Friend Zone Checklist

[SinkIntoDarkness]

Friend Zone Check list...You already know your are friend zoned when...

1. You are posting on the forum asking if you’re in the friend zone (if you need to ask then you probably are)

2. You’ve never explicitly let the girl know your sexual interest either verbally or physically (friend zone)

3. You slept in the same bed together and didn’t even try to make a move towards sex (friend zone/ beta male)

4. She doesn’t return your calls or texts (it’s not that she forgot to call you back she just chose not to call you back) (friend zone)

5. You’ve gone on a date or hung out a several times alone and haven’t made a move on her (friend zone/ beta male)

6. You find yourself listening and trying to solve all her emotional issues about: girl gossip, other men, life problems, child hood abuse etc., and you never stop her and you’re not having sex (friend zone/ beta male/being used)

7. She tries to always invite her friends along whenever you ask her hang out with you (friend zone)

8. You’ve tried kissing her and she stops you (friend zone)

9. She talks about how she’s had sex with other men or you know for a fact she’s had sex before, but you aren’t having sex with her, only having a kissing / groping session. (being used/not in control beta male)

10. Tells you lets just be friends (friend zone)

11. Says she’s given up on sex saying it complicates the relationship and you stick around hoping you’ll change her (friend zone/ beta male)

12. You’re too available for her like a nice boy and not having sex (friend zone)

13. She verbally puts a time frame for when you’re going to finally have sex example 6 months, 2 yrs, marriage etc., maybe she’ll give and occasional hand job and you accept her terms (being used/ beta male)

14. You find yourself getting upset when she makes plans with other men (and you are not having sex with her) (friend zone/ beta male)

15. She say’s I like you but I don’t want to ruin our friendship (friend zone)

16. Crying and begging for her to see you as more than just a friend (friend zone/ beta male)

If you answered yes to or experienced any of the above well then I've just saved you the trouble of posting your problem. I’m not saying every single case above means absolute friend zone however they all will eventually put you in the friend zone.

The important thing to realize is the friend zone is always 100% preventable once you get over your fear of rejection and start taking advantage of the situation.

Definition of terms:

Friend zone = receiving no sexual interest from person you’re attracted to-99% of the time its your own fault your there in the 1st place.
Beta male = wimp, nice guy, not taking charge of the situation, not getting what you want out the relationship, frustrated, lacking testicular fortitude.
Being used = being a girls own personal counselor, gift buyer, dinner buyer, comfort, security, cuddle buddy and not getting what you want in return.

[celestialdaeva]

I agree with most of this with only a few exceptions:

#s 5 & 9 might not indicate friend zone if the relationship is still new. Nothing wrong with going slow. What matters is that it IS progressing, not the speed at which it progresses.

#6 - if she's complaining about other guys she's dating, then you are definitely in the friend zone. The rest listed under #6, I don't agree with

#13 - I'd never tell a guy friend anything would ever happen...

#14 - replace "having sex" with "going out".

[tadpole25]

I agree with most of this list. Especially 6.

If a guy wants to attract a woman, he can't be her therapist. Women talk about their problems (and they talk about their exes) with their friends - not the men they're interested in.

What women want in a courtship and what women want in a relationship are different. Once you both are exclusive, women do like guys to be attentive, emotional, nice etc. But not when you just met her and you two barely know each other.

[RideThroughTheRain]

A girl waiting for marriage does not mean you are in the friend zone. If she's telling you that you two will be definitely be sleeping together once you're married, but not until then, what is she saying? YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED. Not every girl wants to have her first time some random night, and she might be saving her virginity for her wedding for any number of reasons.

Romantic Interest =/= Sex Right Now.

This is what makes girls think guys "only want one thing."

[celestialdaeva]

Okay, guys. If a girl you've been talking about has a bad day and you're the first person she wants to talk to about it? That's a GOOD thing. It means you help her feel safe. If that's the only time you ever hear from her, then that could be a sign you're in the friend zone. But if you have plenty of "happy" conversations, then refusing to listen to her talk about her problems when she has them will DECREASE her attraction to you. You'll make her feel rejected and LESS safe because of it

[jamiejean1021]

Why do you have "having sex" on nearly every point? Not every girl out there just spreads her legs for every guy she thinks is cute.

[wanderer83]

I used to be in the friend zone a lot of times. Then I stopped caring so much and the ladies flock. Having a golden singing voice helps as well

[Mesonfielde]

Some do, most don't. Traditionalists can be quite odd to begin with. Not all of them, but quite a few.

[kaylicakes1]

Not everything's about sex. Some people have morals.

[Hannah591]

jamiejean1021 said exactly what I was thinking.

[Breathe]

you must be speaking from experience author

[adamfk1]

why can't girls ask guys out ?