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Why being attractive as a girl isn't all that it seems (Page 2)
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Unfortunately very accurate... Had a girl give me a muffin with GLASS in it after I told her scumbag boyfriend no. And as for all the people who are claiming that they're afraid of being wrongly accused of something, would you rather be wrongly accused of it and able to disprove it? Or have it done to you and not be able to prove it, be called a liar, and blamed for it even if you are believed? Because have something physically bad done to you is a lot worse than being accused of doing it, and when you try to protect others from the same fate, get protection and justice you get blamed for being hurt. It's ten times worse, especially if we can't prove it, or if the bad guy gets away with it. You may think you have it bad, but let me know if you still think being falsely accused is worse than having the act done to you and then being told it was your fault.
What did she say about that?
@Babeknows? The girl who tried to kill me? Something along the lines of"this is what you get for being a slut around my boyfriend" or something.
No where did the post talk about being wrongly accused or whatever
@Babeknows no, I was talking about the people posting comments. I've seen a lot of guys saying it, and not just on this post.
Yeah they love to talk crap these “men” 🙄
What exactly to you is the “average pretty girl” - I mean do you have a prototype? I can’t visualise what you’re meaning.
And what is celebrity type too? Do you mean a girl with perfect body + pretty face in this category?
I don’t want to sound up myself or anything but I have “supermodel” or mannequin measurements and a pretty face, albeit a very young looking pretty face (by young I mean like 12).
I don’t go out much AT ALL and the area I live is full of religious and orthodox people so I haven’t had very bad experiences but there have been the odd instances. I think life has been a lot easier because I’m pretty and I have been quite mouthy and rebellious in my teens and gotten away with a lot probably because of “pretty privilege.” Though I never realised I was pretty until my late teens.
I am also a pretty girl.
i agree with a lot of what you said.
not all of it.
when you say don’t nexessarily have better dating chances, um bloody oath we do lol. Compared to someone who doesn’t have a pretty face, I guarantee you the options are always better.
And I do agree with the danger part too. And the petty jealousy thing. People always think you want to steal their partner from them. It’s like wtf. I’m breathing. I’m existing. I’m not interested in your partner but I can’t pretend I don’t exist to suit you lol.
I agree that its not what it seems and you do have to face jealousy and a lot of unwanted attention.
But I'm not gonna lie to you and say that the average attractive person (especially if they are sociable) in general doesn't get treated better in general in most facets of life and it far outweights the negative. Dating, work and most other areas of life is on an easier difficulty setting for them vs the average person.
Also, I think your examples is something girls deal with in general, like the cattiness. A for dating, you literally will have hundreds of matches on dating sites by putting up your pictures, regardless of how boring your profile may look. The only work you have to do is swiping right on the guy, while they put like 90% of the effort and generally make the first contact.
There might be more catiness from other girls from being pretty. I won't deny that. But if they specifically think you get it easier in life and they envy that, I can understand that reasoning.
1. Most of things you said makes sense.
2. You said that you are approached less by normal or regular guys bc life has taught people to stay in your league , so can't blame them or the insult and stakes are too high.
3. It could be your social circle which makes feel that you are like high maintainance or like may be full of attitude.
4. It's not an uncommon thing whether you do it or not you do get benefits without asking.
5. And the things you said happens to probably any woman in daily life doesnot particularly be a beauty that's bad I understand.
6. Well you can't possibly satisfy everyone in your life so chill.
I HAVE NEVER RELATED SO MUCH. I’m genuinely sick and tired of being treated like shit by other girls and being judged by guys as unapproachable or stuck up. I’m the nicest and kindest soul for real and I just want genuine connections. There’s more to us than looks. I couldn’t care less for the attention I get when I leave the house, or the gifts I receive. I want a real boyfriend who loves me for ME and I can by myself my own damn gifts :(
Nope. None of that entails beautiful women having anywhere near the chance an average man has.
It's something like 8/10 for women not even really attractive ones.
And 2/10 for men.
It's about your standards. If your Farely good looking You could have the majority of men's attention.
Lotta girls won't date that plumber or that construction worker Lotta girls have an inflated sense of self worth.
If any woman named off the number of times she , felt, unsafe It's a big number. If someone makes you feel that way it Dosnt necessarily equal the act but iv heard women who acted as if it did. Oh my God he harassed me because he said hello which was a thing in the u. k
There is nothing hard with being "attractive" your just victimizing yourself. Most attractive people have it way better than average looking people.
You have way more opportunities, most of theses situations can be avoided just depending on the environment that you surround yourself in. If the people that you hang out with are toxic to you then let go of them and find another friend group.
Pretty privilege is a real thing I tell you that.
(sorry if I have any errors in my spelling :) I still learning English.)
Well unless you like attention and you want to get laid it can be annoying. Although I’m not a woman, I see this at my job all the time she keeps complaining and how it’s making her job duties complicated by keeping safe. And second the parallel ladder is if your straight and a gay guy does the same thing it can happen as well. All though the usual problem is F with M or M with F, M with M or F with F, would be harder to control and situations are easier to explain. Like im a str8 guy, so if a gay guy follows me in the bathroom trying to get some and I complain he followed me into the bathroom, it’s like duh he’s gotta shit too and you can't really tell if a guy is gay just by looking at him so controlling for safety issues would be harder. But when it’s the same gender and rape happends STDs are the only concern I think, where as opposite gender it’s STD and lunwanted pregnancy.
this is just my 2 cents.
