Is it weird that my boyfriend hides his relationship status on facebook?

[Anonymous]

I've been dating this guy for two years and he just recently joined facebook. As soon as he joined I updated my relationship status to include him and he updated his relationship status as well to include me. Both our profiles can be seen by our friends and college network. I discovered that people in our college network can't see that he's in a relationship. Should I be concerned?

[Anonymous]

Ah.Facebook with relationships. I feel you there. Well, really the simplest thing to do about this situation is just ask him why it isn't there. I could give you possible reasons why he might hide the information of you relationship to the people in your college but those might not apply (Besides.you will be worried regardless of what anyone tells you).

1. Ask him about it and in a very non-accusatory fashion

---> for the easiest - albeit - possibly awkward way

Personally.for me.leave Facebook out of relationships. Facebook causes everybody to look for secret and usually nonexistent messages addressed to the significant other. Secondly, many people do more communicating through Facebook & AIM with their significant other than they do in person and that often leads to lack of openness and expression in face-to-face confrontation. I am not saying delete your facebooks.I am just merely pointing out that don't allow facebook to be the official word in your relationship.? That didn't word correctly.

Don't judge his motives on what he does on facebook at least without checking it with him. Just ask him about it. Communication and openness can only help yours and any relationship. If it goes well and he didn't mean anything by it and gives you a good explanation then you will feel 10X better and happy. Holding your doubts and worry in doesn't help your relationship but only adds to the trouble. Guys like to be problem solvers. For good or bad your problem will be solved if you talk to him. Simplest and easiest way I assure you. Don't assume anything. That is when trust weakens and you want trust.

=D best of luck.

[Asker]

Can you explain reasons why he would hide our relationship status? Just curious....I mean...he has the option of not making his profile available to our college network, why hide the relationship status and display all his other personal information?

[Opinion Owner]

Well...

I know a guy would removed his relationship status just because of the space on his page and his significant other was aware and fine. So space maybe a reason (highly unlikely unless he has a ton of apps)

His friend may dislike you and bother him about dating you.

He may not want everyone to know. His status doesn't say single. He might want to keep it private and amongst you and his closest friends.

Or your worst worry is that he is after another girl pretending single or is tired

[Opinion Owner]

Tired of the relationship.

Honestly just ask him. I know you are worrying about it but what a girl thinks in regard to a relationship can be different that what a guy thinks. You may want the world to know. He may not. Doesn't mean anything against you but he may feel uncomfortable about it. Those are your options to choose from. But most likely you will only find the worst one the most probable. So is why I again state that Facebook doesn't define your relationship. Set up a date and hangout

[Opinion Owner]

If you two seem to be enjoying eachother's company and nothing seems false about him you can ask him then or just talk to him without a date. Just ask him about it. It does no good worrying about something you can only assume is ill when it may not be. You won't get a decent answer until you do ask him. And you will feel better when you do even if your worst fears are realized because then it was going to happen anyways and then you won't have to suffer through the worry any longer. =/

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice...i do need to stop worrying and just talk to him...

[joyze]

i don't know d password and e-mail add of my boyfriend's acct in friendster and ym. I don't have pictures in his acct and its as if he's single I can't even check out his phone!.

i don't like how our rel. is right now. I don't like my boyfriend being secretive

[silhouette]

Then what are you doing in the relationship?

If there is no trust, communication, or openness the thing is shot. Unless you can change him (which guys hate when girls try to do) I suggest finding someone that will be open with you.

[silhouette]

In some respects you do need to give him his privacy. He has some right to keep to himself but you could ask him for those things if he doesn't mind.