Just being one of the guys!

[Wowgirl30q]

My problem with girls who are "Just being one of the guys".

A Guy's Girl

Everyone has met this type of woman. The one who claims that she's "just one of the guys" and has no female friends. She's that girl whose social media pictures always has her surrounded by four or five different guys.

Yeah, that girl the one who claims that she's so chill and hates drama brought on by other women.You know these girls and so do I. We tend to just dismiss them as shady, slutty, or warn others to stay away from them. They definitely have some personal issues going on these girls do.

My question is to her, what is a matter with you to the point that you cannot even get along with individual's of the same gender as yourself?

Real Talk

I already know the real answer to this question. I don't need random excuses from a female who can't even relate to other females. How about I just tell you instead why I have a problem with a girl "just being one of the guys".

I'm not going to generalize that all women like this are the same, this is just from my experience. So, try to keep the bitchiness at a minimal please.

They need zero competition from other women. You have no self-esteem and no self-respect or you would not be uncomfortable around other women in general. Women who have no self-esteem tend to sleep around more trying to make themselves feel better about who they really are as a person.You have no girl code or loyalty to your own sex (pathetic) you just honestly straight-up lack good personal character.

They end up having no close female friends. Girls like this don't realize how much time they're wasting by investing so much in these male relationships. I'm not saying girls shouldn't befriend guys. But when you get married I bet your husband will not appreciate or tolerate loads of other men around you all the time.

They need validation from males. I feel the main problem with these girls is that they desperately want to be validated by men. It doesn't mean that they like every guy they hang out with. But they seem to want to know that they're acceptable to the opposite sex for whatever odd reason. This ties back to daddy issues or cheating boyfriend problems in her past.

Deep down inside, these girls are extremely insecure. Maybe that's why most girls don't like them they can sniff the attention she desperately wants from men. That's why most guys will hang out with her and maybe hook up with her but they'll never consider marrying her. I mean she is after all "just one of the guys".

No Girl Code

It seems like a big part of it is that many of them just crave male attention. They need that esteem boost or some other sort of fulfillment from the attention. Most of the time they also flirt with all of these male "friends" even when they're in relationships because they need all the attention they can get.

Their insecurities push them to need a lot of male attention. When they're with other women, now they're not the main focus point. Even worse maybe one of her three guy friends thinks the other women present is more attractive then she is and that just kills her so much inside.

Conclusion

For nearly all of them, "I only hang out with guys" is 90% of how they define themselves. It's what makes them think they are unique, quirky, strong, independent, drama-free, cool, and whatever else they think it makes them. All I see is a weak female that needs friends of both genders, therapy, and a realistic view point of what friendships are really about which is individualism and is not gender specific.

Thanks for reading...

#WowgirlRocks

[beebella]

As a girl who mostly hangs out with guys, I don't think I've ever claimed to be "one of the guys", simply because I'm not a guy. I hang out with guys because a lot of females aren't interested in the things that I'm interested in and vice versa. And it's not that I can't get along with females either, I get along with most people that I meet, regardless of their gender. I also think I might tend to gravitate towards guys more because my family is male dominated, so I've kind of just been surrounded by men my whole life. 😂

[Wowgirl30q]

Got ya😃

[beebella]

😁💙❤

[LMNOP123]

Spot on spot on. I never thought of this before but it makes a lot of sense. Girls like this always annoyed me for some reason and I always thought something was off with them. This explains it!

[Wowgirl30q]

Thank you

[orangecherry]

No it doesn't

[Kiran_Yagami]

Sounds about right. I'd think the same about a man who was always around women and never around other men. He's either gay or unbelievably insecure.

[Spiritwander]

Well, I'm one of those guys, and it's not because I'm gay or insecure...
(... but it's because I like snickering w/ the girls about guys that talk like that to mask their own insecurities...) 😉

[crazy8000]

You have a lot to grow and learn 😉

[Spiritwander]

I'm sure someone would like to think that, but my time is up.
Now I'm just here to haunt people as a fading memory.

[monkeynutts]

The chick with the hot dogs in her mouth that is priceless.

[Wowgirl30q]

I liked it

[monkeynutts]

It's interesting, some girls really like loads if attention. So they associate with mostly men. They in general like being around them too.