@convo_king89
If the gay guy follows you in the bathroom every time then yes it is harassment.
@joeblow123 yes but it harder to prove it, could want to use it too
It’s hard to say because I don’t know your actual demographics / surroundings and capabilities.
Although what I can say for certain is you’ve had enough of taking peoples shit. On one hand you have been blessed with good looks but apparently where you live you get a lot of backlash because of it.
So, it sounds almost inevitable that this sort of thing will continue until at least you get older than you are.
I’m not one to promote violence but I’m not one to stand and take shit from people either. You need to learn to defend yourself and fight back verbally and physically when and where situations arise. Yes, obviously there are times you must tuck tail and run but at least you will have a fighting chance when the numbers are fair.
you can't have it all. there will always be advantages / disadvantages to everything. but it certainly is better to be attractive than to be ugly. To believe that you can be pretty and have no downsides , is just impossible, idealistic, immature thinking. There is nobody who has everything good in life.
You say all of this... but ask a beautiful person if they would like to be average, and most will tell you hell no.
So which is really worse? It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure it out. If you can sit there an complain about it, but still say oh no I'd like to stay pretty, then you have your answer.
"Im actually in my 30s. Still happens the same."
@Sangyoul2020 If you don't like the attention why do you have this account listed as 21 when you are actually in your 30s? You know you would get far less sexual attention online if you were older.
It looks incongruous.
I never give age or personal info on forums. As i said above, i get the same amount of attentiom as i did in my 20s. Im Asian with good genes, hewlthy habis and avoid the sun and so i haven't really aged.
Changing your age slightly to avoid being identified is one thing.
You know you're attracting more attention this way. On the internet, with no profile pic, the attention you receive is based on your age (and life experience that is presumed to go along with that), and what you write. So you may look young for your age and be attractive irl, but clearly you like more attention, otherwise you wouldn't be lying about your age.
my mum's beautiful face got injured. she's now ostracised in her job as a teacher, not by the kids but by most of her own coworkers. ik being lucky w good genetics or way of living isn't everything, but it is completely what it seems. people judge u even harder for everything u do when u're no longer 'attractive'. my mum's the same person, but now a lot of people don't see past her face & lisp. pls cherish ur gift, don't make excuses!
This shows how superficial the people in this world are.
Perks of being a attractive girls outshines everything. Too many girls from poor background , education can get a rich lavish lifestyle instantly. Every pretty girl I know are total bratty and entitled , forget about relationships they are even impossible for normal talk. Models , celebs get money for almost doing nothing. Pretty girls always wants to date the top tier guys only with huge money , and attractive. I am sure there can be pretty girls who are cool and kind and not bratty but I have never met any single one , hopefully in the future , someone will change my views.
Did you read the beginning? Where i explicitly excluded models?
Not all models are celebrity. Sometimes pretty girls from mainstream society get more perks as people from fashion and entertainment industry has a bad reputation to be non loyal. Girls , whether pretty or not has to deal with some kind of male harrasment , that's a problem in our society. But as I said pretty perks are more than those. I know women who had nothing , no money , education but got married to or dating rich guys that pays for their lavish lifestyle. However guys with more substance will want a girl more than just pretty. As pretty girl ages , she will have a hard time , if her only quality is being pretty. Personally I like intelligent girls , if they happen to be pretty and kind too , that's a bonus
Now a days you can call youself a "model" or "influencer" after having few thousand followers on IG. And you're right the perks far outweigh the downsides.
Well, Nobody is doing surgery to look less attractive that's for sure. Being attractive certainly has some disadvantages but they're heavily outweighed by the advantages.
Your problems seem avoidable and manageable. Being unattractive is not avoidable, and is only marginally manageable.
So instead of projecting your problems to whole attractive female super group, think about what "you", as an individual, can do to address them.
That's not because being attractive, but just because of being human.
Finding people that doesn't like you is a fact of life, no matter what you do.
Simply because you make certain choice, there will be someone who won't like that. And from that set there will be a subset that handles it non constructively.
The point is: it doesn't matter. You can worry about hurting someone's feeling for legit reasons, but these people are simply nonsense.
I can understand these issues, and they are all valid. It's concerning that even after reading all that you wrote... I still long to experience being pretty.
I am not a pretty girl, rather than being noticed and getting attenion. No one dares look my way, and because I'm not attractive I'm not treated very kindly.
People are scary, protect yourself. Take boxing or self defense classes, make sure you have a weapon with you or something to keep you safe when you go out.
1."assume that we are high maintenance"
*gets annoyed by compliments*
Not the same thing but definitely negative!
2. The last part about girls attacking you and is unfortunate. However fact of the matter is destiny is in your control and they can't do jack. Girls are really pathetic for caring about that when they can just have a highly successful family with minimal risk and effort (compared to guys achieving the same level). What's important in your life then shields you from all the irrelevant female losers. Do we let women have strength and virtue on their own or do we create an environment where they are protected and controlled?
Being a "pretty girl" there are some down sides to it ; Guys take advantage of you, certain clothing can not be wore due to the fact it makes you a slut or a whore , And you feel the need to be perfect even though you don't , guys or other girls pressure on your eating habits your dressing and other things and being an "Average girl" is no different but less guys wanna mess with you so called "fugly girls" aren't ugly their just girls that don't feel the need to be perfect and don't listen to persons comments about them same with average girls but the pressure is there which makes it harder
It doesn't make a difference to me if a girl looks like a whore by society by what they wear, no matter how pretty she is. If anything, pretty girls get away with it more.