The Mind Of A Woman With High Standards 🙋🏽⬆️

[justbanANNAz]

Hey,

so you want to know my name?

I'm sorry if I turn out to be your next mistake.

You see, I'm not a bad woman, but I'm meticulous- I'm picky

about the kind of guy I want standing with me

at the altar one day... someday.

I am interested in nothing but a forever kind of love.

Yes you do intrigue me, this you can be sure of,

but I will never lead you on,

so that is something you must know.

I hope you've had enough of me

before I've gotta let you go.

It sounds so selfish.

Maybe I'm selfish,

because I'm unable to bear the pain of your shattered heart in my hands

rivers of blood over my skin of dry lands.

My eyes,

they see you in the end.

You're still there, but as my dear friend.

That doesn't help... I know.

I know.

It sounds so selfish.

Am I selfish

because I can't give you all my affection and my time

when I'm not yours, and you aren't mine?

Do you want me to lie to myself, to lie to you,

because you're drowning in me, while I've only dipped my toes into the waters of You?

I can't keep up.

I'm so sorry...

I'm just tryna build me a life.

I'm on hold to be somebody's loving wife.

I'm tryna be true to myself and loyal to my Christ.

I'm looking for a man to call mine

and mine alone.

No other woman made him take off his clothes.

No one else made him expose

the most intimate parts of himself

that only I want to get to know.

I want man who said 'no'

until I came along.

Maybe I'm selfish,

or maybe I deserve a love that's mine to hold

because I'm a woman who's repreatedly said 'no'.

I'm looking to make love

with his mind, body and soul,

A man who can work with me to build us loving home.

A man who inspires me to reach all of my goals.

I want us to teach our kids from when they're very little

that God belongs in the middle

of our lives and our dreams, and to never give up,

even if it takes years and years.

And, get ready for this-

I want a man with an agonisingly attractive brain,

some kind of a bank account, and a degree with his name

on it.

Of this I am unapologetically unashamed,

cuz for myself, I am aiming to achieve the same.

I ain't a gold digger, but I won't shovel dirt and call it gold

all because some people who lost hope call me out-dated and old

fashioned.

Take your 'realistic standards' and modernism some place else.

I'm not with the times anyway.

I'm perfectly happy being "out-dated".

It's how I'll find a love that makes it.

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Just some #spokenword for y'all to think about. Naturally, this will piss some people off, but hey, I don't write to entertain or suck up to anyone. I write to send out a message. Have a nice day/night =]

#proudlyoutdated

~ j.B 🍌

[MaskedSanity]

Your responses to criticism tell us everything we need to know about what sort of person you are and it has nothing to do with high standards.

You give attitude to every comment that isn't kissing your ass and honestly that's quite pathetic for someone your age. I expect this many snippy replies from a teenage girl, not a grown woman.

"i didn't write to impress you. I'm fine with your opinion, fuck yours too."
"think what u like."
"i wish you luck comprehending women."
"lol maybe u should read it then. if not, don't comment =]"
"am i not allowed to write about myself for once? get over it."
"girl take your bitchiness somewhere else lol."

Your inability to handle even the mildest form of criticism will always stand in the way of your happiness, not these alleged high standards. Telling people "cool story, bro/sis" every time they don't praise you is just...
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[justbanANNAz]

thank u for that thorough description of who i am. and u included a gif! I'm touched.

[ManOnFire]

Also make sure you have something to offer a man.
Standards are fine, and I have mine,
but women assume men have none,
and assume they're already fit and worthy of one.
Women just want to be wanted
so they can go about and flaunt it
that they got a man
who in awhile they won't have.
Pretend less about standards
and work more on manners
that you can bring to the table
and really flatter
a man of high value
that you will be able to capture.

[justbanANNAz]

i wish your comprehension were as good as your writing.

[ManOnFire]

@justbanANNAz I kinda feel the same way about yours. You often seem to say it/talk about it more than you really believe it or understand it, so that you can seem deeper than you really think you are. Pretentiousness out of ego, as I mentioned to you somewhere once before.

[justbanANNAz]

then why bother commenting?
how would you know anything about my depth or lack of it? or what i believe vs what i understand? like dafaq who are you even?
trust me when i say that my writing will continue to stay true to who i am, whether you like it or not, whether you think it's deception or not. your opinion is so invalid to me.

[MaskedSanity]

@ManOnFire

Nailed it, man. Simply brilliant.

[kaylaS91]

Well written!
However, can't say I agree with the shaming of 'realistic standards' and modernism as being any worse than your choosing to wait for marriage. The fact that some chose otherwise and are sexually active before being wed doesn't mean that their standards are any lower. Many, including myself, are not one of the extremes involving either being extremely promiscuous or conservative.

I'm quite selective with who I get intimate with and always have been. I find it interesting that some of those who choose otherwise feel the need to view themselves as with higher morals/values simply through choosing to abide by that cultural tradition.

[justbanANNAz]

i never implied that anyone or anything is better or worse. I'm writing about MY standards, without disrespecting anybody else's. I'm merely talking about people's attitudes to my standards. that doesn't mean to imply that i believe mine to be superior because they're mine.

