My boyfriend changed his Facebook status to single, should I be worried?

So today I saw that my boyfriend changed his status from in a relationship to single and that really hurt me. I told him about it and he said it wasn’t a big deal and that I like to find problems where there isn’t any. So I told him that he’s just complaining but isn’t willing to do anything about it. And he said he will delete his account and I know he won’t. I wish he would change it back to how it was. Anyone can tell me why he did this? Is it a sign he doesn’t want me anymore?

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  • Why waste your fucking time worrying about his ass if he isn't going to be a team player and communicate/cooperate? On top of him trying to turn this shit on you for complaining? FUCK NAH. Honey, do yourself a favor and tell yourself that you don't have to deal with his bullshit. That's some bullshit games that nobody has time for in relationships.

    There is no excuse for him making the effort to change his goddamn annoying status. Don't be a weak bitch and stay with him while he flirts with other damn chicks if that's not okay with you.

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  • If he thinks it's not a big deal, well why did he change it. Most likely reason he is possibly talking to someone else and wants them to think he is single. My ex wife did the exact same and I was right even at the point of catching her having an affair. Not 100% sure he is, but it's a sign and also he is defensive when you ask him about it.

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    • Don't play any games with him as it will just make you feel upset more. Tell him either sort it or you will break up with him. I would personally but that is me.

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  • Red flag alert.

    He's looking for someone else. If any social media profile says he's taken then girls will be less inclined to go after him. So he's keeping you around until he finds someone else. And based on what you wrote, it sounds like you guys have some problems that maybe he doesn't want to fix.

    Leave him. LEAVE. HIM.

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  • Maybe he wants to cheat on you or wants girls to flirt with him

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  • Very bad sign.

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  • If it had been a glitch or an accident, and was still interested, he probably would have had a way different answer than what he gave you. He’s wanting to start sniffing around other girls, if he’s not doing it already.

    For me, I don’t make my status public. I’m not sure if I’d want to... but then I wouldn’t be changing it like that unless there was a clear breakup.

    Consider it the writing on the wall. Make your status private (or go single yourself). If he’s worried, you give him the same answer he gave you: you don’t know why he’s making such a huge deal out of it. (Of course, you can choose to get rid of Facebook or not (up to you).

    It wasn’t “wait... it’s saying I’m single? How’d that happen? I’ll change it back.” I’d let her watch me change it back - of course, that’d be if it was a glitch or accident, which doesn’t seem the case here.

    Figure you’re single (or you will be soon). Don’t go out with other guys until it’s been hashed out and it’s clear that you’re broken up, but don’t let him see you super phased by it.

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  • The only reason someone would change it from in a relationship to single while still with you is that they're up to something. They always say that "it's no big deal" and claim that you're the one being paranoid, taking it way too seriously. But there's no other explanation for it, and people talk to people on facebook and meet all the time.

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  • Although I think being facebook official is silly and not something that should define your relationship, I think that changing it from ”in a relationship” to ”single” even though you’re still supposedly in a relationship, is super passive aggressive and definitely not something that should be taken lightly. It would be different if he had just made the status entirely private. But specifically checking ”single” is a really bad move. I’m not even sure if I could chalk it up to him just being THAT stupid. I think there’s intent behind it.
    I mean, for all your friends know, you’ve basically broken up now. That’s what you think when you see someone change their status to single on facebook. Your immediate reaction isn’t ”oh neat he just changed his status but they’re still together, no biggie”.
    What’s worse is that you expressed your hurt feelings and he didn’t take it seriously. He hurt you but doesn’t care, and tries to blame you for ”overreacting”. That’s really not good either. Whether the issue is big or small to him doesn’t matter, he has hurt you and should be humble enough to recognize that. And you have every right to be hurt. He basically announced to all his friends (and family?) on facebook that you’ve broken up. That’s not cool.

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  • I don’t tend to think social media means anything in relationships but if it was set to “in a relationship” and he changed it to “single” … yeah, that’s not a vote of confidence.

    I’d say he wants to break up but doesn’t have the spine to do it. That or he is deliberately being an ass and you should probably break up with him if this is the case.

    Either way… sorry about how that ended.

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  • You're seriously asking? This is not a red flag, this is a global company selling sucessfully red flags over the whole planet !!! Either he removed the status because he was angry and he admits he was wrong by simply putting it back, or you consider it over...

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  • Didn't he explain why he changed it? There has to be a reason and he should have given you one. You shouldn't have to ask people here to have to guess what his reason was, he owes you a reason.

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    • He just yelled at me and told me I’m paranoid and went. No reason at all plus he said he always had it as single but I know for a fact he had it as a relationship.

    • Well that's a real problem. He's obviously changed it for a reason. I'd urge you to breakup with him. If he cares about you, it will be a valuable lesson for him and he can apologize. If he doesn't care about you then he can get lost. Either way, he shouldn't be treating you like that.

