How to deal with this wishy-washy guy?

[tshhh]

I'm a college student and there's a guy who is in my class who is showing me attention but is acting wishy-washy. When he sees me in class he's always flirting and chatting me up and asking me to go out to events with him but that hell give me more details so we can set a date. I know were both really busy people, with work and organizations but he never gets back to me with the details until the next class. Nor does he put in effort to contact me outside of class to see how I'm doing. He's not acting like a guy who is interested and I DON'T have anymore time for BS. Anyway, I'll be seeing him tomorrow in class and I'm sure he'll try to make loose plans with me. How can I tell him not to ask me out anywhere else if he's not gonna follow through because I don't want to play games? Or is that fine as is? I'm not mad at him or anything and I don't want to be rude because he's a nice guy, I just want to let him know not to ask me out if he's not serious. thanks.

[backspace]

I'll tell you my experience since when I think about it I might be doing something similar to the girls I like and would like to hang out with.

The thing is I see the girl I lake and she responds to my interest in her and then a gather the courage to ask her sort of out. And I even get a sort of positive response out of her but then I come home and start second guessing myself on weather she want's to go out with me or was she just nice. So then the next time I try to do it again to see if maybe I could really get her to go out with me and get a little more assurance that she at least into me a little but I come out second guessing myself again and begin looking wishy-washy to the girl and they eventually lose interest.

So I started thinking why I was doing this and figured out that it had to do with the way things used to be a long time ago and then changed. I got rejected really badly a couple of times and to avoid being in the same unconformable situation again I tray to do some sort of crappy sissy soft approach witch is something like the one you're getting.

Obviously I don't know the details but my advice to you would be if you like the guy show him some enthusiasm when he's trying to ask you out. Maybe even make it easy for him so that it will get his confidence level up and he'll be able to take charge. But don't scare him off by confronting him and taking charge because he'll try and hide or run away or something because he'll be thinking that he's incompetent and can't even ask out a girl on a date.

I don't know I'm speaking from my own experiences and perspective but I had quite a few situations that sounded just like this.

In fact I'm in one right now. I really started to like a girl that showed interest in me and I tried asking her to do something together that we both like to do to try and spend time together and maybe find the guts to ask her on a date of try and figure out if she likes me. But I'm scared of calling her up and asking her how she's doing or out to lunch even though she said that she'd we could go to lunch because I don't know if she was showing interest or is just trying to be nice to a guy she has absolutely no feelings about. So it can be tough unfortunately.

Hope you guys get it sorted and go on a date and have a great time. :)

[Racez]

Simply tell him that you're unwilling to go out with him.

[why-makoto-kun]

I would just move on. If he's wishy-washy like that, it usually indicates a halfhearted interest. I would just casually blow him off, or tell him the trust nicely. Good luck.

[why-makoto-kun]

*truth

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[asdaven]

Play a game back. Make plans with him and stand him up. Then make some excuse. Come off as flaky, that might make him back off.

[Anonymous]

maybe he is shy guy...why not you tell him how you feel when he talks to you next time.