We guys are usually pretty easy-going. We tend to not let words get to us. However, there are some sentences you better not utter a single time to a guy. We love women, but they can frustrate the living hell out of us too.
Most of us have big egos too, but our egos are very fragile as well. Some lines are so hurtful just saying them once can have a permanent effect on the relationship.
If you want to keep your boyfriend happy, refrain from saying these things.
DISCLAIMER: Before reading the article, please note that I will say "men this and women that" throughout the article. I want to make clear that I know I'm generalizing. I know that this will not be true for every person. However, I am talking about the average man and the average woman.
#1: "I'm really not supposed to tell you this, I promised to keep it a secret, but..."
I get that sharing secrets is a way for girls to form bonds. And there is a good chance he'll take the fact you trust him to keep it a secret as a compliment.
But he'll be bothered by the fact you spilled the beans when you promised he didn't. If you can't hold a secret for your best friend, what assurance does he have you can keep his secrets? From there on out he won't be able to trust you, making it more difficult to get him to open up to you. And most of you girls know how hard that can be even if he does trust you.
#2: "If you loved me you would know."
If you were to create a survey find out what men think is the single most annoying habit a woman can have, I'm fairly confident this would make number one.
A lot of women tend to speak with implied messages. They drop subtle hints instead of being straight-forward. Us guys are the latter, and it can confuse the hell out of us. We're not mind-readers or code-breakers. A good guy will always try to figure out what she wants and do his very best. We're just not made for that kind of communication.
Some women can tend to think that he doesn't do what she wants because he doesn't love her, care about her, doesn't pay enough attention, and so on. But it's not that. It's that we don't know what it is that you want.
The same goes for when you're mad at us. If it's a repeat offense, I get that you feel like "If you don't get it I'm not going to say it." But it's a first time offense, don't expect us to magically find out what's bothering you.
#3: "You're not a man, you're just an immature boy."
A guy will always want to be considered, and feel like a man. Especially by the woman we love. This sentence will shatter his ego and it will take a lot of effort to put back together.
#4: "You've never been able to sexually satisfy me."
Guys love to believe they're gods in the bedroom. You don't have to pretend he is one if he really isn't, but be very careful how you approach the situation. Uttering this sentence will destroy his self-confidence, making it even more difficult for him to perform.
If you are feeling unsatisfied, try gently nudging him in the right direction with things like "I would really like it if you...", "a bit slower please", "oh wow this feels amazing!", and so on. Give him positive feedback when he's doing things right.
While we're on the subject, men are just as insecure, if not even more insecure, about the size of their penis as girls about their body parts. Never say anything that will make him think you're implying he's small. Even if it's just in a joking way or through a pet name for his love organ. It will hurt him more than you can imagine.
#5: "Do you think she's prettier than me?"
As soon as a guy hears this question from his girlfriend, he will instantly get stressed out, thinking of running away FAST. We have learned through experience that there simply is no right answer for this question.
You're probably not the best looking woman in the world. Every once and a while there will be a woman who is more attractive than you. But to a guy that doesn't mean anything, because looks are just one aspect. But if we answer honestly with "yes", she might have her feelings hurt and get angry.
If we say "no", she'll know we're lying and get angry.
Or if we actually succeed in convincing her that we don't think she's prettier, she might think there's something wrong with his taste, and what could that mean about her? It might not always end up badly, but that question terrifies us.
#6: "We have to talk."
This is especially true if you're referring to a talk you two will have to have later. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with saying there is something you have to talk about. But there is with the phrasing. When a guy hears this sentence, he'll start to panic. It just sounds so ominous, thinking she'll want to have a talk about something he did wrong. This will get the guy defensive, which makes honest communication difficult.
A better way to say this would be "There is something we need to discuss later. Don't worry, you're not in trouble." If he is in trouble, it's best not to say anything until you want to have the actual talk.
#7: "You're not having a stripper for your bachelor party!"
I don't want you to misunderstand me. If you feel uncomfortable about him having a stripper there, you have every right to tell him this. This one isn't specifically about the subject.
Don't tell him what to do or not do, but make him understand how it would make you feel.
Forbidding someone to do something without proper explanation is something you do with kids. He's a a man and you have to treat him like one. Instead of forbidding him, explain to you how you feel about it. Don't tell him what to do or not do, but make him understand that it would make you feel very uncomfortable/sad/betrayed/whatever it is you feel. If he is a good man, he will be considerate of your feelings and not have that stripper.
If he's not considerate of you, then why are you engaged to him anyway?
#8: "That's a stupid idea, it will never work."
One of the things a man really wants is for his partner to be his number one fan. He wants her to believe in him. Even if an idea seems strange, give him your support. If you don't believe him, he won't share his dreams anymore. He'll be afraid to get shut down, so he closes off.
If he feels like you don't believe in him, he won't believe in the two of you anymore.
#9: "What the hell is wrong with you idiot?!" in front of his friends.
Men always want to appear at their best with their friends. Saying this one will crush his manhood and will make him seriously reconsider the relationship.
#10: "I don't like your friends, I don't want you to hang out with them anymore."
Odds are his friends have been in his life much longer than you. Friendship is sacred for guys, and forcing him to choose will almost never end up in your favor. Unless he's completely whipped.
Friendship is sacred for guys, and forcing him to choose will almost never end up in your favor.
#11: "What's bothering you?"
This one isn't something you shouldn't ask once. But if you put it on repeat, you will annoy him to death. When there's something troubling us, sometimes we just don't feel like talking about it. It's not that we don't want to let you in, but we prefer handling things by putting them on the background for a while, and focus on other things.
If a guy says "I don't want to talk about it", the one thing he wants from you more than anything else, is for you to respect his wishes not to talk about it.
This is considering it has nothing to do with you. But it will be clear if it has to do with you with most guys.
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