    • If you are in a relationship with someone you have the right to ask.

  • this sounds so familiar.
    if he changed it, it's because he doesn't want anyone knowing about you.
    my SO did this. months later i found out the truth. he used to spit the same stuff to me too.
    Tag him in a photo of the two of you. if he doesn't add it to his timeline, then i would start asking to see his phone.

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  • It's very likely he is talking to someone new and has told that person that you guys have broken up and just doesn't have the backbone to tell you.

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  • He’s just a player dump him before he shatters your heart from cheating because the bitches I dated before did this same exact shit spiteful little cunts 😑 they cheated on me with my friend too that’s why I don’t date girls in Florida anymore and he changed it so he can talk to other girls he thinks he can have his cake and eat it too

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  • If you guys just had an argument he did it cause he was pissed off at you. Otherwise he's losing interest in you and wants girls to think he's single.

    For all of the good things about fb, relationship statuses aren't one of them. If he didn't have fb this wouldn't even be an issue and you guys would spend more time working on your strained relationship not your social media image.

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  • Sounds like he wanted other women online to think he was available. You’re not creating problems, I would probably dump my SO in this situation. I think you should ghost him, even if you care about him, he just made it apparent he doesn’t return the sentiment. I’m sorry.

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  • Should you be worried...
    hell to the ya lol
    how isn't that obvious

    then girls wonder why they have shitty relationships... it kinda makes sense now when they act this stupid and clueless

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    • Sometimes we just need second opinions, to be sure we are not over thinking things like you guys hate so much. I can see why she's asking about the obvious. 😋

  • Sounds like he's no more interested in you and doesn't care at all, he's done with his stuff with you, now moving to the next one.
    I believe you will need to move on and the more soon you deal with it the less pain you will taste.
    Delete his number from your phone and remove him from facebook, this is the best solution you can do currently.

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  • Yes. If he didn't get the memo that you two are still together, then yes. You should be worried. There's no reason for a guy to change his status to single if you two are still together. There should have been a clear conversation about it. It's rather clear that you should move on from this fool. He said it wasn't a big deal? Bullshit. Whether he was "just kidding" or not, you should move on. Relationships shouldn't be a joke, but lots of people treat them as such (for whatever reason) anyway.

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  • Yes you should break up with him, he wants to break up but he doesn't have the balls to say it out right or he is messaging some thot on FB so if drop his ass before you get anymore in enthralled into his lies

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  • He is an immature guy that is open to other options. He is clearly manipulating you. He probably wants to continue being with you and others. He is not ready for commitment and wants to make it clear that this is not a serious relationship. He might tell you otherwise to avoid losing your relationship with him, but I would trust actions more than words in this case.

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  • Uh Yes I would be worried because why not just put NO status, thats what I did he's making it a point to make it seem that he is single. If he went from being in a relationship to single he's making a statement, he could've literally just hid it from his profile and it wouldn't have been questionable.

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  • Likely he doesn't want someone else to know he has a girlfriend.

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  • I literally dislike social media. So i do not pay attention if i appear single, in relationship whatsoever.
    But if someone pay attention and update regularly and when he is in relationship he still changes his status into single, there is a problem, girl. Watch out. He is searching some adventure let me tell you.

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  • I'd change mine to single and say ciao to him on a public post... but... I'm vengeful sometimes.

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  • If he doesn't care, which it's clear he doesn't by his actions, just kick him to the curb. There's plenty of other guys out there who'd love to change their status from "single" to "in a relationship" to be with you. No need to waste time.

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  • Sounds like a fuckboi. Dump him, sounds like he's looking to cheat honestly.
    Like it's not really a big deal if he had initially wanted to keep it single, but it's clear he's looking for other girls by changing it if you ask me.

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  • If he did it out of anger after a fight then he was just being immature. So there's that but if if he did it for seemingly no reason than he's looking for other people already

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  • Sounds like he wants his cake and to eat it too. He clearly has ulterior motives so the ball is in your court on whether you allow his disrespect or dont... i would choose the latter? Ladder? im tired

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  • You shouldn't worry, if he changes his facebook status to single just break up with him. He obviously does not have any kind of compassion for his partner, it also shows you what kind of person he really is.

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  • Definitely should be worried. This could be a sign of he was caught trying to cheat by a girl who he tried to hit on, or he's planning to do it.

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  • It sounds like he is leading you on but doesn’t want a relationship. He can’t even be man enough to tell you, or to even man up when you ask him directly.

    Do you really want a guy who has no balls and just wants to be a slimy mother fudger? You deserve better.

