Why do guys think girls like jerks?

[assley]

see questions all the time. why do girls only like jerks? or is it true girls don't like nice guys? its so stupid. yes I do see attractive girls with the big hot shot guys. those are the insecure girls that seek approval from the "hot" guys. they are so self conscience that they need society's opinion of the best to approve them. the guys know this and being the mostly ass hole types they are, they use them for sex and to make them selves "look" good and feel better. I don't want those guys and you shouldn't envy those girls. most people that think they're attractive need to constantly be reassured to feed the ego they have been fed because of their looks. I only date guys that are nice, gentlemen because I have standards and want to be treated with respect. so hope this and any discussion helps who ever was wondering about the nice vs. jerks

[frankfava]

Hey hun,

First up let me say that, it's just so incredible hear from someone who comes from love and trust not fear and doubt, you'll be so much better off for it! Really Great!

It's thought that because it's thought to be the only options... It about time that ladies dispense with the settling for jerks stuff and realize that there are REAL men out there! Men who are not children needing you to mother them (thats a "nice guy") nor the equally childish bully who has forced every bit of empathy out of him and is just some macho jerk trying to convince himself that he is all that matters! (thats a "jerk")

There are men out there that are strong (even though a jerk appears to be) within himself, men that would protect you lovely ladies from any danger. Me that are powerful enough to break down every wall you have to get to the mushy girl inside that just want to be held. Men who won't be a child and look to you for their worth, being clingy but men who know their worth and can see through all the bullsh*t and games you put up, just knowing its to protect yourself and loves you so much because he knows that all that crap you throw at him is just a test. A test he must past to show you that you can trust him! A hero that is present and will never retreat until he knows he has that trust.

A strong man with sensitivity, who values other as much as he values himself (not more like the "nice guy" or less like the "jerk"). Coming from love and and Trust not fear and doubt! Your options are not just "nice guy" or "jerk", you can have a "real man"!

This is a pattern that nearly every person runs! Young males being too feminine ("nice guy") or too masculine ("jerk") and young females being too feminine ("sweet") or too masculine ("bitch"). and because females build up a shell around them (to protect them, and rightly so, a man must show he can protect) she is predominantly masculine and can come across as a bitch, especially to nice guys (although they'd never say that).

You would never go for a nice guy (unless you wanted to be his mother) so in an attempt to have the strong man to break down your walls, you go the "jerk" who yes is masculine, but does not care! He values himself and thinks everyone lower than him! and that's how he treats people! This why this can be an abusive relationship (emotionally, physically, sexually).

A masculine man tempered with empathy is a real man, a real man that wants a feminine and STRONG woman! (and it is clear You are strong!)

This is not about equality of men and women, you wouldn't go chopping d***s off to prove equality. We want our woman to be a woman as much as you want your man to be a man. this about letting each gender being what they were made to be! Opposites attract, this is about creating that polarity.

If you are with a jerk, nice guy or not in a relationship and not sure what to do, send me a message and we can have a chat.

"The world needs a Masculine Revolution"

Thoughts?

[assley]

I think you hit the nail on the head. My man is just manly enough yet just sensitive enough. I like manly men. My opinion of a manly man isn't a beefed up, tattooed, horny douchebag. That's what is comes to. My dad raised me to want to be with a good southern gentleman. And that's what I wanted and found. He may not write poems but he takes care of me physically, spiritually, emotionally, and mentally.

[frankfava]

He's your Man and you're his Lady! that's so awesome! More people can take que from you and your man! You have your father and mother to thank for showing you the appropriate roles! Really great!

PS. It'd great if I can have best answer, I want to keep my percentage as high as I can!...you know, my flimsy male ego and all that. Thanks

[Little-Hippie]

This interpretation comes from many guys viewing the situation from the wrong standpoint.

It's a misinterpretation of the concepts of cause and effect.

They see girls with jerky guys and automatically assume girls are attracted to that kind of behavior.

In all actuality, it really has a lot to do with how much a girl is willing to put up with from a guy that she's very strongly attracted to.

And in many cases, she's willing to put up with a LOT.

