I don't know what magic she's using for her breasts, but I want to know the secret. Gravity always wins; fatality.
These are some good points. I tend to be an intelligent soft spoken and polite date, but I think it depends on chemistry. Sometimes nervousness isn't an issue, and we can laugh about it later. Other times the guy or I just aren't feeling it and have to go our separate ways.
I work out and do the best I can, but if you are slim with natural Ds +, it's more difficult to keep them up. I agree, they probably are fake ha. I'm not doing that, so gravity will win... in time. But not without a fight!
I hate girls nowadays a lot of girls have big ego because of all that social medias impact and yet they are looking for some kind of princ.
1) Girls with high ego turn off! 2) Girls who think they are something special if they have 300 likes on facebuk (3000friends and 300 likes means that more than 90% don't give a shit about you) 3) constantly on their phone
Good points but pretty subjective... What to you means sexually attractive might mean pretty bland or even not attractive at all to the next person. You can never please everyone.
@LittleSally: You're right. It's a flawed list, especially because I also think there is a component of looks that makes the difference between sexual attraction and infatuation. And yes, obviously saying you need to be "attractive" is not all that helpful. Even though these things are subjective, it makes sense to aim for what will appeal to most people or be very mindful of your target segment if you're not.
But tbh I think any woman finding these things difficult might be better off simply being mentored by women who are good at one or more of these things: getting laid, having guys fall in love with them and maintaining sustained healthy relationships with them. It all depends on your current aim.
2 and 4 are mostly bull. I think women should be strong by standing up for themselves if they need to. Maybe having a sense of humor would be a good thing too. Being a "badass bitch" is taking it too far. That's basically a disguising you saying "I'm a feminist"! A lot of girls and women think "We have equal rights! I don't want to be treated like a woman! I'm equal to men in every way!" Well guess what? Were're not. We don't have the same parts, we don't think the same, and we don't always want the same things from life. Many "feminists" want to be treated equal, but then they expect guys to open doors and pay checks all the time. That's not equal, that's called taking advantage of being a woman.
I do think women should be treated with respect. However, I don't think just any woman can just slap a label on and call herself a feminist. If you want to be treated more like a man, act more like a man. I doubt any straight guy wants to date an almost dude.
I mean, I'm on the edge with this. All great points... save for the slut shaming. Many men prefer sexually promiscuous / open minded women, just like others like more modest chicks. Really dependent on the guy.
As I write this, I'm thinking of the past bfs who'd encourage me to wear more revealing outfits because they liked the way it looked on me hahaha.
Those are all good points but the main thing that puts me off is girls who look at dating as a box ticking exercise, it's not about you, it's about what you've got in your life that they like.
This should not be about what you "should" do to get this and that. This should not be about what to "be" and what not to "be," it should only be about "BEING yourself." Don't try to change your behaviour if that's not you, don't try to act in a certain way because that's how society wants you to act. Stop trying to attract people and let people get attracted to you, just because you're "you". Goes for both men and woman, boys and girls.
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This MyTake sounds more like a Feminist / confused wishlist rather than a list of things Men care about.
Be "competitive" , "strong", "courageous", "funny", "badass" ?
How lost must you be to think these are the qualities we want from a woman. These are all typically male qualities...
To each to their own, I guess. I mean if that's your preference, that's cool... but I see many guys that seem to have this repulsion to girls having a lot of sexual partners in general, and I just don't see what's wrong with it, if she did it while she was single or had a lot of relationships. I personally think it's unfair to judge someone on their past like that. But if it's a personal thing that you just want to have someone that hasn't slept around a lot so it feels more special, that's cool. I mean we all have personal preferences and dealbreakers.
Girls have an odd notion of who might be girlfriend material. A girl who can tear my arm off and beat me with the soggy end is not what I consider girlfriend material.
@Take Owner: I wouldn't consider her a strong woman, necessarily. Strength that is admirable about people isn't really their physical strength that's admirable and should be an inspiration but, rather, their strength in character. That's why I find some guys inspiring; not their physical strength, but strength of character.
I agree with most of what you said. But I loved that woman in the dress she is bladow. But yeah just because she wore that doesn't mean she's a slore. Because me as a man she can look like that and I want to get to know her but yes she has to have some of the other qualities you listed below. Every guy and gal look for certain things so I guess everything is fair as long as each individual has respect for themselves and others everything should be fine.
