Man, I have the same freaking problem with almost all of my friends.
I've found that I am quite a bore though, if you suspect this to be an issue, do something interesting, what do you both like to do that you can both do? Play video games, play a sport (Throw a ball back and forth while conversing, I don't do sports so I'm at a loss here), do a project together.
Now I'm comfortable with my being boring (mostly because all of my friends aren't interested in how many volts and amps it takes to power a coilgun, or how many isotopes Helium has), and I'm fine with that, I can curb and adapt myself to fit in their little circles for as long as it takes, it's mostly about compatibility. I've got several friends that I only keep around because they would think badly of me if I didn't visit and I can't have people thinking that, but they almost never just ask me to come up, so I have to invite myself, I've read and heard from people (going full nerd here) that spontaneity, just to shake things up, can make you more interesting, if you're an interesting person, people will want to hang out with you more, why do you want to hang out with this girl? Is she pretty, is she smart, is she good at Halo? What qualities does she possess that makes you want to hang out with her?
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She is blowing you off , nicely , respect what she wants and don't waste your time .
I had (had not have) friends like this and it's exhausting. Felt like I could disappear and they'd never notice.so I tried not contacting them for a month. Some people got in touch some didn't. I don't miss the ones that didn't and I don't miss feeling unwanted. Friends are a two way street, if you're not getting a decent friendship it's not worth chasing them around endlessly, too tiring and hurtful. I heard the other side from a woman who says she gets busy and forgets about people, she's so busy doing what she wants she forgets about the other people...but she doesn't forget some people, this says she's got the people she actually cares about and everyone else just tolerates. I don't want to be tolerated by friends. If you don't like me enough to say hi once in a while I'd rather spend time with someone who does. If she's quite young you could say something in a light way, like how come I never hear from you? (Smile) but then I'd let it go
Ask her. If this bothers you so much it probably takes away from having a great time when you are together, maybe you are afraid of saying and doing things that you would do if you felt more secure about your friendship. There is nothing wrong with wanting to clarify somethings you consider important. Maybe you'll discover something about her that you don't know.
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After you hang out, say next time you want to hang out just give me a call! If she doesn't call or text you, don't waste your time anymore. She isn't being a good friend.
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