My boyfriend changed his Facebook status to single, should I be worried?

[ElenoraM]

So today I saw that my boyfriend changed his status from in a relationship to single and that really hurt me. I told him about it and he said it wasn’t a big deal and that I like to find problems where there isn’t any. So I told him that he’s just complaining but isn’t willing to do anything about it. And he said he will delete his account and I know he won’t. I wish he would change it back to how it was. Anyone can tell me why he did this? Is it a sign he doesn’t want me anymore?

[lumos]

Although I think being facebook official is silly and not something that should define your relationship, I think that changing it from ”in a relationship” to ”single” even though you’re still supposedly in a relationship, is super passive aggressive and definitely not something that should be taken lightly. It would be different if he had just made the status entirely private. But specifically checking ”single” is a really bad move. I’m not even sure if I could chalk it up to him just being THAT stupid. I think there’s intent behind it.
I mean, for all your friends know, you’ve basically broken up now. That’s what you think when you see someone change their status to single on facebook. Your immediate reaction isn’t ”oh neat he just changed his status but they’re still together, no biggie”.
What’s worse is that you expressed your hurt feelings and he didn’t take it seriously. He hurt you but doesn’t care, and tries to blame you for ”overreacting”. That’s really not good either. Whether the issue is big or small to him doesn’t matter, he has hurt you and should be humble enough to recognize that. And you have every right to be hurt. He basically announced to all his friends (and family?) on facebook that you’ve broken up. That’s not cool.

[btbc92]

Firstly, allow me to just say STOP BEING SO INSECURE. This is probably why he has done what he did. Yes, 9/10 doesn't want anything to do with you anymore. Therefore he's cheating and probably done so for a very long time without you even knowing. He does what he do because he know's your insecure. If he was going to delete his account, why bother going single on it? Unless it was a technical error, there is no doubt in my mind he did that deliberately. Overall, all this facebook official crap is ridiculous and you need to drop all of that. "he said it wasn’t a big deal and that I like to find problems where there isn’t any." If THIS is his attitude then you need to let him go. He has no respect for your concerns and security in the relationship.

[BrittBratt2416]

That's doesn't make any since, why would you change it to single and then say its not a big deal when he's still in relationship. Of course that's something to be worried about it, he obviously changed it so nobody would see he's in a relationship and if he's going to delete his facebook why did he have to change his status to single anyway? He's either hiding something and doesn't want someone to see he's in relationship or has plans to dump you eventually... either one... cause it really makes no sense. It's a huge red flag, i would just go ahead and ask him if he wants to be single and break up anyways.

[BrittBratt2416]

Ask if he's talking to someone else cause chances he are, you just don't randomly change your're status to single...

[BrittBratt2416]

*sense

[Anonymous]

Why waste your fucking time worrying about his ass if he isn't going to be a team player and communicate/cooperate? On top of him trying to turn this shit on you for complaining? FUCK NAH. Honey, do yourself a favor and tell yourself that you don't have to deal with his bullshit. That's some bullshit games that nobody has time for in relationships.

There is no excuse for him making the effort to change his goddamn annoying status. Don't be a weak bitch and stay with him while he flirts with other damn chicks if that's not okay with you.

[GoodManDave]

If it had been a glitch or an accident, and was still interested, he probably would have had a way different answer than what he gave you. He’s wanting to start sniffing around other girls, if he’s not doing it already.

For me, I don’t make my status public. I’m not sure if I’d want to... but then I wouldn’t be changing it like that unless there was a clear breakup.

Consider it the writing on the wall. Make your status private (or go single yourself). If he’s worried, you give him the same answer he gave you: you don’t know why he’s making such a huge deal out of it. (Of course, you can choose to get rid of Facebook or not (up to you).

It wasn’t “wait... it’s saying I’m single? How’d that happen? I’ll change it back.” I’d let her watch me change it back - of course, that’d be if it was a glitch or accident, which doesn’t seem the case here.

Figure you’re single (or you will be soon). Don’t go out with other guys until it’s been hashed out and it’s clear that you’re broken up, but don’t let him see you super phased by it.

