Short Answer:
There is nothing wrong with a girl asking a guy to prom unless you're living in a town that's stuck in the 40s and 50s. I've been asked to prom before by a girl and I didn't find anything weird with it (other than that I was a freshman and she was a junior), but I did find it flattering. I think its nice when a girl shows genuine interest in a guy and has the guts to ask him out instead of waiting and wondering. Too many girls are too passive about it, if you ask me.
If the guy you like says no, its not the end of the world. There will be other guys, that are cuter, nicer, funnier etc.
Asking a guy to prom does not make you cheap. Being cheap makes you cheap, and nothing else. If you don't want to be cheap, chances are you won't be.
Long answer:
Approaching any kind of relationship or dating scenario assuming the other person can read your mind is a doomed approach in most any cases. Granted he doesn't have to be a mind reading when you're showing certain signs (body language, behavior patterns, etc.) but you have to realize that two things (at least) can go wrong here.
1. The guy doesn't pick up on the signs you are giving him.
2. He DOES pick up on your signs but wonders if he's just 'reading into things' too much.
So you could try subtly hinting at him and gambling on his ability to follow your breadcrumbs then see what kind of hand you get dealt. Or you can take matters into your own hands and go after what you want.
I say girls should take matters into their own hands and ask they guys they like before they miss their chance.
Girls have asked me to homecoming dances and prom. Some were just friends and didn't want to go solo. (Being single at these things used to be less accepted than it is now)
A few times I was asked, I had NO IDEA the girl was interested in me. Like MartialArtsManiac said, you can't expect guys to read your signs correctly in a lot of cases. I said no a couple times but never thought anything bad about the girl (except for one because she was a freshman and was just trying to go to prom all 4 years and I barely knew her).
Whatever you do, please don't get your friends to ask him on your behalf. Or even ask him if he likes you or wants to go to prom with you or whatever.
When you get your girl friends involved, it is REALLY ANNOYING. Whether a guy is going to say yes or no, it's better to keep it cool and low key.
Hell yeah, ask him! Practice what you'll say until you've got it memorized so well that even though you might be nervous, you can go on autopilot when you ask the guy if he wants to go to prom with you. He def won't think you're desperate. Can you see guys standing around saying things like, 'she asked ME to prom, she must not have gotten asked by other guys or she's trying to win a bet or something'
No way, I don't think guys usually think like that. If he thinks you're desperate, doesn't that mean he thinks he's not the ideal choice?
If you get turned down, smile or laugh and say something flirty or whatever. Even if you're horrified, act like it's no big deal. Maybe somebody already asked him? Who knows. Then, go with friends, a different guy or by your damn self and wear a sexy red prom dress that will make him drool! Red dresses get noticed big time so make sure you're comfortable with that. Wear a black dress to prom if you want to blend in a bit (lots of people pick black as the color of their formal gown and even little black dresses for sure). Or, my fav, glam it up in silver or gold metallic with sexy heels to match and shimmering body powder.
Look beautiful, dance, laugh, have a blast because it's your prom and because it'll feel good if the guy wishes he would have taken you to the formal!
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Guys can ask, girls can ask. Doesn't matter. You wanna go with him then go for it.
I think guys should ask girls to the prom. It wouldn't seem right for women to ask a guy to any major formal event.
But...if you do ask him and this guy says no then he is retarded girl!
In this day and age, it's actually the ladies' job to ask the guys out within any part of the United States of America.
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