Why do the jerks get all the girls?

[Anonymous]

I have seen this all the time. My best friend (pretty good looking guy) got rejected by a girl after trying for months to date her. She fell for a complete toolbag that pretty much nobody in my school likes. He is a mouth breathing ass hole to everybody including her, and she finds everything he says, even his insults, hilarious. Its not just her either. A ton of girls fall for douches, and I know this is true, so don't argue or defend it ladies. I want to know why this happens. It sure seems like the guys who try hard to be nice to a girl and flatter her always get rejected, even if they are attractive. What the heck?

[redbabyred89]

because they don't want guys that bend over backwards for them.

think of it like this, the good and nice and sweet guys are like their fathers. who would want to date someone like their parent?

the bad macho guy is the needle in the haystack, hard to reach, hard to get. this is just my opinion.

maybe they like the challenge, maybe its a psychological thing.

"oh this guy is badass every girl wants him, that's why he has to be mine."

girls want guys who get a lot of attention--whether good or bad. it just so happens that the bad guys stand out more because their personality is loud (not loud as in volume, but loud as in it stands out.)

whereas the good guys who also have a lot of attention, like smart passionate don't stand out in the general crowd, because they only stand out when theyre in their zone.

for ex, a musician only shines when he's playing for others. an artist only shines when he's in a museum (metaphorically). a biker only shines when he rides his bike.

bad boys shine no matter where they go, they stand out because theyre bad. now back to the attention part.

girls like to shine. they like attention. they don't want to go out with guys who DONT get attention because then they won't get attention either.

girl goes out with a smart chess musician and walks down the school hall. no one notices them because they are two regular joes.

girl goes out with badass who wears the leather jacket and is the only one without a backpack. everyone is looking at them.

[redbabyred89]

i also find this question moot. because in all honestly I look at it like this.

i don't want to date any girls who doesn't have enough brainpower to figure out he's a dipsh*t. why would you want a girl who falls hopelessly for the idiot who is not genuinely nice to others? it tells you a lot about her.

i heard this from somewhere I forgot where.

the people who you allow around you, defines who you are.

somewhere along those lines.

a girl falling for an idiot. next pls :D

[T00THpaste4]

You're asking a question that's been asked over a billion trillion times. Girls don't like jerks. They like guys who have the balls to act like a jerk to them. It shows they have confidence in who they are. There comes a time in a man's life when he needs to grow a pair and stop being so goddamn nice to girls all the time.

[StarcrossedLover]

It works both ways. Stuck up hot chicks get all the men, even though they treat them like dirt. I loved a man for 7 years, but I was always in the friend zone because I'm just pretty and sweet. Then this other chick comes along and he falls in love with her, they get engaged, she treats him like utter dirt and cheats on him from the getgo, and it took him two years to get over her after he finally broke up with her. Even then, he didn't fall out of love with her until a month ago, when he said "I can tell I'm not in love with her now, because it finally doesn't hurt to think about her". And this was over a month after he thought to give me a try. He says he is pretty sure he is in love with me though and wants to marry me, though I'm not jumping up and down because I'm still worried he likes her.

[finallyfabulous]

Maybe it's because they actually ask her out? I know novel concept right?

Many times these guys complain how they were so nice and helped her with this that and the other. They never bothered to ask her out though and just tried to manipulate but not ever getting to his actual intentions with her, hoping she'd fall for it. At least the "toolbag" had the balls to ask her out and get to the point instead of just trying to manipulate her.

Also very often these "toolbags" can be nice decent humans but because they got the girl and you didn't, they much be a royal a**hole. I find this whole girls only date jerks argument completely invalid and ridiculous.

[Asker]

I obviously didn't mean that ALL girls are taken by the jerks. It just seems like a lot of girls fall for men who are d***heads to everyone else. The particular guy I used as an example makes fun of special ed kids on a regular basis and tells people to kill themselves. Not that nice.

[finallyfabulous]

Yes then he is an actual a**hole but a feel 90% of the time the case I gave in my answer is the real story and the one where they guy is an actual douche and the bag it came in is a rare case.

