This isn't a hate article; more importantly, this isn't a "men are better than women" article. I am writing this article, because I want to hear from women why they date the men that they do. I could have wrote a simple question... BUT I wouldn't be able to articulate all of my thoughts with such limited details. So, as you read this article, please do not get offended by what I am saying. I am just speaking my mind and looked for answers. Let's begin with the reason why I am writing this article.
About a few years ago, I met this girl and she was really smart. She was working on a college education, getting her life together and was very intelligent. She was the type of woman that could have went places in life. The last time I saw that girl was a few years ago, and then we eventually lost contact.
Do you notice how I am using past tense? Well, I was watching the news recently, and I saw her on the news. I came to find out that her boyfriend murdered her. I was shocked and stunned because I recall talking to that same girl a few years back... and now she is gone. I did some more research on the case and I got a good look at guy she was dating. Here is a basic description of him:
-Tatted up and had some face tattoos
-No real job
I've been thinking about this for a while... and it doesn't make much sense to me. Obviously... this is a sad case; however, thinking about life, I always see women dating loser men. This is what I would like to discuss in this "myTake".
Qualities of a "Less Than Reputable Men"
Before I share my opinion, let me tell you another story. I recently went on a date with a girl. Conversation was good, she had a great personality, she was confident, wanted to do well in life and she seemed like the whole package. HOWEVER, towards the end of our date, she dropped a bomb on me. Here is exactly what she told me:
-She had a 7 month boy (doesn't sound too bad)
-The baby's father is still in his life (at least he is helping out, right?)
-The baby's father doesn't work (bad)
-The baby's father doesn't have a car (bad)
-The baby's father only source of income is the drugs he sells (extremely bad)
-The baby's father, this girl's ex, only got her pregnant because he wanted to "keep is legacy going". Once he got her pregnant, he left her and got a few more women pregnant (extremely bad).
-He has 4 other kids and 4 other baby mamas (wow...)
-He has no real job training, no college education and has been in and out of jail (extremely bad)
She told me that she has been dating this guy on and off for the past 8 years. She told me that when she goes out with new guys, he gets jealous and "claims" he wants her back... BUT he has other women on the side. So, he "traps" these women by getting them pregnant and that is his way of having a lot of women in his life and always keeping them around.
Do you see the traits this guy has? Do you think he is a "winner"? I often see women hanging off the arms of men like this. They act like a guy like this is a "real man". He is a "real man", because he is edgy, does whatever the f*ck he wants and other women want to be around him and are always trying to get his attention.
Fun Fact - I've seen a lot of "losers" in my life. The funny thing about men like this, is that they always have a "supply of women". I always see men like this with beautiful women or women who are vying for their attention. WHY?! What makes these men worthy of your time and energy?
Qualities of "Reputable Men"
Before I share my opinion, here is another story for you.
I have a friend, and he is now a lawyer for a law firm. He is a very successful and driven dude and has all the potential in the world. He is very well traveled, did some time in the military, is educated, well mannered, articulate, well dressed, charming, very respectable and has a great job. Obviously, when describing a guy like this, you would think that women would be all over him. WRONG.
I was eating lunch with him one day, and he told me how women are never interested in him and how he has been single for a couple years. He could talk to a girl about a variety of topics, tell the girl about his travels, really try to get to know the girl... but the girl would either show lack of interest, tell him there was no connection or they ghost him after the date.
Do you see the traits this guy has? Do you think he is a "winner"? I often see women ignoring this type of men or they make him work harder than the "less than reputable men" and they don't seek the attention of this kind of man.
Fun Fact - All of my friends, the people I hang around, are winners. They are the type of men who went to school, have careers, are successful and are looking for a good woman to spend their life with and start a family with. However... women seem to ignore these type of guys. The call these type of men boring and then they ask, "Why is this guy single? He seems like such a good man". I see this far too often.
When I look at society, it's full of single moms these days. Society is also full of kids with no manners and who grow up to be future criminals. Do you know why so many kids have issues today and why so many kids turn to crime? It's because it's in their DNA.
I always see women having children with "losers" as with the story I mentioned above and then the cycle continues. The reason why society is so messed up is because women keep having "relations" with these kind of men and bringing up a child in that kind of drama.
Actually... I saw this video online. Go to the one minute mark and watch all the way to 2:08.
So... what fascinates you ladies about loser men?