[skimando]

If he thinks it's not a big deal, well why did he change it. Most likely reason he is possibly talking to someone else and wants them to think he is single. My ex wife did the exact same and I was right even at the point of catching her having an affair. Not 100% sure he is, but it's a sign and also he is defensive when you ask him about it.

[ElenoraM]

Thanks

[skimando]

Don't play any games with him as it will just make you feel upset more. Tell him either sort it or you will break up with him. I would personally but that is me.

[Allie_Oops]

Red flag alert.

He's looking for someone else. If any social media profile says he's taken then girls will be less inclined to go after him. So he's keeping you around until he finds someone else. And based on what you wrote, it sounds like you guys have some problems that maybe he doesn't want to fix.

Leave him. LEAVE. HIM.

[jennifer_bloom]

Maybe he wants to cheat on you or wants girls to flirt with him

[Tae-ken]

Possible reason: If he's doing it out of a sick joke then he's stupid. If he's talking to another girl, dump him. If he did it accidentally he should've just changed it back. If it's for a Valentine's Day surprise, he's really stupid. The biggest red flag is that he hurt you and passed it off like it wasn't a big deal. Who even does that?

It's not really a sign that he doesn't want you but based on his decisions he doesn't seem very bright. Don't worry if he doesn't want you, in fact don't worry at all. It's up to you but I'd say you should stop caring about him because he doesn't deserve you. The only one who loses out is him. Dump him. You're a smart person with a nice heart who cares for others unconditionally. You should have more confidence because you're already a great woman with no need for him.

[grimtigress]

my boyfriend and i didn't care too much for the status, since we knew we were together. we just changed it later on so that people didn't wonder, if anyone saw. but if it wasn't single before, then yeah there's a reason and though i wouldn't go as far as breaking up yet maybe you should tell him, since he's claiming you're starting shit from nothing- initiate a break? not a let's go fuck around with other people thing, but just get time to yourselves and not meet for awhile. that what he did has you wondering about things. that may, if he cares, scare the shit out of him somewhat. it helps if you keep in little contact during, but only by texts or calls. you'll learn about yourself in the meantime and whichever way the wind blows that's just how it is

[englisc]

The only reason someone would change it from in a relationship to single while still with you is that they're up to something. They always say that "it's no big deal" and claim that you're the one being paranoid, taking it way too seriously. But there's no other explanation for it, and people talk to people on facebook and meet all the time.

[Anonymous]

Girl no one on here can tell you what to do.. that doesn't sound right to me, though. Him deactivating his account isn't changing anything. Maybe it's not that big of a deal, OR maybe he's cheating. See if he'll post a picture of the both of you. Try tagging him in something cute. There are ways to see if he's really into you. I would change my profile picture to our picture and then comment on a status. If there are any other girls, they'll be lurking on your page. But all of that is childish and immature. If you feel like there is something wrong my honest advice? Take a second and think about it. Do not think about his feelings or what he's saying. Think about how you feel and think about what you want. Also think about the facts. Has he given you any other reason to doubt him? These are things that matter. If you still feel funny, then dump him.

[RandomBritishGuy94]

I don’t tend to think social media means anything in relationships but if it was set to “in a relationship” and he changed it to “single” … yeah, that’s not a vote of confidence.

I’d say he wants to break up but doesn’t have the spine to do it. That or he is deliberately being an ass and you should probably break up with him if this is the case.

Either way… sorry about how that ended.

[accidental-cake-face]

this sounds so familiar.
if he changed it, it's because he doesn't want anyone knowing about you.
my SO did this. months later i found out the truth. he used to spit the same stuff to me too.
Tag him in a photo of the two of you. if he doesn't add it to his timeline, then i would start asking to see his phone.