[Wowgirl30q]

Probably

[IvanPosl]

Yeah

[PainfullyHonest135]

I think its really a case by case thing Darling, you really need to look farther into the simply "most of my friends are guys" and really look at the backstory.
Let me tell you i got a history with the girl im currently dating who fits many of your points. She mostly hangs out with guys, to the point that according to her, they sometimes wonder if she has a penis (fyi she doesn't, i confirmed it lol), many of the girlfriends of her dude friends hate her because of it, she has trouble making female friendships, and all in all is treated as another one of "the guys". She is also super teasing/flirtfull, has pitiful to non-existant self esteem, and is overall insecure and has a terribly view of herself and her looks (despite being fucking gorgeous).
Now that the bad is out, lets cover some reasons, cuz its easy to simply look at the bad and judge from there, have no sense of empathy too see where someone is coming from.

This is a girl whos biological father never showed up, the man her mother was dating at the time decided he would take care and raise as his own a daughter that wasn't his. Her parents divorced around age 10. She lost her virg at 15. Around the same time, she developed clinical depression, due to bullying by girls, and at home her mom was dating a pedophilic dude who would spy on her showering, wank it in public in the living room till she filmed him doing both and threatened to blackmail his ass to stop. The whole ordeal made her attempt suicide, her mom never found out. She grew up bi, her first, and oldest female friend, she dated at 16, broke up, but still remain close as sisters. Started working at 18, sustaining her jobless mom. At 19, her mother in a tantrum, kicked her out, she's been independent ever since, lives by herself, no help. Being a avid gamer and very introverted due to her shyness, low self esteem, social awkwardness due to her childhood, she mostly interacts online, which, in south america, most girls dont do gaming, which results in most of her friendships being males. She is a hell of a tease and flirt, but in reality, she is now a days, borderline asexual and practically hates sex due to the shit experiences she has had with guys. When i met her at 20 years old, she was in an abusive relationship with a guy who broke up with her 6 times, cheated on her, and raped her on one occasion. All while, dealing with depression, with no medication or therapy.
She has a mountain of problems, many of which manifest more often than not. Many of which are toxic, and bad habbits which i try to manage and some distance myself from, to this day its an ongoing thing. But at the end of the day when she isn't writing to survive, deep down, she is one of the most terrific, caring, and beautiful people out there, with a lot of potential. And by no means, would i consider her Weak. She is 24 now, and Hell, id bet money every girl in this thread can't reach her ankles in terms of strength. She is a badass.

So next time you see a girl who is "one of the guys", try to look a bit deeper instead of simply dismissing her as fitting into your stereotype.

[Wowgirl30q]

I have a degree in psychology but thanks for the tip

[Gavyn]

@Wowgirl30q With all due respect, having a degree in psychology doesn't mean your perspective is accurate to most or even some of whom you're generalizing about.

[Wowgirl30q]

@Gavyn okay😊 whatever you say sir

[Wowgirl30q]

Psychology has nothing to do with behavior patterns 🤷 it's about farming I guess

[PainfullyHonest135]

Forgive me but what does psychology have to do with what i said?

[Cheetah23]

It doesn't, she's just a meme.

[Supernatural_fanatic]

A psychology degree is one of the easiest to get no offense. You really don’t learn much from it. Now a PhD in psychology is different.

[Wowgirl30q]

@Supernatural_fanatic but you have niether so how would you know? That's right you wouldn't ❤️

[Supernatural_fanatic]

I’m not sure how you know what my education levels are but ok... Just stating facts so you realize you’re not all high and mighty like you think you are.

[AllNeedsABalance]

@Supernatural_fanatic she just has a superiority complex. Psychology is a subject many take along their own degrees because that's how common it is. It's literally nothing special. Took a few psychology subjects to fill up elective space. It's not hard.

[Supernatural_fanatic]

@AllNeedsABalance yeah I suppose I should stop trying to convince her of anything.

[Wowgirl30q]

@Cheetah23 I don't know what a meme is

[Wowgirl30q]

@Supernatural_fanatic your not old enough to have a degree so easily

[Wowgirl30q]

@AllNeedsABalance you have one the hush little boy

[PainfullyHonest135]

WowGirl30q What exactly does a psychology degree have to do with anything? This girl once tried therapy at 18 after a suicide attempt and the idiot accused her off lying, after which she quit therapy and very nearly tried suicide again because of that.

