Why did he ask me this?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been speaking to this guy (known him for a number of years & has been more than friendship but never gone anywhere.)

I recently mentioned I like guys who can be territorial. And he asked how he could be territorial. I didn’t quite understand what he was getting at so I asked him if he meant how he is territorial or how he can be & he said both.

Was he asking because he wants me to like him or was he asking how he could be territorial when we’re not together? Baring in mind it was a passing comment from me

[Danny_dan92]

Seems like what happened here is that you gave away a secret of how he can capture your attention romantically and so he’s trying to exploit his new findings

[Asker]

He already knows how to do that though, I was in love with him at one point. You think he’s just wanting to know to manipulate me into getting what he wants? Not because he actually likes me?

[Danny_dan92]

It just sounds like he’s trying to maximize his potential of getting something out of you. Whether it’s just sex or a relationship who knows

[Asker]

We’ve hooked up in the past & I recently told him that lack of interest was a turn off for me, as just seemed like he was only interested in sex. Since me telling him that he apologised & has made more of an effort with me making it less sexual. He also only reaches out to me every 4 days but he’s away for work atm. Safe to assume it’s just sex then?

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah I think so. You say every 4 days? Based on how I do things, if I’m hitting up a girl every 4 days it’s probably to see if she’s free to hookup…

On the other hand if I really liked her and saw myself dating her I would make it a point to keep constant communication and would be glued to my phone to respond to her. Just a little insider tip

[Asker]

He’s in another country atm so can’t see each other let alone hookup. Best to avoid hooking up with him again then

[Danny_dan92]

Each time you hookup (based on the circumstances) it’ll reset the perpetual cycle

[spartan55]

You are really reaching here.

[Sam_The_Savage]

Did you hook up with him? I bet you did.

[Asker]

I’ve been booking up with him on and off for 3 years. We haven’t seen each other for nearly 6 months though & just started talking again

[Sam_The_Savage]

Okies...