Girl asked me to come see her at her job this weekend - is she flirting?

[Anonymous]

A really pretty girl who I catch staring at me told me that she is working this weekend at a restaurant and asked me to come by and see her at work. Do girls ever do that just as a friendly thing or is she flirting?

What do you say, girls?

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Lots of good answers so far, but it is funny how some of the girls completely contradict the others, ha ha. To set some more stuff straight: we weren't really friends or talked much, but other girls saw her staring at me and I even caught her a couple times. We would just kinda make small talk when we saw each other, and so she asked me to stop by and see her that weekend at work. Can you girls see how hard this is to figure out if it is just friendly or flirting? Ha, ha!

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+1 y

One more update: her coworker told me she has a boyfriend, but that he doesn't treat her all that well. So the plot thickens some more! I wonder if she is still hitting on me if she has a bf? Maybe she is wanting to leave him? Or maybe she just isn't hitting on me. Hmm...

[zasxzasx]

Hmm... Well, I myself have asked quite a few people to come by the restaurant I work at while I'm working, and not.

But it's never been because I'm interested in them.

I actually just want to bring more money in to our business! Haha.

I love where I work, and all our staff, including our boss, are like a huge family.

So the more people that come in, the better!

But on the other hand, if she's mentioned that 'it's going to be a rather quite night, so you should pop by' then there is a high likabilty that she is interested in being more than friends! Because then there will be time for her to talk too you, and she won't be in a mad rush serving people etc.

Good luck with yo situa!

[Asker]

Well, she just asked me to come by and see her - she didn't say anything else. Kinda tough to see...

[awesomedude8113]

That's a restaurant. If a girl that I suspected had a crush on me, but worked at a restaurant. I would think she's aiming for a higher tip. Just my 2 cents.

[Anonymous]

Yes, she's flirting... I had to answer the same question for a friend who works with me. If you get an invite to go to her solo, she's trying to get you to come see her. If she works at a relatively exclusive place and she's letting you know that you're welcome (and you're not her priest/rabbi or the guy doing her taxes), then she's flirting with you. If she greets you with a hug and a kiss as soon as you show up and stands way too close to you while you're with her, then she most likely had flirtatious intentions when she invited you...

[Asker]

Ok thanks for the answer...it is just a regular chain sit down type restaurant, not anything exclusive really.

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm. Idk. Usually if a girl takes the trouble to tell you "come see me at work" she's usually trying to impress you or to cheer herself up by arranging to see you during her work day.

[Asker]

Yeah...strange that she has a boyfriend though then, huh?

[Opinion Owner]

That is weird. Maybe they're broken up (or on the verge)? Maybe she is asking you over to see how you'll react to news (by comparison to him)?

[marissalr]

She's definitely flirting with you and wants to get to know you better.

[Asker]

How sure are you of this, young lady? Nice pics, by the way. You are pretty!

[marissalr]

Thanks:) I'm totally sure that is what she is doing! Don't overanalyze and go for it.

[Asker]

Now why are you so sure?

[FourStar]

I saw she wants to see you again, ask for her number.

[alchemy12]

Once I asked this guy to stop by the studio where I worked and I just meant it to be friendly. I said it to him because I thought he was cool and we were both trying to get our careers going by making contacts in the field. He misinterpreted my intentions.

But since you say she stares at you my guess is that she's flirting with you.

[Asker]

Yeah, I don't want to be the kind of typical dork who misinterprets girls hitting on them...I hate guys like that, ha ha!

[alchemy12]

Even if she didn't intend for it to signal interest beyond friendship, it wouldn't be inappropriate to assume that she did. As you said, it could go either way so if you did misinterpret, you wouldn't be "a typical dork." If you like her, you should just stop by her restaurant and see how it goes with her. If you are worried, you could bring a male friend with you so it's not so one-on-one and play it off like it's more friendly. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

I don't think any of the girls answers on here are contradicting at all. Almost every girl has said that she is flirting with you. Look at the answers again.

Why else would the girl want you to come to where she works? Unless she's just wanting to give the restaurant some business or she's wanting a big tip (no pun intended) then she wants to get to know you better,

[Asker]

Well...one girl said she has done this same thing and another said she would and it wouldn't mean anything.

[ladysweetT]

Flirting so far. I wouldn't want a guy coming to my job if I wasn't partially interested? Unless she's a server and wants a nice tip. She could be doing that to be nice and friendly, if it continues and she is texting or wanting to see you out of work and such then follow up with it and go with the flow

[Asker]

Yeah, she is a server. So it could very well be flirting to get a tip ha ha. Good point.

[jumperskim]

Depends on how she "saw" you. Could go either way. If she thought youd be cool to hang out with- then it could be just as a friend thing... If you saw you as someone she would like to get to "know", then yes, she could be flirting. She told you when she would be @ a certain place. LOL good luck. Kim :)

[Asker]

Well...we never really talked much other than really basic small talk. Not sure how to take it.

[XGoddessChildX]

I don't know man. Is she also touching your physically while talking lots? If so, I would assume she's flirting with you. :D

[Asker]

No, she wasn't touching me. That is what makes it confusing, ha ha. I would even be able to tell if she was touching me!

[XGoddessChildX]

yeah no doubt

[HaiHeyHello]

DEFINITELY FLIRTING. Give yourself some credit bud ;-)

[Asker]

Some other girls aren't so sure...just check the answers here, ha ha! Why are you so certain?

[yagirlx7]

I think she's flirting w you & wants to get to know you better

[Asker]

Hmmm are you sure it can't be just a friends thing like some other girls mentioned above?

[Anonymous]

Erm... well, I would say I think you're in there! ;)

[Asker]

Not yet! She has a boyfriend apparently...

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe things are not going well. Don't let that stop you, you're not doing anything wrong.

[Asker]

I am not a home wrecker! lol jk...I know girls do this and that is how they never seem to be without a boyfriend and can go from one guy to another so quickly because they will have the next guy lined up, ha ha.

[Opinion Owner]

Why, do they live together? Relationships break up, people move on. She might be the right girl for you.

[Anonymous]

i think that she is probably flirting especially if she stares at you a lot and you aren't really friends now. visit her!

[Asker]

Yeah - we aren't friends really other than very basic small talk for a couple min when we see each other.

[glamphotog]

Yes.

Well... unless she's a stripper.

[Asker]

lol

[awesomedude8113]

This is the best reply yet lol I'm inclined to agree with this man. Bartender, waitress or stipper. Otherwise, definite flirting, but VERY subtle at best.

[Arwens-Fire]

Yes she is flirting.

[Asker]

How do you know, sista? lol jk

[awesomedude8113]

She would not invite somebody she had no interest in to see her at work. Period.
I would seriously consider going up there man, otherwise you could miss out if she reels rejected. I also wouldn't read too much into it, start off as friends, don't rush things. On top of all, don't over analyze every single thing she says. This leads to obsession which is not good