All your reply tells me is you are smug, have a super-complex , and lack emphathy because you think you know everything.
Care to prove me wrong, state what the hell your degree has to do with this, and also state if you think the girl in question fits into your criteria of people.

[BluesheepOwl]

Completely agree with all of this. This is so true! I knew a girl in the dorms who was "one of the guys" and only had guy friends. I knew her because she lived on my floor and we talked occasionally. She came off really nice and she was from Turkey. She was studying theatre. I ended up going to a play so I could write an extra credit paper for a class. After the play me and this guy started talking. He was one of the actors in the play and we instantly hit it off. This Turkish girl was the person who would sew the actors outfits for their characters. She was friends with him and all the other actor guys. She was also friends with all the guys in the dorm. The next time I was in the theatre building I ran into that guy again and we exchanged numbers. We planned to set up a date. The Turkish girl overheard everything and I think she had a crush on the guy or she was super possessive of him but she got involved and did some messed up shit. One day the guy stopped talking to me and it really bothered me. I thought maybe he was a douche or a fboy so I tried to forget him since he basically ghosted me. I find out from a friend who is kind of friends with the Turkish girl. The Turkish girl was bragging about how she told the guy I was talking to all kinds of crazy shit about me and told him to stay away from me and that I am a crazy bitch. I was shocked and angry to find out. I wanted to say something to her and put her in her place but at the same time I didn't see the point. I was also inclined to say something to the guy but I thought if he can be easily manipulated, then he's not worth it. Also he ghosted me and that was a dick move. I remember before I found out that she ruined everything I was in her dorm talking to one of her roommates. She came up to me telling me that the guy was asking her questions about me and wanted to know a lot about me since she told him we are good friends which in my mind I was like, "Good friends? Um... ok.." Like whatever. That was probably the time she told him all those fake things about me. I remember asking her what he asked about me and she was almost withholding the information even though she was the one that brought it to my attention.

[cherryqueen01]

I only have male friends. I am pretty socially awkward and quiet and pretty much all women i've met have no patience for it while the type of guys i've befriended does not care. I would like to have female friends some day though. And yes I don't like the competition that females often have with each other. I don't like gossiping and talking bad things about other people. I have dumped former female friends for trash talking another female friend to me because I felt that if she does that about someone else behind their back she's fake and i'm not gonna waste my time on her or partake in that because if anything that behaviour is insecure and i'm not so insecure that I need to put others down. Until I meet a woman similar to myself i'll be fine with my male friends. I can be fully myself with the friends I have and they don't complain that I should be some other way like most women i've met have. I don't claim to be "one of the guys" either, i'm just me and I happen to have the friends I have. I don't go around making a big deal about their gender i'm just happy to have them, same as if they were women. I don't see myself as "quirky" , "drama free", "cool" or anything else either.

[Wowgirl30q]

I appreciate your opinion and thank you for being respectful

[Elaine3]

I'm really shocked by this bitter and petty and generally bitchy my take!
I'm a girl that mostly has all guy friends, I don't consider myself quirky or unique nor have I slept with a single one of my guy friends. I actually go out of my way to ensure that my friendship remains completely and utterly platonic with these guys.

Growing up my mother was emotionally abusive at times and I was bullied throughout school by groups of girls, the only person I could rely on was my brother and by extension, his friends.
When I got older I pursued a career that was female dominated and again met with endless bitchyness, drama and bullying. I've since switcher career (to one the is male dominated, by pure coincidence) and I am much happier. So I have male friends from work and from the sports that I play.

So my suggestion to you is, as one other answer said, take each person as an individual. Some of us are just mentally geared so that we get on better with guys. It doesn't make us sluts or attention seekers and it doesn't mean that we manipulate guys we are friends with. My guys are like my brother's, I love them like family and could never even imagine dating them.

And my other suggestion, try not to be so mean to other girls. To be honest, the personality you have shown in this my take is the reason I keep away from girls

[Wowgirl30q]

Anytime thanks

[ScottSummers]

You are fantastic, i can see why you have so many cool friends. Never change.

