He never asks me to go anywhere with him

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I are living together he never asks me to go anywhere with him I've asked him why and he gives excuses all the time- this is a breaker for me

should I dump him?

[madhatters4]

How long have you been dating?

How long have you lived together?

Now you say he never asks you to go anywhere with him. You mean like to the grocery store? or more like if he's hanging out with friends or making plans for social things he never invites you?

I think answers to some of those questions may lead to a more thorough answer but as a general response I think that a break-up should be a serious thought for you. He either doesn't want you to be in that space or is ashamed to take you into that space either way it isn't good. For a man, if we love a woman (really love a woman) we want her with us as much as possible. We feel better when the woman we love is by our side and are proud to have that person with us. It doesn't mean he should take you everywhere he goes but if the situation as you put is that he never invites you anywhere that is cause for serious concern.

[Asker]

it is serious concern and I am not gonna stay with him thanks for your help

[HandsomeRaj]

let's cut this short and be to the point

1. Do you guys have sex (I know maybe a stupid question)

2. If yes and considering what you've said - you are his sex outlet, nothing more (even if he denies it)

[Asker]

he denies it but it is true it must be thanks

[HandsomeRaj]

was, is and always will be my pleasure lady :) good luck & god speed

[Dollface-86]

How long have you guys been together. And you mean he won't go anywhere with you? Movies, dinner, bowling, out for drinks, just nothing? Does he ever go out with his friends? If so then I would talk to him about it and if it doesn't change I would break up with him. Because here's the deal: If he is hanging out with his friends but can never go anywhere with you, I would conclude he is seeing someone on the side. There is no excuse to be living and in a relationship with someone and you can't ever go anywhere together. And if it turns out that its just his personality and he doesn't ever want to go anywhere or do anything with ANYONE, then your personalities don't mesh well enough to make it last and you should still think about parting ways.

[Asker]

he goes out with friends and other things we've been together for 2 years- we almost broke up over it

hes younger than me-so I gave him some leeway at first now I'm totally left out-

there was once he didn't come back for over 24 hours that's when I took a break-

I don't want to waste my time- we are always together only at home- I feel like I'm not his Girlfriend at all

i think I know what to do I just didn't want to hear the truth!

[Dollface-86]

I'm kind of in the middle of a breakup too. I packed my things and moved out. Hardest thing over because I'm turning 27 in a couple weeks and I thought he was the one. But he doesn't treat me like he loves and respects me. He needs to understand that I'm not weak and I won't just stay with anyone. He needs to get that he could lose me. Men take women for granted sometimes, and they need a wakeup call. I would be very shocked if he wasn't out with his friends doing God knows what.

[JoSteffi]

Why not invite him to places? If he comes up with an excuse about preferring to stay indoors then I think you should dump him. Men should be proud to go out with the women they love and they shouldn't want to keep them behind locked doors every time. He should want to go out and experience life with you and make new memories.

This could be a sign that he's only using you for sex and help around the house.

[Asker]

I have invited him -hell go for a walk or errands but never socially out with other people like bars or hanging out

thanks for your answer I'm feeling used

[JoSteffi]

Don't allow him to use you. Try inviting him to a nice live-performance bar where the two of you have to dress up to get in. Call it date night, if he refuses to go with you...get rid of him. Don't threaten him before asking him to go out with you though as this might give him the upper-hand when it comes on to calling it quits. Make sure you make plans to stay with a friend or family member prior to this though. So you can just bolt like a boss

[Dollface-86]

Especially when he is so adament that you can't ever come when he's out doing his thing. He has you at home and gets to act like a single guy when he's out. He needs to know that you are a strong woman that isn't going to be mistreated.

[Ashley8282]

tell him that you feel used because he doesn't seem to want to be involved with you outside the home.

provide examples and if he is still wishy washy leave.

[Asker]

hes wishy washy left all night I'm done with him

[Ashley8282]

wash him out the door. atta girl. why stay with someone who makes you feel like sh*t. you do not benefit any from him

[twice-shy]

I feel he should truly love being with you...

But, it appears he really loves being with ...?

Look for someone who loves being around you too...

I wish you well...

[stantheman07]

He is using you. If he REALLY loves you he would WANT to take you with him. ANYwhere! If fact he d love to be with you most all the time.

[phattyme]

i feel he doesn't want people to see or know that your with him. if he is proud of you why not? sorry hon I knwo it's harsh but just move on

[Anonymous]

Yes. Kinda sounds like he's ashamed of you