My boyfriend still says single on Facebook, don't know why it bothers me?

[Anonymous]

He asked me to be his girlfriend this week we have been going out for 2 months. He tells me he is lucky to have me. Its been maybe two weeks and his fb still says single. And it bothers me, just in the sense that maybe he is ashamed of me or something. He texts me everyday. The last time he was active on fb it looks like anyway was before he asked me. 2 weeks before we asked me to be his girlfriend. I was going to ask him something about it, but I don't want to force him. It just makes me feel there is something I should be worried about.

I don't think he goes on fb often.

Advice?

[kandyflip]

some people are irritated by the constant relationship updates of other people. it's annoying and irking to some, but usually it's not a big deal to change it for most people.

my girlfriend and I are very serious and we both are single on Facebook. we both have ex's that would get hurt over it, or may cause drama. it's not important to share that information with everyone. it's sort of private. you don't need everyone in the world to know you're with this person, and that you're in a relationship. it's frankly no one's business, and why would you want you second cousin and people you're not very close to, to know that about you? We both know each other very well and trust each other deeply.

people who matter... close friends and family already know. so, why do you need to broadcast it? also some people tend to not want to share that information. if you do you have to also update that whenever you break up. that draws a lot of attention to you when maybe you don't want any attention after a breakup.

anyhow, if it does bother you, talk to him about it. but you shouldn't make him do anything that he wouldn't want to do. you need to see if his reasons for not doing so are valid.

[Ubetiburn]

First, how could you be going out for two months if he just asked this past week?

If his last log-on was before you got together then why are you mad? Not everyone is a Facebook addict or updates their every breath religiously.

Younger people rely so much on technology that they expect everyone to be the same as them. Sorry to inform them, but, Facebook is not the site of truth, honesty, or maturity that some think it is nor is it the answer to life.

If it bothers you that much ask him but if the answer is not to your liking, deal with it. I mean I have not updated my page in months that does not mean anything other then I have a life that does not have my face stuck to a computer screen or 3.5" phone screen Facebooking every innate thought that runs through my mind...

[Asker]

i mean like going on dates casually for about 2 months.. then he asked me to be boyfriend and girlfriend. that is what I mean by going out. I think he last log on was then. I know I shouldn't be mad, and I'm not it jsut upsets me and I don't really know why. I think I will ask him when I see him. I might just ask if he would rather us not have the relationship on Facebook posted or not. and see what he says.

[Anonymous]

some people don't like updating Facebook to shout to the world everything about them

i have friends who don't post their relationship status

I would talk to him about at least changing it to where there is no relationship status showing instead of it saying "single" if he doesn't feel comfortable changing it to "in a relationship".

[kaleikaumaka1995]

I wouldn't even pay any attention to it, a lot of guys don't see the significance in that, so it's really nothing. If its the same in a month and its still bothering you, just talk to him about it.

[sweet_18]

I don't think it's a big deal since you said the last time he was on fb was before he asked you to be his girlfriend. But if it does bother you, it's OK to ask him to change it.

[Asker]

yeah it like sept 4 was the last time he was on I guess, and he asked me the 16th of sept.

[Giggles0]

Agree, if he was on Facebook all the time it might be different. But if he isn't on Facebook very often. It doesn't matter

[pervertedjester]

It's only been 2 months. Just 2 weeks ago you went from dating to the very early stages of a relationship. Which means he's just starting to show you more of himself. Most of it you'll probably enjoy knowing but let's face it, this early in the game anything could end it. So he's gonna be a little protective of who he let's know about you.

There's the added Perk of having a shared Private Happiness for a good long while. That is a form of personal and private happiness that no one can really mess with until you involve them. It's also fun to see how long you can keep friends and family from catching on! (My record is about 7 months.)

[sixstring]

I wouldn't read to much into it. He might have forgotten about it. He might not like getting all the attention.

Just tell him how it makes you feel and ask what's up.

[Temporary43]

Tell him that his status on Facebook is upsetting you and you would like to know where you and him stand I feel that you have every right to know

[dandre55]

i would see why you would feel that way tell him about it

[Anonymous]

Some guys (I'm one) could not give less of a sh*t about Facebook.

He is probably the same.