. She ain't gonna apologize, but she WILL reinitiate--my question is how to handle it like a man who likes a girl but ain't some chump.

[Asker]

One more thing, You're advice is pretty spot on--especially for club chics/one night stands--girls that tease, grab your d*** and sh*t, tell you they want it deserve to be ignored/frozen out--because after you blow em off they usually start(in this case too) start trying with you more. I never know of its because they like you or because they want to play games. In my exp, it's usually the latter. W/e girls ARE confusing