And no Ronda rousey does not make me respect women she's strong and is like one in a million. She talks about how guys do this and that. but she sounds like the typical. guy women talk about and because she might kick a regular guys ass she talks shit all the time but if a man does it it's not right. She should challenge a male ufc fighter if she really wants to be the alpha dog. But she's Hot
I agree with just about everything here... With the possible exception of being being intelligent and well-spoken, and being competitive. In my experience, that tends to send most (not all) guys packing, since a lot of them seem to want meeker girls that don't argue.
That being said, I agree that women SHOULD be intelligent and speak out for themselves. It just may not lend itself to 'catching a man'.
@Mesonfielde I try not to argue at all. I don't like it, especially with my partner. I especially don't shout.
I can understand why a guy would hate that; I'd hate it if a guy did that with me. But most guys seem to dislike a girl disagreeing with them at all, to the point of getting downright insulting if she has a different opinion.
There is a difference between being intelligent and standing up for yourself, and telling other people what they should do and arguing trivial points. It's not that most guys want a girl who will never argue, they just don't want someone who argues over petty things so that they find themselves having to walk on eggshells to avoid confrontation. Just like a woman who is in an abusive relationship, though not as physically hazardous.
Hah, if she has a valid point, I see no reason to argue any further. The guys you speak of are probably sexist and full of themselves and don't see women as people. They are not worth anyone's time. The type that the take owner said think women are nothing but cum dumpsters.
@zagor You're right, there is a huge difference between them. But I am referring to any difference in opinions, no matter how big or small. I've seen, time and time again, guys blow up because a girl doesn't agree with them on a subject. I'm not saying every guy does it, because they don't, obviously. A lot of them do, though.
I had a girlfriend for a brief time who would call me out on things. I kind of liked it, as sometimes I need a reality check. She was very logical and sweet about it, and didn't make it personal.
@GingerBear Actually I think most guys would go for an assertive girl not a meek one.. unless they have some inferiority complex... I'm an assertive girl most guys I know personally find that to be an very attractive trait.. Most guys want to know about your feelings, they want clear communication in the relationship... this is why you must be assertive in order forvhim to know what you may want or need from him...
@SweetAndSassy14 Well, I'm going off personal experiences, and what I've witnessed, and it still seems to be more common for a guy to dislike outspoken women.
You don't MAKE anyone respect you. If you try to make people respect you, you will lose all people's respect for you that they might have had. Respect is something you earn; not something you forcefully take.
I think that is what she meant in the first place, it is not like you can make someone respect you by beating them into submission. This is something that people often don't understand in parenting either.
Hey! Sluts and whores are people too, with a distinct personality and quality. They have rights! We should respect that! We should respect women regardless of how they dress or act, why judge and condemn?
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I don't know what magic she's using for her breasts, but I want to know the secret. Gravity always wins; fatality.
These are some good points. I tend to be an intelligent soft spoken and polite date, but I think it depends on chemistry. Sometimes nervousness isn't an issue, and we can laugh about it later. Other times the guy or I just aren't feeling it and have to go our separate ways.
I keep my breasts up by weight lifting.
that's a thing?
you can keep tits up by working out?
silicone implants, thats what she is using lol. they aren't real
I work out and do the best I can, but if you are slim with natural Ds +, it's more difficult to keep them up. I agree, they probably are fake ha. I'm not doing that, so gravity will win... in time. But not without a fight!
I am a C cup... Trust me if you convert the fat in the boobs to muscle, they will hardly fall
It takes time
I'm a 32D... it probably does take more time than what I've been doing (over 2 years of training). Thank you :)
fat does not convert into muscle.
Oh I know what she is using. They are called breast implants.
And the guy is right, you can't really make your boobs any perkier by exercising.
I hate girls nowadays a lot of girls have big ego because of all that social medias impact and yet they are looking for some kind of princ.
1) Girls with high ego turn off!
2) Girls who think they are something special if they have 300 likes on facebuk (3000friends and 300 likes means that more than 90% don't give a shit about you)
3) constantly on their phone
Honestly it's very simple:
1) Be sexually attractive if you want us to fuck you.
2) Be emotionally attractive if you want us to fall for you.
3) Be pleasant to live with if you want us to stay with you.
That is actually pretty valid.
Thanks @Mesonfielde. I based it off Helen Fisher's work:
www.ted.com/.../helen_fisher_tells_us_why_we_love_cheat
Oddly I've been told that I'm all three of those statements...
and I'm not complaining lol...
Good points but pretty subjective...
What to you means sexually attractive might mean pretty bland or even not attractive at all to the next person.
You can never please everyone.
Congrats on that @SweetAndSassy14.