They guys who typically exhibit "jerky" behavior do so because they don't have a reason to behave more civilly. And the women that they interact with have never really reinforced more livable behavior. From a 3rd party perspective, this ubiquitous situation makes it easy to think women actually LIKE jerks.

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SO BASICALLY:

1. Nice guys are generally guys who go after girls to who they're not nearly attractive enough to get away with being jerks to. Not that it would matter anyway because the "nice" act doesn't work either. Attraction is mostly physical even with women.

2. When a girl is strongly attracted to a very good-looking guy, that attraction is SO strong, she's willing to ignore numerous negative traits about him, giving him no reason to curb these traits. Rinse, repeat.

3. If most "nice" guys would just date girls who are less attractive than them, they would see that they can basically get away with being total jerks to these girls and they would still stay around.

[Rapandu]

Here is my opinion:

For men, attraction take place when they see the girl/woman (visual attraction). For women attraction takes place in their head, they need time apart in order to grow the attraction and also the feelings.

A good/nice guy tries to be all the time there for the girl. She has a problem, she feels lonely, she needs a buddy -> he will be there and never say no. In his mind will be: "How can I say no when she's lonely or she needs me". Being too often there for her, doesn't give her enough time to think about the guy and it will blow off the attraction.

A jerk or "bad-boy" with many option (when it comes to girls) will be there only when he needs something (sex for example) and she will have the time to ask herself: "does he want me, does he love me". Time apart and those kind of questions create attraction in a woman head.

Personally I can get almost everything from a girl that I don't like and nothing from a girl that I don't like. Just because I offer her (who I like) always attention.

Correct me if I'm wrong.

[MrOracle]

Many of those girls are simply shallow, and go for the guys because they are good-looking, or have money or social status, and they don't care how they are treated (or, at least, not enough to stop dating them).

Other girls are turned on by the "bad boy" elements of unpredictability, excitement, and danger, at least until those factors start affecting THEM in negative ways.

Third, these guys tend to be among the most confident guys around, and girls find confidence (and often arrogance, which younger girls often mistake for confidence) to be sexy.

Then they complain that "all guys suck" because the few they've chosen to date all treat them badly, never realizing that it's the girl who is picking guys from the same group over and over, for all the wrong reasons.

[BoobMan]

People just misinterpret what they are seeing. The interesting dichotomy isn't "nice guys v. jerks." It's "strong guys v. weak guys." Women tend to like strong men and actively dislike, or are repelled by weak guys. There's nothing to say a nice guy has to be weak ,nor a strong guy has to be a jerk. Women (obviously) prefer their man to be both strong AND nice.

So guys who are not doing well with women either because they are weak or project weakness, need to sort that out. It's not about being a jerk, it's about being strong.

[Anonymous]

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Their is two types both are both based on drama. Even though you want the nice guy you will get bored in age and when that happens your true nature will change you. Abuse and the ego are your egos. 99% of girls would never admit anything truthfull even on this site. All you got to do is blow alpha male sex lover stud up their ass talk creeper trash about other guy and you win most girls... Very trashy... It's better to get it right from the start and abuse them with drama. Other wise they hate you.. Why not it's even sexualy arousing to dominate. All girls want a alpha male...

[Anonymous]

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[sunjib]

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[prophecy]

no one likes jerks. of course there are exceptions.

"yes I do see attractive girls with the big hot shot guys" - that doesn't mean he's a jerk.

[toouglytobeloved]

glad to know decent girls exist in this world but is this for real or for some female ego boost

[assley]

It's my opinion. And I hate hearig that girls like jerks. I don't and any girl that does is sellik herself short.

[Anonymous]

Why do girls think guys like bitches so much that they made a book called, "Why Men Love Bitches" a best seller that spawned a sequel, "Why Men Marry Bitches" that was also a best seller?

[blackeagle007]

There's no question in this thread

[assley]

why do guys always say, girls like jerks?

example, "nice guys never get the girl, they like douche bags!"

[Anonymous]

There of course is some truth to it.

[Anonymous]

Cause were pigs. Horny Pigs. the more you will