Shy guy teases me yet confuses me. Shy guys please help?

[Anonymous]

He flirts and teases me because he is comfortable with me but nothing else. And I mean TEASE. He jokes with other girls he knows but it always feels like he has to comment on something I do or say and tease me about it. AND yes, he actually IS really shy!

I notice that he gets jealous if I talk to other people, especially guys. The other night I decided to flirt with a guy next to him. He was all quiet, sad, and kept staring down at his phone. Well, while I was TRYING to get a reaction out of him, he did something crazy unusual! He saw this random pretty girl and walked up to her and introduced himself and tried to talk to her. He would NEVER EVER do that! He's wayyyy too shy! Was he trying to show me that he could do it too? That he was trying to get ME jealous? Heck, all I wanted him to do was to take my attention away, you know, fight for me. He's so insecure. I was utterly shocked when he went to go talk to the girl and then proceed to glance at me. Is that what he was trying to do? How the heck do I tell if he just likes to be "safe' and like me and nothing more? He'll hang out with other girls as friends but turns beet red if I even suggest anything. Last time he told me he was just going to stop by my house and when I smiled - he quickly said w/o laughing...and run away. (then he started laughing) Does he hate me? Not like me? So confused.

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It really hurt to find out that he hung out with this one girl that throws herself at him. I'm worried that he likes her. He's really nice to her and stuff so I don't know. Yet when it comes to me - it's just tease tease tease!

[MOZZY10]

If you were to ignore him or find another guy, he'll probably pass out from jealosy and regret, He's acting pretty strange if you ask me, But don't worry girl, in the end if you want this bloke, you just about have him. If you decide to dump him and ultimately destroy him, you can do that too. Play it wisely and you'll see him become as obedient as a child.

[Asker]

but I don't know what to do!

[MOZZY10]

If you show him that his words and actions don't affect you, then he'll realize how useless it is and he'll stop his childish ways. Since he's a shy finny, it should be pretty easy to make him buckle and put him in his place. Respond with sharp words to him like, 'don't you think your acting childish', or scare him, 'tell me is this behavior going to continue, I need to know?'. Don't be intimidated, believe me he's more intimidated from you and knows that you won't be patient with him forever.

[Asker]

I use to do that and he'd get really quiet and freak out. Now I try and go along w it and he loves it. I just can't tell if he likes me or just gets a kick out of teasing me.

[NerdInDenial]

He probably likes you. You should confront him about it. I think he's just trying to play hard to get.

[Asker]

hard to get? even for a shy guy? but what about him hanging around other girls? :(

[JacobH]

He saw you trying to make him jealous, he tried to make you jealous by going to another girl. Odds are he likes you.

[Asker]

I'm still shocked he did that! Normally he'll just look at them from afar. That or try and make me jealous by saying they're hot. But to actually GO and TALK to them? Introduce himself?! WTF! Wow. For a second there I thought he was just really into her and proving to me that he doesn't like me and thus decided to go flirt with her.

[JacobH]

I've liked a girl a lot but I got so jealous because it was obvious she was flirting with her that I just tried to make her jealous and want me...Pretty stupid thinking but, yeah :/ that's what I think happened anyways

[Asker]

Well the girl ended up rejecting him a little and he came wandering back. I gave him lots of attention anyway. I was still talking to other people and I kept noticing him watching , peeking a little along w his phone. I started to flirt w him to make sure he was included.

[Anonymous]

He likes you and is timid. Inside he's pretty meek. It might be cute now, but it won't be after a while after you've been dating.

[Asker]

I'm curious, why do you think he's meek?

[Opinion Owner]

"he's so insecure" and he's shy = meekness

[Asker]

So teasing me is safe then? That's the only way he shows me that he likes me? Is that why you think he likes me? That or sometimes I catch him just looking at me. When I look at h, we just sit there staring. I wish I knew what to do.