[Wowgirl30q]

@ScottSummers I love Cyclops shit...

[Elaine3]

@ScottSummers thanks lad!

[AaceN]

I can see where you feel this way, and I can't argue that this type doesn't exist at all. I know two males who are deep down very insecure and only hang out with females.. I do believe it makes them feel better and more validated. However, I will say as a woman who hangs out mostly hangs out with guys, I can't say this is true for myself.

I've never said that I was one of the guys, and I do have a few close female friends. I get along with both males and females. I can't really explain it, but I just feel closer to guy friends. My first ever true best friend started in elementary school who was a guy. Then, getting into middle school, I did have some female friends, but they never had the same sense of humor as me. I always loved being around my male best friend in middle school because we could poke at each other as much as we wanted with no hard feelings. I still love the girls that I was around. We had fun, but for me, I just wasn't interested in talking about the talk of boys. In high school, I had one really good female friend and two best male friends. Again, I hung out more with guys, but it just was always more of interests. The guys and I were in robotics club and did competitions... I knew no girls who did so. Finally, when I went through college, I had mostly guy friends, but I absolutely LOVED my roommate who was female. She got me, she had the same sense of humor, and she liked what I liked.

[Wowgirl30q]

As long as you have some your good😊

[GraveDoll]

Nice take and agree on many points.

I have tons of male friends but my female friends are my backbone only because I can relate to them more. At one point I was worry I will never make female friends. I didn't want to be a "flower." But I met my frist Scorpio female friend (she had it tat of it on her leg so it was like a female with tats cool) I got two myself later on. still my main chic nickname her sting. she let me know it ok to be tough and still be pretty. All the females I know hold their own shit.

I dont understand soft-hearted females and they find me cold as hell. Not sure why? our relationships always end (it fell like a masculine/ relationship to me? hard to explain) so I just dont bother with them. I always hurt them lol (seriously it weird how those friendships work<_<)

SO any female who claims they dont connect to females is not trying or looking for the wrong kind.

I love strong-minded women (no homo) Im like this with my male friends too though. All alphas I love them all.

[yeneiri]

Me too has a lot of guy friends. Ever since i was a kid i am surrounded by guys. First, i have 5 brothers and no sister. In all of my first cousin, we're only 3 girls and the rest are boys. I'm used to be very careless and usually fighting with girls that's backfighting my other friends may it be girl or boy friend. We are also a family of musician band and my bandmates are all boys. I have a few girl friends and most of the time, they are just like me that is more comfortable being with guys than with girls. I don't see anything wrong in having a lot of guy friends. Most of the girls doesn't like my hobbies so i usually go with my guyfriends. We do hiking, martial arts, hunting wild animals, playing metallica songs.. Most of the girls won't like to do it.😂 i usually see those girls that shows they like it coz they wanna date with one of my cousin but she never lasted.😅
I know it's quite weird but i feel more protected or secure if i'm with my guy friends. I've been in 2 relationship and they both accept who really i am. Being with my friends was never been an issue because they both know who surrounds me. But i can't tolerate bullshits and fuckboys. Cheating once is enough to left a guy for me. And i'm very easy to have a trust issue and easy to be irritated. That's the thing.😅

[Wowgirl30q]

I do MMA 😀 I understand that part. But you said you had some female friends so I see all you said as fine nothing to do with self esteem

[Kaneki05]

Okay okay i get were you are coming from.

But i don't think useing words like calling them pathtic helps. One of my friends who i was never really close to we don't really talk after leaving school.

She was very much a girl who likes guy friends better, and she very much is an attenstion seeker and makes up stories and probably does cheat on some before.
But i think at the end of the day like you said they are inscure and i know been inscure is not a right to be able to cheat or be slutty but i don't think we should call this very inscure girl a slut or pathtic.

Like my friend for example i think she is very hurt and broken on the inside and she seems very inscure, but the right approach wouldn't be trying to call her stuff. I think a better way of handling it is by been a friend and been sympethtic to them.

And try understand there inscure minds and tell them everything great about them and help them grow to better themselves.
Cause then they will be less inscure and like that.