[OlderAndWiser]

In my experience, when a girl says "I have high standards," that means she is not looking for FWB/casual sex/ONS/etc. It MAY mean that she is a gold digger but not necessarily. It might just mean that she wants her children to have a father of whom they can be proud, she wants to have a husband who is respected. etc. When guys fall short of that mark, they can be depressed about their failings and shortcomings in life, or they can get angry and call all women gold diggers, so most guys take the easy way out.

NEVER lower your standards!

[sawno]

A poem for a poem.

Hello banana what you say is true.
I have been looking for the same as you.

I want a girl to love with my heart
Who goes for me not just at the start.

Most are to blind to see the value of love.
When they can have lust with there dove.

Love is a potion i have once been told.
For lust it is true, it leaves you cold.

You are a girl who saw that light.
Keep going girl! You will win the fight.

The future is awsome as far as i see.
There is a great partner for you and me.

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Not the best quick improvisation text i ever wrote, but hopefully you got the message ^^.
People who follow me on the site know my views on love, and i completely agree its better to have one special partner to truly love rather then many failed relationships based on feelings and lust alone.

Keep searching, don't give up!

[justbanANNAz]

aw i really love that! that's so cute! u should really take up writing =]

never give up is how i roll, I'm sure you're the same :) keep it up! x

[VomitIII]

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Thank you for such a glorious and meaningful Tumblr sonnet. Indeed, your patience will pay off - as your pussy dessicates and your housecat collection grows, normal people will be in happy relationships. They're aware that a book written by nomadic sheep herders - one I doubt you even follow outside of trying to appear pious - is irrelevant, that a potential partner is not devalued by normal sexual relations, and that love transcends arbitrary, prudish standards like yours.

Have fun, future spinster.

[justbanANNAz]

thank you for that utter meaningless contribution, I'm glad you took the time to find a meme for me.

[VomitIII]

It took all of ten seconds to C/P it, and maybe another twenty to post. Glad you appreciate my effort.

[VomitIII]

For the record, I couldn't care less if someone doesn't want to fuck around before marriage. Your prerogative. But on the other hand, obnoxiously force-feeding people your preference as purer, cleaner, more Jesus-approved, etc. is quite flagrantly stupid. The Bible is not the book to choose if you want to claim moral high ground, or even any kind of consistent morality at all.

[CBryan]

The douché is strong with this one..

[justbanANNAz]

not force feeding anyone shit. you chose to read the take. I'm writing MY take, so i can write about myself if i want to. don't care what u think of religion frankly.

[VomitIII]

@CBryan: In the MyTake itself, maybe.

@justbanannaz: Part of takes is the opinion section, where (unless you disable it) assholes like myself will come by and rip your ideas in half. It doesn't concern me a whit if you don't care; I'm also giving my two cents on the subject.

And, since you chose to use some profanity in your rather unchristian response - something I'm sure you do habitually, here's something for you ought to see:

Ephesians 4:29
“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.”

It's always the stick-up-their-ass variety of Christians who tell others what the "superior" moral path is while only selectively following the Bible's laws themselves. You don't turn the other cheek or avoid profane and vain babblings, as you're commanded to; you ignore the commands entirely, unless they make you look good.

[VomitIII]

Once again, my point is that you do not have the moral high ground to vaunt your chastity over others. There are plenty of disease-ridden prosititutes I'd rather hear a sermon from.

[justbanANNAz]

your mistake is in thinking people who follow religion are perfect lol. that's cute. but see, you acknowledge you're an asshole, which is great, so I'm not gonna give you further attention. bye :)

[VomitIII]

I never said that religious people are obligated to be perfect, but I seem to remember Jesus teaching on not pointing out the splinter in your brother's eye when you have a log in your own. Unless you are blameless as far as the public eye is concerned, it's going to be difficult to propagate your ideas on right and wrong. Hypocrisy is something we all have, but still sniff out quite easily. Not that any of this particularly applies to me, as a non-Christian.

[Darklydarkened]

Okay now if I'm supposed to be impressed. I surely am not impressed.

This is just idiotic, seriously, no offense but fuck your high standards.

In my quite mediocre standards, a woman who writes these kinds of things are just wastes of time. Seriously, since when wanting a virgin, wealthy man is high standards? Even a 15 year old brainless gal can come up with these high (!) standards.

[justbanANNAz]

if you read the bottom, you'd know i didn't write to impress you. I'm fine with your opinion, fuck yours too.

[Darklydarkened]

It's not what you what, the thing is, if you truly believe that you've high standards, you're only fooling yourself.

[Darklydarkened]

*It's not what you want

[justbanANNAz]

i do, and if this makes you think I'm fooling myself, then I'm a fool. I'm okay with that. =]

[XRabbitHeartX]

I also have high standards and thought the perfect guy didn't exist... then I met my boyfriend and he changed my entire perspective. He ticks all my boxes, if not more. It is possible to have high standards and end up meeting someone wonderful. I didn't settle and I'd encourage no one to do that :)

[justbanANNAz]

im so happy for you, thanks so much for sharing that! x

[Phoenix98]

Beautiful piece, nothing wrong with having standards we all do or high standards as long as they are realistic, like you said we should never apologize for having them. Keep holding on you'll have that love someday, that life someday.

