So I'm logging back into GAG a Saturday later from when I first posted my initial post on the "12 Rude/Pigheaded Things Females Do" (I work a lot so I don't have a lot of time to get on my computer much these days) and many of the answers I see are exactly as predictable as I thought: "Woman hater," "Just ignore it and move on," "So much womanhating in this post, wow!" and of course the classic, repetitive "It's not just what women do, guys do the same things." Of course, with all the answers and comments that poured in, and having only just seen them today, I felt it was pointless to try to respond to them all, and don't really need to.
As a social observer - and having been writing an unfinished gender book for some time now - I see exactly the same types of responses again and again over the years, as I've used social media to prove double standards and contradictions when it comes to uttering gender topics, and people always get caught in the act.
If I had've posted about 12 Rude/Pigheaded Things MALES Do very few people would disagree with that or say, "It's not just men, women are like that too," and I have seen that several, several times on different sites I've tested the masses on, and GAG is no different. Most people would jump in and say, "Yeah, I definitely agree, great post!" or "Spot on, it's about time somebody talks about men's bullshit," and we all know this to be true. Even other males would be cheering in agreement. But because I posted about the 12 Rude/Pigheaded Things Females Do, it actually turns out to be "butthurt" females pouring in to say how it's "woman hating" and how "guys do that too." Females seem to think that giving the same tired answer that "guys do it too/both genders are rude" ends the debate. It doesn't. It only just shows that you have to use a come back to deflect the situation. Nobody ever said males can't be pigheaded, I just stated - in my experience - the 12 things females do that are pig-headed, and they couldn't deal with it. Males can be pigheaded and rude, sure, and when they are it's not uncommon to talk about it, and we don't see it as sexist to do so. But when you highlight any kind of nasty behavior from women, it just means you're whining and complaining. People can't handle it. They aren't used to talking about those kinds of things, because we've been trained to only notice anything wrong we think guys do, and trained to think that women have few disagreeable habits.
I've done the work to show just how true double standards against males are and how it's disregarded. Social networking is one of the best and most amazing ways to see this, because everybody in real life is hidden from view and feels free to say what they want. You can see questions/comments from female users that flagrantly jab at men, and get several responses from both men and women that either agree with her or further entertain her by adding jokes along with it. When I see this I sometimes test the masses and then ask the same question with women in place of men being disparaged to see what people do. The results almost always turn out to be just as projected: overall I'll get called a woman-hater, told I'm "generalizing" and that I shouldn’t do that, attacked for my question, or told I must have a small penis - the backlash can be varied and endless. Sometimes I even ask questions about both genders with the same subject to see the result. I once asked “What is something you can say to a man to hurt his feelings?” and the answers came pouring in from both males and females, some that users really didn’t mind taking the time to think up and answer with, and of course answers that were cutting jokes. Few disputed the question as being offensive to males. After that I asked “What is something you can say to a woman to hurt her feelings?” which got only a handful of answers, and most were to reply that ‘that’s not nice’ or that I was hating women. The double standard is proven every time, and when I present it to people they almost always admit it's true in either their defense of it or in trying to justify how it's not wrong to disparage males.
As a society we are constantly denying that sexism against males doesn't exist so that we don't have to admit to it - and sometimes we will only admit it if we can still blame men for it - but it does. In our modern age we are repeatedly taught to only notice anything that is "misogynist" or at least to only notice everything we THINK is misogynist, while we're programmed to be deaf and dumb to 'misandry.' Universities spit out new students and grads yearly - mostly female - who are paranoid and trained to call out or report any kind of sexism or injury towards women they think they see, so that society can keep believing that females are more hurt and held back by social imbalances, and so that we won't ever believe that there is indeed social bias towards males.
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