[Brokenheartedx]

I don’t believe in Facebook statuses... I mean u should never have to declare to the world you’re in a relationship! Actions are louder than words...
But if you’ve done the status thing and he’s changed it to single- my advice, grant his wish before he dumps you... he’s making himself free agent which means he has eye on someone and getting you to nitpick to justify the dumping, do not fall for it

Just fall out his life!! Change yours to single and fancy free and change your mobile number... trust me you’ll feel a lot better and more in control be ause right now he hasn’t u exactly where he wants u, do not give him that power

[333Advisor]

Advise: Hello. As per my message what I see about why he has changed his status remains unclear, but what I do see is that you and him are ok together as far as compatibility. But what I'm seeing is it is best now, hun, is to remain friends. So break up the boyfriend and girlfriend tag and just be friends for now.
In the meantime hun may I suggest that you call up your boyfriend and call it quits for now. And as you are breaking up with him, I would suggest during this time picking up on hobbies that you enjoy doing. Go and join dance events. like salsa dancing , jazz dancing etc. This is another great way to meet friends and new people. In Jesus Christ name

[Anonymous]

1) Facebook statuses don't usually define whether or not a guy is committed to you, HOWEVER, changing his status part way through when it was already on "in a relationship" means he's either hiding you from someone/something, or he's slowly trying to break the relationship, and/or cheat on you.
2) His reaction after was also very disrespectful, he tried to blame you and turn it around on you for worrying by telling you that you like to find problems when there isn't - this is manipulative, he's acting like it's all in your head.

Get out of that relationship. He ain't listening to you & it's already a red flag.

[DarkManX]

Sounds like he's no more interested in you and doesn't care at all, he's done with his stuff with you, now moving to the next one.
I believe you will need to move on and the more soon you deal with it the less pain you will taste.
Delete his number from your phone and remove him from facebook, this is the best solution you can do currently.

[TnGold]

Look Angel, the truth is, I see no reason why your boyfiernd should change his profile to single if he is confident about your relationship becasue before any action, there must be a reason but don't hold any sentiment about this. Just be yourself and if you think it will be to heavy for you to bear in mind, you can discuss about this with your boyfriend as listen to him. You might be suprised he will tell you sorry and change it back.

Another way round is using a reversed psychology, -change your status as well to single and watch is reaction.

[Hidden_P]

Awful advice. If he doesn’t care about her, he won’t care about a changed status.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like he is keeping him options open, probably talking to other girls, but still holding on to you.

He was trying to gaslight you into thinking you're the crazy one "overreacting", and lying about deleting his account. Sounds emotionally abusive.

Please leave him, you deserve better. There is someone special out there for you.

[IfIdontHaveYOU]

Good advice!

[Anonymous]

That’s pretty fucked up. I feel like he did it so more girls can slide into his DMs and when he meets girls and tells them to add him on Facebook they will see he is single and they will flirt. Tell him your not comfortable with this. It’s very sketchy

[MusicMayhem]

If you guys just had an argument he did it cause he was pissed off at you. Otherwise he's losing interest in you and wants girls to think he's single.

For all of the good things about fb, relationship statuses aren't one of them. If he didn't have fb this wouldn't even be an issue and you guys would spend more time working on your strained relationship not your social media image.

[Greaver]

He’s just a player dump him before he shatters your heart from cheating because the bitches I dated before did this same exact shit spiteful little cunts 😑 they cheated on me with my friend too that’s why I don’t date girls in Florida anymore and he changed it so he can talk to other girls he thinks he can have his cake and eat it too

[VaIiant]

Sounds like he wanted other women online to think he was available. You’re not creating problems, I would probably dump my SO in this situation. I think you should ghost him, even if you care about him, he just made it apparent he doesn’t return the sentiment. I’m sorry.

[Boromir]

You're seriously asking? This is not a red flag, this is a global company selling sucessfully red flags over the whole planet !!! Either he removed the status because he was angry and he admits he was wrong by simply putting it back, or you consider it over...

[findingdreamland-1]

I literally dislike social media. So i do not pay attention if i appear single, in relationship whatsoever.
But if someone pay attention and update regularly and when he is in relationship he still changes his status into single, there is a problem, girl. Watch out. He is searching some adventure let me tell you.