So, apparently I'm attractive now?

[Anonymous]

So we move a lot, I've been to a lot of schools and I've met a lot of people.

All my life, I believed I'm ugly.

My friends teased me about it.

I got called fat at some point with one group of friends.

My mom thought I was fat at the time too (Not anymore though I'm 5'1 110 lbs)

I get asked out, but I've had a thing for a short time with one guy that I pursued and it was disastrous. I never go after guys now.

I get called ugly by guys but it might have been in a joking manner?

Fast forwarding to this month. Or perhaps this semester I was told I was pretty/hot by 4 different guys. And they are really good looking. My self esteem just went up like 100000 points. I've started noticing that a lot of guys actually talk to me, lots of chicks don't... I've always been stared at by guys, didn't know what it was. Now, I'm thinking maybe they did like what they saw.

I don't know whether this is a life changing moment for me or what the f***... But... Did I just transform over night? Was I always good looking I just hung out with the wrong people?

Can someone explain this "Phenomenon" That is happening to me?

[MrOracle]

You probably got stared at when you were younger by guys who didn't have the confidence to approach you. Now, as you get a little older, there ARE some guys who have some confidence, and they're hitting on you. Obviously, they think you are attractive, and you can pretty much assume that for every guy that hits on you, there are 10 or 20 other guys around you who WANT to hit on you, but they lack the courage and confidence to do so.

You didn't make it clear if you lost weight or not, but 110 isn't fat, even at 5' 1". You might have a few curves, but that's not a bad thing. Maybe if you were 140, and carried the weight in all the wrong places, then maybe you were fat. Again, I'm just speculating, since you didn't really give us much to go on. Maybe your friends were just jerks.

All that matters at this point is that guys find you attractive. Accept that and use that power carefully and responsibly.

[Asker]

I have lost the weight and ended up with 110 lbs.

But I workout 5 days a week. So I'm in a good shape. It took me a long time to accept that I'm not "Fat"

I've had female friends telling me that guys are too scared to talk to me because I'm pretty (Didn't think much of it) Come to think of it, I've had guys who thought I was DTF almost all the time.

It is just recently that the guys that now talk to me aren't a**holes.

Also I have a chronic bitch face. lol.

[MrOracle]

Okay, I'm getting a better picture now.

A lot of fat girls realize they are less attractive, and so they compensate by being more sexual. That makes certain guys assume that it's easy to bang fat girls (because that's often true). That's why you had guys assuming you were DTF.

Now that you're more physically attractive, you're getting a higher class of guy approaching you.

[Asker]

No... I was in an all girls private school (Sorry should've given more details) by the time I moved to a coed school the weight was gone.

By fat I was like 10 lbs overweight, maybe. More like chubby. It was 3 years ago, I can't remember how overweight I was exactly.

I know I'm being confusing, but that's why I'm so confused, myself. It just doesn't make sense. Unless somehow I look different from 2 and half years ago, I don't know what else could've made me attractive.

[MrOracle]

Well, GIRLS will think you are fat for 10 extra pounds, but guys usually won't. Most guys can deal with a bit of chubbiness. Was it girls who made you feel ugly?

Anyway, I really think the main thing here is that (at least some of the) guys are starting to grow up and mature a bit, and become more confident, so they're able to voice the feelings that they have, whereas before, most guys couldn't.

[Asker]

The extra lbs were gone BY then. I shouldn't have mentioned the "fat" it is unrelated the question really. I've been thin for 3 years. I'm small framed for heaven's sake.

Girls and boys.

[MrOracle]

Well, you are attractive now. Maybe a part of it was that you stopped caring what other people thought, and gained some confidence yourself. Being confident will always make you more attractive to others.

[DexHawk2]

Idk maybe the weight might have changed I mean I used to be almost fat . But then I looked at my self and I was like . " that's not my path ! I don't wanna go there " so I started playing sports , lifting weight , playing soccer all seasons . And then I started riding bikes ( motercycles ) and I started getting girls starring at me . Girls saying hi randomly to me I don't know why . And then coupe girls told me I'm cute ( I still didn't believe them ) . And then it got to the point where I was called hot / sexy ? So I don't know I think it was prob the weight issue

[Asker]

I dunno... I've been the same weight for 3 years now. But after spring break everything just seems so different... It's weird. Lol.

[DexHawk2]

Maybe your breasts gotten bigger lol ?

[DexHawk2]

I think what got me got is my motercycle lol

[Asker]

Motorcycles are only sexy, if the driver is one.

Nah they've been this big for 3 years now. LMAO!

I did however straighten my hair...

[DexHawk2]

There you go lol . And why are you hittin on my motercycle ? Lol ( add me lol ) I don't know why just do haha

[Asker]

Lol. kay.

[DexHawk2]

Yolo

[Koldhearted]

i don't think so

I used to think that I looked SO bad because of what I was told in high school. Then my ex before we started dating said I was "so cute"

I still didn't really think much of it, and they didn't really know I didn't feel good about my looks at the time. But I met her best friend and her best friend said I was a keeper, and her aunt gave me a haircut, and I didn't really it because it was really short and she was like "are you kidding?" and then said "you look hot" in a quite voice so her husband couldn't hear

now I feel like I'm gorgeous.

[Asker]

Hahaha, that's awesome.

I do think you look cute.

[Koldhearted]

Thank you sweetheart.

[Anonymous]

Doesn't help without pictures of before and after

[Asker]

As if I'd show a bunch of strangers my pictures. Don't wanna end up in DamnLOL thank you.

[Opinion Owner]

then this is a pointless question..

[Asker]

Well, maybe you shouldn't post anonymously next time cause this is a hypocritical request.

[Opinion Owner]

Says the anonymous question asker

[Asker]

Never said I'd post pix of myself though... Your argument is invalid.

[Opinion Owner]

Just sayin' the question is pointless if we can't see you

[Asker]

How is it pointless? I'm not asking if I'm attractive. I'm asking why all of a sudden guys think I'm hot out of the blue.

[Opinion Owner]

In your title, you point out "am I attractive"?. It wasn't actually written, but it's implied

[Asker]

You're reading too much into it then, babe.

[Opinion Owner]

No, not really, baby