[thelurker2019]

you said it thank you for respecting people like that god bless you in the end of the day they're just humans who need a little boosting there's nothing wrong with them

[Kaneki05]

@thelurker2019 thanks for agreeing

[Shutupman]

Interesting view.
Being someone that prefers to hang with males myself and prefers male friendship above females, I do not agree though.

I am far from insecure or attention seeking.
I don't like most women because I simply have little in common with them, except for a uterus that is.

I do try to connect with them, I just find most women boring, self centered and plain weak minded. There are exceptions of course and I will always be nice to them I just won’t feel a deep friendship connection to them.

I never slept around, my guy friends never saw me as someone to just sleep around with. In fact most guys I’ve known were fine being friends or wanted to date me. Most guys saw me as girlfriend/ marriage material cause I’m an attractive woman but also their best friend they have a lot in common with and they knew I had self respect.

I am married now, my partner has no issue with me being able to relate to guys more. His friends like me, he doesn’t have to worry about me hanging out with his group of friends and things being awkward.

[Cheetah23]

You've confused 'one of the boys' with girls who don't have any female friends. The two are not the same. & looking at some of your sentences, you judge any girl who has a lot of friends that are guys, even from something as little as her pictures, as people who can't get along with other girls. When did belittling other girls become more acceptable to having a lot of friends that are guys? I've been called one of the boys by my guy friends, but I still have girl friends. They're just not always in the same social group.
You're acting like you're better than them for... no reason. YouTube R/NotLikeOtherGirls.

[_Jay_]

R/not like other girls is reddit though... youtube has reddit reading videos only... am i missing a joke?

[AllNeedsABalance]

@_Jay_ she means channels like soothouse. Youtube is more popular than reddit

[_Jay_]

I mean yea i got that but like why reference to a reddit thing as if it came from youtube like everyone knows reddit

[AllNeedsABalance]

@_Jay_ cause not everyone uses reddit. I learnt about those concepts through Youtube too.

[Texaskid1]

They crave male attention and resources.
Can men and women really be platonic friends? No. There will always be one of them that wants something more than a platonic friendship. Usually one party suspects this and decides to use that to their advantage. If a women is young and attractive she knows that every guy out there wants a piece of her. Women are not stupid. They know how to manipulate men to get them to do things for them. One man to driver her around town , another man to make car payments for her. Another man to buy her expensive diners , another man to just chase her around and stroke her ego. etc.

Of course every guy that has observed female nature knows full well that none of these poor desperate fucks will get a single piece of from her in 10,000 years. The man she hops into bed with will be the alpha bad boy who does not give too shits about her.

[Anonqueryer]

Wow I didn’t know that you can get guys to buy you diners! I’ll take that income stream!!! 😉

[Jemini_Crocket]

This is just silly. I have mainly male friends and I don't think I'm that hideous yet they want nothing from me. I dunno where you guys are getting this from.

[Texaskid1]

@Jemini_Crocket experience.
I bet you do the same thing too without even realizing it.

[Wowgirl30q]

Thank you

[AllNeedsABalance]

So basically, you're a catty hypocritical girl.
You said to US to keep the bitchiness a minimum, then you proceed to bitch about these women.
You said there's something wrong with these girls because they don't "get along" with people of their own sex, but you've just alienated a whole subgroup of women.

You're hypocritical, catty, and no open minded and confident man or woman likes jealous girls with this mindset. You belong to the bitchy subgroup of women who don't get along with other women, not who we deem one of the guys.

[Hurdleez-Swampede]

So what? All 6 of my friends are women. Does that mean I am just 1 of the ladies? I am not evil just because all my friends happen to be female. If I find any female friend unworthy of continuing friendship, I drop her. If I find a man worthy of friendship, then I will have male friends if he accepts. Regardless of their sex, I can seek or deny our friendship.

I bet you wear pants also. That makes you 1 of the men?

You aren‘t a girl. You‘re a woman. I‘m not a guy. I am a man. I don‘t care what this website calls us.

[Wowgirl30q]

You complain a lot for not caring sir.

[Hurdleez-Swampede]

I'm complaining? I gave 3 sentences of complaints. You gave like 10 full sentences and essays of complaints.

