Does he miss the attention I gave him? But he never reciprocated stuff?

[Anonymous]

So I had this crush who I used to text all the time and ask to hang out but he would always be busy or would not talk to me much so I did not feel he was reciprocating the friendship. So for this term I decided to do less...like text to him less and invite him to watch a movie and stuff less...and now he is my ex-crush for certain reasons and now he has a girlfriend...but all of a sudden he does things here and there to get my attention...what..does he miss the attention I gave him? But he never reciprocated stuff? What the heck is going on? He has a girlfriend now so I don't understand why he keeps on bothering me? Why do guys act like this?

[rocksongwriter]

"...and now he is my ex-crush"

I think that's the first time that I've ever heard the term "ex-crush". Do you refer to him as your "ex"?

YOU: "He's my ex."

FRIEND: You dated him?!"

YOU: "No, he's my ex-crush, I mean."

"but all of a sudden he does things here and there to get my attention"

Like what?

[Asker]

Well..I just meant that last term I was crushing on him really hard..but then he started acting weird and I realized some things he did that showed he wasn't all that great...so now for this term I am not crushing on him anymore...how else would I describe it? lol? I mean it's obvious what ex-crush means isn't it?..ha ha...anyway he happens to have a girlfriend now (which because I am not crushing on him anymore..doesn't really bother me). Well when I'm leaving for class he'll hurry to get...

[Asker]

...close to me (except for twice)..not right next to me..but around me. And then he'll always be chatting with friends right by me and stuff. And the other day he went out of his way to say "hi girl, what's up?" (he's never done this). Or this one time I was chatting with one of my friends..and he was walking and then I guess when I was spotted...he decided to run past me...I don't know. It's subtle things that he never really did before. lol.

[rocksongwriter]

"And then he'll always be chatting with friends right by me and stuff."

that probably doesn't count. I mean, unless he's positioning his friends to be near you...

[Asker]

Alright. Well. Why do guys act like this. Or rather let's be generic here...why would a guy who didn't seem as interested in your company...be all interested when you have stopped talking to him as much?

[rocksongwriter]

He doesn't want to lose you as a friend?

[rocksongwriter]

That's my guess.

[Asker]

Well..he had a weird way of showing his friendship before. Ah well...I'll just let it go. If he wants to be my friend then he gets to work for it...*rolls eyes*...I figured he wasn't really interested in being my friend...I mean what kind of friend is always busy or declines or just does not show up when you ask the friend if they want to hang out...I mean isn't that what friends do: they hang out? Lol. Whatevs...it's just confusing. I'll just be neutral with him. Thanks. :)

[rocksongwriter]

Maybe he's realizing the error of his ways.

This whole thing sounds like it could be the plot of a romantic comedy film.

[Asker]

Maybe he has. Well...it's too freaking late...all he gets is my neutral side! ha ha. It does sound like one doesn't it? Lol. Ridic! :P

[Erwin]

people don't realize how valuable something is until they lose it

[Asker]

Hmm..maybe.