@LittleSally: You're right. It's a flawed list, especially because I also think there is a component of looks that makes the difference between sexual attraction and infatuation. And yes, obviously saying you need to be "attractive" is not all that helpful. Even though these things are subjective, it makes sense to aim for what will appeal to most people or be very mindful of your target segment if you're not.
But tbh I think any woman finding these things difficult might be better off simply being mentored by women who are good at one or more of these things: getting laid, having guys fall in love with them and maintaining sustained healthy relationships with them. It all depends on your current aim.
2 and 4 are mostly bull. I think women should be strong by standing up for themselves if they need to. Maybe having a sense of humor would be a good thing too. Being a "badass bitch" is taking it too far. That's basically a disguising you saying "I'm a feminist"! A lot of girls and women think "We have equal rights! I don't want to be treated like a woman! I'm equal to men in every way!" Well guess what? Were're not. We don't have the same parts, we don't think the same, and we don't always want the same things from life. Many "feminists" want to be treated equal, but then they expect guys to open doors and pay checks all the time. That's not equal, that's called taking advantage of being a woman.
I do think women should be treated with respect. However, I don't think just any woman can just slap a label on and call herself a feminist. If you want to be treated more like a man, act more like a man. I doubt any straight guy wants to date an almost dude.
I mean, I'm on the edge with this. All great points... save for the slut shaming. Many men prefer sexually promiscuous / open minded women, just like others like more modest chicks. Really dependent on the guy.
As I write this, I'm thinking of the past bfs who'd encourage me to wear more revealing outfits because they liked the way it looked on me hahaha.
I didn't meant to slut shame- Live a slutty life. doesn't matter to me. doesn't affect me.
Cool beans!
well written girl.
it's hilarious seeing people switch up what you've written and then turn it into a shit storm.
anyway, i've never bought into the idea of not having my shit together to please men. great to see a likeminded individual.
Those are all good points but the main thing that puts me off is girls who look at dating as a box ticking exercise, it's not about you, it's about what you've got in your life that they like.
I secretly wondered where I could get that white dress...
:) Seriously though, great Take and I love Rousey's quote.
That white dress is awesome lol
This should not be about what you "should" do to get this and that. This should not be about what to "be" and what not to "be," it should only be about "BEING yourself." Don't try to change your behaviour if that's not you, don't try to act in a certain way because that's how society wants you to act. Stop trying to attract people and let people get attracted to you, just because you're "you". Goes for both men and woman, boys and girls.
This MyTake sounds more like a Feminist / confused wishlist rather than a list of things Men care about.
Be "competitive" , "strong", "courageous", "funny", "badass" ?
How lost must you be to think these are the qualities we want from a woman.
These are all typically male qualities...
You sound so stupid right now
oh my god the dress in the first photo
That is the ugliest, tackiest thing ever
Well nice take! I agree with you! 😊
But you should have added a little more points in the first part of your take
Like :-
1.) Liar 2.) Cheats on partners.. 3.) Is disrespectful (bad attitude) 4.) Is a gold digger 5.) Sleeps around a lot or has 6.) Flirts a lot etc etc
Thank you... Yeah I could of but I was in a huge hurry.
Oh ok... yeaa no problem..😊
1, 2, 3, and 4 seem like valid reasons. What's wrong with 5 and 6, especially 6?
@R3d_Anonymous - nothing is wrong but i would never make a girl like that my girlfriend...
Low number of sexual partners is good for me...
To each to their own, I guess. I mean if that's your preference, that's cool... but I see many guys that seem to have this repulsion to girls having a lot of sexual partners in general, and I just don't see what's wrong with it, if she did it while she was single or had a lot of relationships. I personally think it's unfair to judge someone on their past like that. But if it's a personal thing that you just want to have someone that hasn't slept around a lot so it feels more special, that's cool. I mean we all have personal preferences and dealbreakers.
@R3d_Anonymous - yes that is only a preference... I was only speaking for myself 😊
I just have one question...
Are those boobs superglued inside that dress or what?
Mate, your guess is as good as mine.
I'm gonna go with double sided tape most likely
Sounds comfortable...
Maybe those are fake boobs? Hahaha LOL
They don't look fake though...
Or, maybe she is like " imma real bitch" heheheb
omg I don't know how many times I've said these things... usually was faced with hate and disbelief
i just love you <3 lol
thank you
may you only meet chivalrous gentlemen haha
by the way can you comment on my reply when you post the other take? would love to read it
Why are you anonymous? You and I should be friends! Ok I'll tell you
Girls have an odd notion of who might be girlfriend material. A girl who can tear my arm off and beat me with the soggy end is not what I consider girlfriend material.