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  • Sorry girl, but he's either cheating or planning to cheat :/
    Please leave him and tell him "It's not a big deal". Maybe don't say that, I would because I'm petty lol
    But do leave him. You're worth more

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  • if he never wrote in a relationship from the first place then i wouldn't care but since he changed it back, no one would do that for no reason, i would break up with him bc he's probably cheating or gonna break up with you or something anyways

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  • Facebook is meaningless, and that's exactly why I just leave my relationship status blank and unused.

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  • It's because he's wanting to be seen as single. Its the only reason he'd change it. More than likely to talk to other girls. Dump his ass.

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  • i don't know but i think he is cheating on you or trying to keep himself open. if he really doesn't want to change just give him a taste of his own medicine or try telling him to change it back again if not change yours and see how he likes it

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  • If you're in a relationship it is inappropriate for him to anywhere state that he is single. Part of being in a relationship is admitting you're in a relationship. If he can't figure that out move on from him

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  • Possible reason: If he's doing it out of a sick joke then he's stupid. If he's talking to another girl, dump him. If he did it accidentally he should've just changed it back. If it's for a Valentine's Day surprise, he's really stupid. The biggest red flag is that he hurt you and passed it off like it wasn't a big deal. Who even does that?

    It's not really a sign that he doesn't want you but based on his decisions he doesn't seem very bright. Don't worry if he doesn't want you, in fact don't worry at all. It's up to you but I'd say you should stop caring about him because he doesn't deserve you. The only one who loses out is him. Dump him. You're a smart person with a nice heart who cares for others unconditionally. You should have more confidence because you're already a great woman with no need for him.

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  • That's doesn't make any since, why would you change it to single and then say its not a big deal when he's still in relationship. Of course that's something to be worried about it, he obviously changed it so nobody would see he's in a relationship and if he's going to delete his facebook why did he have to change his status to single anyway? He's either hiding something and doesn't want someone to see he's in relationship or has plans to dump you eventually... either one... cause it really makes no sense. It's a huge red flag, i would just go ahead and ask him if he wants to be single and break up anyways.

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  • Hey at least you get a head start, also asking never hurt anyone, and it's the same both ways,
    Either he'll explain or you'll fast forward the break.

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  • I don’t believe in Facebook statuses... I mean u should never have to declare to the world you’re in a relationship! Actions are louder than words...
    But if you’ve done the status thing and he’s changed it to single- my advice, grant his wish before he dumps you... he’s making himself free agent which means he has eye on someone and getting you to nitpick to justify the dumping, do not fall for it

    Just fall out his life!! Change yours to single and fancy free and change your mobile number... trust me you’ll feel a lot better and more in control be ause right now he hasn’t u exactly where he wants u, do not give him that power

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  • His answer makes me think he's trying to find an excusy to justify a breakup.

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  • Does he have pictures of the two of you together on his facebook page?

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  • Yes, thats an odd thing to do if you are still together.

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  • Why would he do that? Since he wants to be single, let him be single. To me that’s disrespectful.

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  • This is a bad sign. He is probably talking to another girl.

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  • Advise: Hello. As per my message what I see about why he has changed his status remains unclear, but what I do see is that you and him are ok together as far as compatibility. But what I'm seeing is it is best now, hun, is to remain friends. So break up the boyfriend and girlfriend tag and just be friends for now.
    In the meantime hun may I suggest that you call up your boyfriend and call it quits for now. And as you are breaking up with him, I would suggest during this time picking up on hobbies that you enjoy doing. Go and join dance events. like salsa dancing , jazz dancing etc. This is another great way to meet friends and new people. In Jesus Christ name

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  • Firstly, allow me to just say STOP BEING SO INSECURE. This is probably why he has done what he did. Yes, 9/10 doesn't want anything to do with you anymore. Therefore he's cheating and probably done so for a very long time without you even knowing. He does what he do because he know's your insecure. If he was going to delete his account, why bother going single on it? Unless it was a technical error, there is no doubt in my mind he did that deliberately. Overall, all this facebook official crap is ridiculous and you need to drop all of that. "he said it wasn’t a big deal and that I like to find problems where there isn’t any." If THIS is his attitude then you need to let him go. He has no respect for your concerns and security in the relationship.

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  • Just tired of the long list of reasons you dont seem to be able to handle.

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  • Could be trying to get other woman or might be about to dump you

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  • my boyfriend and i didn't care too much for the status, since we knew we were together. we just changed it later on so that people didn't wonder, if anyone saw. but if it wasn't single before, then yeah there's a reason and though i wouldn't go as far as breaking up yet maybe you should tell him, since he's claiming you're starting shit from nothing- initiate a break? not a let's go fuck around with other people thing, but just get time to yourselves and not meet for awhile. that what he did has you wondering about things. that may, if he cares, scare the shit out of him somewhat. it helps if you keep in little contact during, but only by texts or calls. you'll learn about yourself in the meantime and whichever way the wind blows that's just how it is

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