[Anonymous]

I have to agree. Most women I know in real life are dating jerks. I know a girl who is not my friend but she is with a moocher. He takes all her money. He even crashed her car and he cheats on her on a regular basis. I know a guy who left his girlfriend after he got her pregnant. Then came back to her. I know many more. So many young women are in love with the thought of being in love. Its ridiculous. The guy I am pursuing is handsome and he is single. I think he is surprised I like him because he is not a douche bag.

[Anonymous]

Because girls are attracted to certain guys like that, especially guys who don't go out of their way at all to treat them well. It's called female hypergamy. Just like how far more girls would be up for chasing a married man than a single man.

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Girls and well meaning guys tell you, "Be nice, be yourself, treat girls well and you'll find someone."

They tell you this, because consciously or subconsciously, they are keeping you imprisoned. It's a system in which the only guys who succeed are *supposed* to be those who know the truth instinctively or learn it automatically. But you can learn the truth, too.

[toulouse]

i doubt if you did an actual survey you would find that MOST relationships are comprised of women rejecting guys who are respectful.

there are some relationships where the guy or woman is a jerk but attractive. that happens all around the world. that hardly means that's hat everyone wants.

this is one woman and one guy.

i know a ton of people who are single because they only meet jerks snd refuse to demean themselves by being with someone who tries to walk all over them.

[adamfk1]

surveys don't mean anything . girls do opposite of what they say

[MikeK]

True!

[yopyopyop]

It's a mix of stupidity and of craving for excitement.

You know, despite what it is politically correct to say, there aren't lots of intelligent women; 95% of them only rely on their intuition (aka instinct). And instinct without experience is just plain idiocy.

[toulouse]

you have 'experienced 95% of women. really, that's incredible. probably not.

you'feel' like 95% of women use intuition , except that you are incorrectly using the word intuition. you're describing your behavior right now, and attributing it to the word 'intuition'.

[yopyopyop]

95? Yes, you might be right. Find me one woman out of 20 who is clever and I'll be happy already.

By the way, this is not an anti-woman rant. Men aren't any better.

[rudy37lee]

Guys use reasoning, women use emotions it's how we're built. Plus, it has NOTHING to do with intelligence . . . asshat #2

[yopyopyop]

Reasoning is completely depending on intelligence. Emotion not. QED ?

[Anonymous]

Cuz guys who make it so damn easy for girls are not that interesting. Some girls like to kinda chase and the excitment does he like me/does he like me not as well.

But: They may get them in the first place when they are young, but they hardly keep them...

Honestly used to fall for that kind of guy several times, but I always easily felt out of it.

[Opinion Owner]

what?

[MyUsernameRules]

Same reason why the bitches get all the guys? Do most guys really care whether a girl is an angel or not? No, they care more about how "pretty", "hot", "sexy", or "cute" she is and the conceited attitude among them gives most guys a thrill to chase. Same reason why the "jerks" get "all the girls". Confidence and a challenge which girls like and of course girls happen to find most or all of them physically attractive.

[Anonymous]

nice guys get friend zoned so that's why it pisses normal guys of that girls like the cocky mr big balls. where as the cocky guy gets wall to wall vag because he's confidant and asks out straight or makes its clear he's interested. most girls like guys who are confidant and guys who other girls want. Its the same for girls really, I know loads of girls who are pretty and they get friend zoned by guys and then they sit there thinking why her?

[Sexydncr]

this is so true

[rudy37lee]

Then she's not so bright herself, is she? Sounds the the female version of a tool bag to me, they should work well together.

[onlyaguy]

In a word, hormones.

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[Anonymous]

Why do the jerks get all the girls?

They don't. They may get a lot of the hot bi*chy girls, or a lot of the immature girls... but they don't get ALL the girls. Come on.

[Anonymous]

What? Okay my opinion, I love nice guys. If they're nice to me and make and effort to talk to me then yes I'd date him. Not all girls like jerks and hot guys, sometimes it's just the right guy. We're not all complete and utter bitches.

[Anonymous]

its not the jerks . its the hot guys that get girls becuase girls only care about looks...and money

[SwissCheeze]

I agree.

[rudy37lee]

Yea, guys don't care about looks at all . . . . awkward silence . . . asshat

[Anonymous]

Because he gives her multiple orgasms.

[IHateBeingaMan]

here we go again