FYI dated people are the best we're classics after all.

[justbanANNAz]

preach it.

[Phoenix98]

Haha o I'm already on it !

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[AmericanPoet]

I like girls with high standards too. It means I can use them for sex because they will never find anyone to meet this false standard because in reality it is a defense mechanism. So after she's been through a bunch of guys and keeps finding herself alone she will call me because I am the best thing she's ever met. Sorry babe, I warned you how this would turn out. I'll just add you to the list of examples i'll tell the next girl who says she has high standards.

[justbanANNAz]

lol @ you.

[AmericanPoet]

at least you got a giggle out of it =)

[archiz]

so you want the guy to be a virgin too?
I don t think those are high standards at all.
Maybe most arabs have had a similar upbringing.
Like I always have in my mind that I want a good man, with a good education, good family, good reputation etc etc while I strive to achieve the same

[justbanANNAz]

mhmm.
i don't know, my parents didn't really influence that choice for me. i made it on my own.
but yeah, those are good standards to have. never settle.

[Splintercell]

Wow I'm impressed. I wish more women had this kind of high standards, not the ones like he has to have a six figure income and a sports are and throws around money like its nothing. You focus on the character of the person and the integrity, awesome good job!

[justbanANNAz]

well thank you haha, i appreciate it a lot. :)

[Spirit_Is_Free]

Maybe old fashioned but in a way I like it - I always prefer my women to be up front, strong and independent - I just hope she will listen to my views on a perfect mate and between the two of us we can see if there is a future for us.

[justbanANNAz]

thank you.
of course. it takes 2.

[WeeGeeTheSecond]

Hah. Yeah right. People love to forget that a woman with high standarts is a lot more modest than what is "described" in the take.
If you brag about being "high standarts", you aren't. You become a high school girl that brags by showing her smarts and tries to put people down.

I wish you good luck on your pussy slave relationships.

[justbanANNAz]

so because my tone doesn't impress you, you've concluded that it's bragging.
nice work.

i wish you luck comprehending women.

[RainbowFanGirl]

Nice poem. 👍

Let's hope that people don't shit on this.

[justbanANNAz]

thanks =]

[RainbowFanGirl]

And the shitty comments are up and running. Don't listen to these people. They are never pleased unless it is about men or about themselves in general.

[stlGuy22]

"They are never pleased unless it is about men or about themselves in general."

Haha... your saying women don't do this as well?

[RainbowFanGirl]

@stlGuy22 the women did! I saw.

[justbanANNAz]

thanks love, that's too kind <3

[ejx629]

Great poetry as always.
I'd tell you not to listen to the criticism about your standards but I know you're smart enough not to. These may not be everyone's standards but what's important is that they are YOUR standards and you don't have to justify them to anyone. Just be true to yourself.

[justbanANNAz]

thanks :)
i appreciate that.

[skeptic007]

the adulteress will hunt for the precious life she will not find it

warning
For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.

He will not regard any ransom; neither will he rest content, though thou givest many gifts.

hun you are funny

[justbanANNAz]

cool story bro.

[aliceinwonderland69]

A girl looking for a virgin guy. That flips the script. Yea it's up to you who your with. But I hope you can find someone who measures up otherwise you might end up lonely.

[justbanANNAz]

am i not allowed to write about myself for once? get over it.

[aliceinwonderland69]

You are allowed to write about yourself. I am allowed to write about what you write. I think that's how this works.

[justbanANNAz]

girl take your bitchiness somewhere else lol.

[Transigence]

Wow, you did not deserve that. Some people really don't get freedom of expression (and public spaces). They think your speech is somehow silencing them.

What you said was a mild caution. Her reaction shows that she was expecting to get heat from this, and is viewing these responses through that lens.

[raio81597]

You didn't deserve that and she doesn't want to think about that, possibility that she could end up alone. I think everyone has flaws and imperfections, high standards are one thing yet overly high standards are another, that would speak to perfectionism and or shame, however I don't know her personally, so no reason for me to judge. I however would have said my high standards include Integrity, character, etc.,, etc. that's just me. I see a lot of generalization here with this take.

[allahu_snackbar]

You know how may people there are who have degrees and still couldn't organize a piss up in a brewery? Anyways, as long as you got da standards and dem brainz on a par with what you expect; then you have my approval, do carry on! ;p

[Steelcore1085]

Did you really just say a woman with high standards won't play mind games with a guy? They do that shit all the time! They play so many mind games that eventually a man doesn't even know what to do in the end!

I think you're lying on that part.

[justbanANNAz]

think what u like.

[FatherJack]

" Settling " is bad for anyone , regardless of gender. It is better to be single forever than have crap , mediocre partners , so nothing at all wrong with having standards.

[oddwaffle]

Everybody can have their own standard. However, relationship is a dance of two. Be careful of your steps, less you find yourself dancing alone.

[justbanANNAz]

never said a relationship is a dance of one. thanks.