I work at something similar to a customer service desk. I have to be polite, answer any questions someone may have, etc. This guy came up to me and lingered around my desk for over an hour until my shift ended. We had small talk. He asked questions about the desk I run and I answered them. He told me his plans for the weekend and I barely returned the conversation. He asked for my number and I said that would be unprofessional of me and politely declined. He came back to my work the week after and hung around again. Tried to hug me, and asked to walk me outside but I declined. He told me he's interested and he thought I was, too. WHY? Because I SPOKE to him? Because I did my job? I didn't lead this guy on at all. I didn't do anything wrong and I know it. I'm not a flirty person by nature, it's not like I was doing it and not realizing.
I personally think people mistake kindness for flirting all the time. Then they wonder why the other person isn't reciprocating these feelings.. when in reality, they were only being nice to begin with. What do you guys and girls think?
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It sucks when that happens. I work in customer service as well and for some reason I tend to always get misunderstood. I'm naturally a nice guy so my personality fits my job well. I really enjoy seeing people smile no matter the gender. As a guy it doesn't bother me when a girl is flirting of course but sometimes I feel bad that my interest isn't the same because I'm just not looking for anything right now. It doesn't get to me that much but what does is when it turns out that a guy also has mistaken my kindness and calls the store right after leaving to ask for me by name as if that was ok because I was nice to him. To me that seemed a bit overboard. I've always had girls ask me out or them ask me for a friend but every once and awhile it is creepy when a guy for some reason thinks I am interested in dating of the same sex. Sometimes I hate how nice of a person I am but as much as I've tried to stray from being me I can't help but truly love people indiscriminately cause that's how I feel everyone should be. Not all like me but more so in their own ways as equal opportunists.