How am I not caring? You basically insulted me for having all my friends of the female type as if I can control who accepts my friendship. I'm not cut out by my demeanor for friends to accept my friendship.

Women are generally more in tune spiritually and men tend not to trust me when I was attacked by a demon 9 months ago. Women are more accepting and listen and trust me and caring. Men tend to be arrogant and think if they didn't see it, it didn't happen. If it happened to them, they'd want people believing them.

I have 6 friends, all female. It doesn't make me a wuss for it.

[Wowgirl30q]

Sure

[HumansExist]

He never said that he doesn't care, he said: "so what?"
That means he was asking about what is the point that you are trying to make about the women who say that they're "one of the guys".

[Hurdleez-Swampede]

@HumansExist
Exactly so. She was basically insulting people who have friends all of the same sex as if you don't have a friend from your own sex that you are terrible.

She doesn't understand that friends are made and not given or born. It just happens that I've made friends all from the opposite sex. I didn't intend it that way. It just worked out that way and happened to be female. I didn't plan it intentionally that way.

[TomasLyy]

"They claim that there's no drama when they're with guys"
-proceeds to show meme of girl with a mouthful of sausages
"but they're just stupid sluts who can't even talk to their same sex"

My god you're the very reason they exist you cutthroat bitch of a psycho. You're really just helping their case out with this whole belittlement you have going on. You talk about girls have no drama but look at you

[AllNeedsABalance]

Psycho liked your comment lol

[thelurker2019]

thats what i thought

[ThisGuyDucks]

Are women allowed to make their own decisions without you shaming them constantly?
If they're craving male attention then let them crave attention, just because you're a lesbian that isn't interested in male attention doesn't mean every other girl is into that life, if she wants all male friends she's allowed to

And she is in fact true, men are significantly less drama than women.

[TomasLyy]

This is just proven that she says "we all know these girls they're just sluts anyway"

[AllNeedsABalance]

@TomasLyy watch out she's already deleted people's comments in the past lol. Cowards always are all talk and block.

[IvanPosl]

@AllNeedsABalance HMmm

[Sensmind]

The problem I have with this take is I have no real experience of girls like this, I have met girls who seem to get on better with guys but where not restrictive in their friendships. I have seen it a bit on forums like this and the pros/cons are along the lines you mentioned.
There is possibly a bit of truth in both sides and I myself have no issues unless it impinges on others. Most people work through their issues as they mature and everybody has some issues. So I suppose best of luck to all and a smooth path forward.

[Wowgirl30q]

@Cheetah23 you talk so much it's cute

[Elliegirl]

Interesting points. I have to say I agree! I’m one of those girls who loves watching sports and hanging out with guys, but I’m definitely a girl and not “one of the guys.” I think a true lady will let him have his guy time with just “his boys” and go have some fun quality girl time with “her girls.”

[Wowgirl30q]

Thank you dear and I agree because of the sports I do I hang out with a lot of men but understand that there is a line between I choose to and I can't function otherwise.

[6ada6ing]

Lol you just made her case for her. Who would want to hang out with a nosy little dictator like yourself?

[Wowgirl30q]

I like that

[Felinegirl]

Do you see anything wrong with s girl who has about 2/3rd male friends?
I have close female friends, but I find guys easier to talk to. I have my girl friends to go shopping and talk about personal stuff, I have my make friends to have a good laugh with or go do sports. That's a generalisation though, I have funny girl friends and sensitive guys too.

I can definitely be "one of the guys". I used to work at a place where all of my 7 colleagues were male, and been on holidays with male friends only. Don't judge a book by it's cover - just because I can enjoy myself just fine in those situations doesn't mean I can't stand other women.

On a side note, liking male attention is not necessarily a bad thing in my opinion. I get a confidence boost from it when I get hit on (when it's in a nice way). I think there's nothing wrong with liking that, as long as you don't go fishing for it or misleading people.

[Wowgirl30q]

@Felinegirl not at all... I see a problem with a girl with NO female friends

[PositiveNote]

Seriously, I don't see any problem for any of the reasons you state it is a problem. For years I only had women for friends. It's always been that way for me and it has not deterred my hetero at all or given any other set backs... except one. I have no guys as good friends.