So I was texting a girl the other day, and during the conversation she asked if I was still painting. I was an art major and actually did a painting for this girl like 5 months ago. She likes creative stuff, so she asked. I told her I hadn't really because I'd been busy with other things. She told me I needed to make sure I did because I was a too good not to. I responded to her saying that I am OK, and that I have my moments. Basically shrugging off the compliment. She then told me to stop being modest and that I am very talented.
This is where my question comes in. Then she said "you should be glad you have a talent that you get complimented on. I don't have any." The conversation went on after I tried to make her feel better without being sappy. But my question is in regards to her fishing for a compliment. Was she wanting me to compliment her? If so, why would she seek that validation from me?
Just a little history between the girl and I. We knew each other prior had a short summer fling before she moved several states away. We stayed in touch after the move for the next 3 months before I made a visit. During the visit the feelings were still there. We acted like a couple. But she said she didn't want to do distance. I didn't pressure her and stayed in contact. She was supposed to be home for Thanksgiving and see me. She didn't see me though. This lead into a conversation about what we were doing and she said we were just friends, and had told me she wouldn't do distance. After that we didn't contact one another for 3 weeks until I got a x-mas card from her. In it it said "no we've been quiet but you've been on my mind." I sent a brief card back. But heard nothing. So a few weeks later I called. This was 2 weeks ago. It was weirdly normal between us. We talked for 30 min. The next day she texted me. Now we are starting to text and email again. The situation about the compliments happened a couple nights ago during a long texting conversation her and I were having. I guess I'm trying to figure out what she is doing. I mean we can't really do anything but talk since she's there and I'm here but I don't want to be some second option self esteem boost. I don't think the girl is deceitful or ill-willed but its confusing.
This is where my question comes in. Then she said "you should be glad you have a talent that you get complimented on. I don't have any." The conversation went on after I tried to make her feel better without being sappy. But my question is in regards to her fishing for a compliment. Was she wanting me to compliment her? If so, why would she seek that validation from me?
Just a little history between the girl and I. We knew each other prior had a short summer fling before she moved several states away. We stayed in touch after the move for the next 3 months before I made a visit. During the visit the feelings were still there. We acted like a couple. But she said she didn't want to do distance. I didn't pressure her and stayed in contact. She was supposed to be home for Thanksgiving and see me. She didn't see me though. This lead into a conversation about what we were doing and she said we were just friends, and had told me she wouldn't do distance. After that we didn't contact one another for 3 weeks until I got a x-mas card from her. In it it said "no we've been quiet but you've been on my mind." I sent a brief card back. But heard nothing. So a few weeks later I called. This was 2 weeks ago. It was weirdly normal between us. We talked for 30 min. The next day she texted me. Now we are starting to text and email again. The situation about the compliments happened a couple nights ago during a long texting conversation her and I were having. I guess I'm trying to figure out what she is doing. I mean we can't really do anything but talk since she's there and I'm here but I don't want to be some second option self esteem boost. I don't think the girl is deceitful or ill-willed but its confusing.
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