Guy only wants to meet me at night time?

[pingiluv]

So I met this guy online and before you call me provocative or easy. I’ll let you know I haven’t met him in person. He follows my IG and I don’t post revealing photos or anything of that sort. I don’t dress slutty nor I am overly flirtatious. I’m pretty boring and hate going out so I’m not a wild child either. I don’t flirt with him either.

Well for my question: he works from 3pm-12 am but is usually off at 11:00pm but he always contacts me after work wanting to meet up but for me I work days and I am about 4 years older than him. I’m 33 he’s 29 or 30. But to me it’s odd that he always wants to do last minute plans and he wants to meet up so late. He doesn’t contact me during the day mostly contacts me at night after 11pm. He tells me he goes to the gym after work so I don't know. Like I said I’m not provocative or dress slutty or insinuate being easy so what’s his deal? Does he have someone else and that’s why he doesn’t message me around “Normal human” hours?

I’ve told him I’m too old for sporadic meet-ups lol but he doesn’t understand that. Should I just start ignoring him? I also told him I like at least a days time to plan getting together because we haven’t even met. Been messaging about 1.5 months now and still haven’t met.

[rholcer]

Maybe not someone else, but he may see you as easy. The natural mind begins to shut down after 8 pm and by the time it's midnight, good judgement begins to diminish due to lack of blood flow in the brain, the prefrontal cortex slows down. With that said it may be his belief that you are easy to manipulate late at night. Going the other way he may actually onlynhavr that small window to meet up. Maybe try to see if he is up for a late night meet up in a public place, get some coffee and have a chat, do this one or two times to see what his intentions Are?

[pingiluv]

Yeah I’m too old to want to be out so late 🤣

[rholcer]

Lol right, I totally agree. There so many more fun things than to go out late and stay up just to go to work tired

[eagle1951]

that kind of brings up a RED Flag also makes me wonder if he has someone else in the day time or even a girlfriend or wife

[pingiluv]

Yeah that’s what I was thinking too

[eagle1951]

stay on your toes on this one for sure

[pingiluv]

Thanks so much!

[Robsinsf53]

You've never met yet, I'm probably overreacting but, you're considering meeting him after dark? I don't like talking like a nervous father because I'm not and I've been that already. I wouldn't recommend you meet anyone at that time for the first time. I would never ask a woman to meet me at that time because I want her to be comfortable. I've gone as far as insisting she bring along her best friend and her boyfriend at the place of her choice. The way I see it, the more she feels safe the better the date goes. Not to sound like your over- bearing father, but do consider meeting at normal hours at a busy spot with your bff.

[kentlevi]

Two red flags. 1) there's this thing called lunch or breakfast coffee. He should learn about them. 2) haven't met in over 6 weeks so far? Something is up with him. He sounds like a boy child. My suggestion is to say something like "I'd like to meet up for lunch or coffee during the day. That's my only offer. Otherwise I'm ending this."

[FemWorship]

He's self centered so you always have to meet his time schedule & desires, he'll never respond to your needs or conveniences so it matters not how you look if he can troll a sexual fish or two for after work naked time with a gal (s)

[PeaceAndLoveAndTrust]

Of course you should meet where and when you a comfortable, if he can only write in the night OK, but meeting should be done first somewhere safe: outside in public

[Reddwolf]

He probably sleeps during the day or is very busy don't waste your time

[JayLiche]

He wants to give you a beating lol

[theFantasticJ]

It's a trap!

[theFantasticJ]

I thought you already had a kid so we are you even doing this

[Maxson]

Obviously a vampire