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Debating my "FWB" situation ... Do I speak up or just walk away?

Met him almost 5mos ago through my bro-n-law, started talking, hung out a couple weeks later & its been physical ever since. I've been open, telling him I like him, wanna get to know him better & he gave me his busy schedule excuse about 2mos into it. We continued to talk & be physical w/him initiating all contact. He told me he's an ahole, doesn't wanna hurt me, knows I deserve better ... YET, still showing he wants to be with me. We never "agreed" on a friends with benefits relationship ... So, now I'm in this situation. Obviously my feelings are involved, still want more & deserve it & he knows this, but still isn't taking it to another level. We Haven't had a talk about relationships/feelings since middle of Nov., but we've been w/each other after. Now we Haven't spoken in about 10days, which really hurts me. We didn't argue, last time he left my house after an amazing time he kissed & said "bye sweetie!". He still hangs out where my bro-n-law bar tends & I don't know what to do. Do I speak up for myself, let him know the way he's treating me (not calling) hurts OR do I just let him go & walk away? Should I give ultimatum?

I'm torn on how to approach him w/it all ... Being that its been over 10days since we last communicated, via text. I mean is this him telling me something here? I don't want him to think this is okay though! At this point just not sure how to word it ... ?

Please don't judge ... I want honest "going fwd" advice ... Thank you :)
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Thank you all first,for not judging while I was seeking advice in this matter and second,for being brutally honest with your opinions, advice & insights! I've decided not to do anything until after holidays. Whether he decides to contact or not I will be expressing my feelings about this, so I can have closure & walk away with my dignity. If it was one night stand then I'd be ina different mindset, but after 5mos, meeting my son, knowing my sis & bro-n-law...Can't just walk away w/out speaking up!
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Welp ... This Friday it'll be 1month since we last spoke & I'm not heearing great things about him from my bro-n-law & his co-worker. No reason for him to be disrespectful ... Just an immatture ass I guess! I never said anything to him by the way, my sis wanted me to put him in his place, but I'm thinking silence will say more ... If anything, but obviously he doesn't care... My lesson learned for sure...
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Update: After almost 6weeks of no contact HE decided to text twice last night or should I say earlier this morning. At 12:15am "Whats up" & at 1am "Sweetie". Really ... Really ... Serious? Any & all opinions are welcomed ... ;)
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Does this make him a decent guy or still a douche trying to get some ... "Hi (my name), hope everything is well for you... Have a good one". He just sent this yesterdy around 2:30pm ... Wth?

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Well after he sent that random "fishing" text, he text Superbowl Sunday & asked to see me. He was pretty persistent & we actually talked more, about my pix, mine & his past and our kids. I celebrated my birthday at a local place, he ended up joining my friends & I. Stayed getting along great with everyone, my sis took pix of us ... Seemed like a authentic time! I don't know ... Is it just gonna go on like this, on & off ... ?
Debating my "FWB" situation ... Do I speak up or just walk away?
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