*Groan* Is everyone thick? I just used her as inspiration of what a strong woman should be!
Okay, but I think a lot of guys like a cute non-threatening girlfriend who will have kids and bring in some extra money.
@Take Owner: I wouldn't consider her a strong woman, necessarily. Strength that is admirable about people isn't really their physical strength that's admirable and should be an inspiration but, rather, their strength in character. That's why I find some guys inspiring; not their physical strength, but strength of character.
@Opinion Owner: Yeah, that's definitely true.
I don't know about you but I would love to be lesbian with her.
I agree with most of what you said. But I loved that woman in the dress she is bladow. But yeah just because she wore that doesn't mean she's a slore. Because me as a man she can look like that and I want to get to know her but yes she has to have some of the other qualities you listed below. Every guy and gal look for certain things so I guess everything is fair as long as each individual has respect for themselves and others everything should be fine.
And no Ronda rousey does not make me respect women she's strong and is like one in a million. She talks about how guys do this and that. but she sounds like the typical. guy women talk about and because she might kick a regular guys ass she talks shit all the time but if a man does it it's not right. She should challenge a male ufc fighter if she really wants to be the alpha dog. But she's Hot
I agree with just about everything here... With the possible exception of being being intelligent and well-spoken, and being competitive. In my experience, that tends to send most (not all) guys packing, since a lot of them seem to want meeker girls that don't argue.
That being said, I agree that women SHOULD be intelligent and speak out for themselves. It just may not lend itself to 'catching a man'.
If a guy can't handle you being better than them, maybe it's good for you to get them packing rather than nurse their egos.
Good point. I've always had to hold back with intelligence or opinions because guys don't like it... Maybe it's time for a change.
It is time for a change. A guy worth your time would want you to challenge him.
If you argue in an intelligent manner, then there is nothing wrong with that. If you just have a shoutfest, then no thanks.
@Mesonfielde I try not to argue at all. I don't like it, especially with my partner. I especially don't shout.
I can understand why a guy would hate that; I'd hate it if a guy did that with me. But most guys seem to dislike a girl disagreeing with them at all, to the point of getting downright insulting if she has a different opinion.
There is a difference between being intelligent and standing up for yourself, and telling other people what they should do and arguing trivial points. It's not that most guys want a girl who will never argue, they just don't want someone who argues over petty things so that they find themselves having to walk on eggshells to avoid confrontation. Just like a woman who is in an abusive relationship, though not as physically hazardous.
Hah, if she has a valid point, I see no reason to argue any further. The guys you speak of are probably sexist and full of themselves and don't see women as people. They are not worth anyone's time. The type that the take owner said think women are nothing but cum dumpsters.
@zagor You're right, there is a huge difference between them. But I am referring to any difference in opinions, no matter how big or small. I've seen, time and time again, guys blow up because a girl doesn't agree with them on a subject. I'm not saying every guy does it, because they don't, obviously. A lot of them do, though.
I had a girlfriend for a brief time who would call me out on things. I kind of liked it, as sometimes I need a reality check. She was very logical and sweet about it, and didn't make it personal.
@GingerBear
Actually I think most guys would go for an assertive girl not a meek one.. unless they have some inferiority complex...
I'm an assertive girl most guys I know personally find that to be an very attractive trait..
Most guys want to know about your feelings, they want clear communication in the relationship... this is why you must be assertive in order forvhim to know what you may want or need from him...
*for him
sorry for typo
*the typo
Dang it
@SweetAndSassy14 Well, I'm going off personal experiences, and what I've witnessed, and it still seems to be more common for a guy to dislike outspoken women.
And from my experience many guys want their women to express how they fell about the situation... lol
Holy shit.. you nailed it! As a guy that has very high standards, I can confirm that this is what almost all of us want.
I was kind of feeling it until you got to Ronda Rousey and then you lost me.
You don't MAKE anyone respect you. If you try to make people respect you, you will lose all people's respect for you that they might have had. Respect is something you earn; not something you forcefully take.
I think that is what she meant in the first place, it is not like you can make someone respect you by beating them into submission. This is something that people often don't understand in parenting either.
Hey! Sluts and whores are people too, with a distinct personality and quality. They have rights!
We should respect that! We should respect women regardless of how they dress or act, why judge and condemn?
We should. I don't know if you're being sarcastic, but if you're not, I actually agree.