10 reasons to not cut yourself

[BumbleDeev]

1. You will see your scars every day and it will always remind you of your painful past.

2. When you self harm, the people who were mean to you, or caused you to do it, wins.

3. Most are ashamed of their scars meaning t shirts and shorts are no longer an option

4. The people who brought you to the point of cutting are never worth it

5. Cutting increases the risks of you committing suicide. This world is NOT better off without you.

6. No matter who you are, somebody in this world loves and cares about you. Cutting means letting them down

7. Self inflicted scars may scare many people away. Rejection only intensifies the depression.

8. Think of the children in your family or your future children and how you will have to explain your scars

9. Your mother worked hard to bring your healthy body into this world. Cutting is not a way to thank her

10. Almost everyone who has ever cut, regrets it later in life. Cutting is a mistake you don't have to make.

Millions of people around the world feel like they're alone. And in that..none of us really are.

If you ever need a friend or somebody to talk to, I'm always here. I don't really use the messenger on here so kik me at Justiiiin1204

Here are numbers you can call, if you decide to get some help.

I did not write this, I just put it in my own words. Credit goes to the youtuber Onision. This deserved to be shared.

10 reasons to not cut yourself - the follow up

[Anonymous]

You're self harm can harm others. It still brings tears to my eyes when I remember one night my friend who used to self harm for drunk. We were living together at the time, in the middle of the night she woke me up, sobbing and babbling in the dark. I turned the light on and there was blood everywhere. You the walls, on my quilt, on the door handle, dripping from the wounds on her arms. I felt sick that she could have so little respect for her body as to do such a thing. I knew it's not the right attitude to have but neither is slashing yourself.

[Byakuyarko]

finally, a teenager with good advice for other teens

[FlyingTurtle]

I'm sorry but I don't like this take.
Point 1: I have self harm scars and whenever I see them they don't really remind me of my painful past, but something I have overcome. I really don't have any strong feelings about them.
Point 2 is probably one of the ones I like least. Cutting has nothing to do with anyone else--it has to do with YOU, the pain you feel, and finding a way to cope with it. Nobody "wins" because you cut yourself. That mentality just promotes MORE feelings of shame and failure if you do cut.
Point 3 is valid.
Point 4: like I said about point 2, cutting isn't about other people. It's about you and your pain.
Point 5: where did you get the idea that cutting increases your risk of suicide? Like, you accidentally cut too much and bleed out until you're dead? in my opinion cutting is a symptom/result of depression and self-hatred, which can INDICATE one is at a greater risk of suicide, not CAUSE it.
Point 6: See what I said about points 2 and 4 (although it is good to remember that people love you--that may make you feel better).
Point 7 is true, but shouldn't be. People shouldn't be scared away by scars.
Point 8 is pretty much guilt-tripping you into not doing something--not a good idea for someone who is probably already dealing with a lot of guilt and shame. Also, again, cutting is not about other people!!!
Point 9: stop guilting these suffering people. Seriously. Stop telling them they are letting people when they cut. Stop increasing their shame when it happens.
Point 10 is more or less valid, but it is again on the borderline of guilting.

In conclusion, I think it's great you're trying to encourage people not to engage in unhealthy coping mechanisms. But you're going at it the wrong way.

[BumbleDeev]

I honestly didn't even write so..

[FlyingTurtle]

Well, then this goes out to whoever wrote it. :P

[BumbleDeev]

And it's note really doing it for other people, but other people are usually the reason someone feels alone, or they get bullied. Which leads to depression, then leads to cutting. You're not doing it to show other people, but people are usually the cause of it

[StayAIive]

I am not ashamed of my scars. I wear t-shirts and shorts just fine. When my children ask about my scars that is the best opportunity to SHOW them how you won that absolutely terrifying war between yourself and life. Cutting does NOT mean you're giving up, but you are giving into that pain. As if the roof collapsed on you, although you can still fix it. You just need to work on it. Fight even though you don't feel like it- that is how you win against depression. Depression is all about how you feel about yourself you've got to fight against it. Go get em, champ. Best wishes!

[Hannah591]

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[bombamboum]

I agree with this. I did it when I was a teen, somehow thinking it was a solution to my problems and now I'm 23 with random scars on my arms that are not pretty. It doesn't help at all, it's just an illusion.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Thanks for sharing this with us i hope things are going good for you :-)

[allmenaredogs]

it's important to get attention from right people. before you cut yourself, think of cut others off.

[zombiebabe]

i've cut my wrist as a teen... and there are no more scars.. i'm free to wear sleevless tops

[Jamin_Beast]

but for point one

as well as social issues

I also cut as a promise to myself, so that I can give up my addiction (I'm not going to go into what that is)

so everyday as well as seeing the pain of my past I also am reminded of my promise

[BumbleDeev]

You are making cutting sound like a good thing. It isn't. You. Need. Help.

[Jamin_Beast]

why can't it be

[BumbleDeev]

Because it doesn't do anything. It just gives you more depression. All teenagers get depressed around our age. We all feel alone some point in our life. It will go away. Cutting will just make it all last longer

[dancompressed]

I don't think #9 is applicable for many people. Lots of cutters or past cutters I know:
-Were born physically ill
-Were left by their mothers
-Were abused by their mothers
so honestly, that point could make them feel even worse.

[WhiplashTacos]

Also people who cut are going to have a hard time finding a job.

[BumbleDeev]

My boyfriend used to cut and he got fired from his job because his cuts and scars were disturbing customers

[meatballs21]

Because people can just 'get over it' but choose not to.

I know you didn't write this, but it goes about this issue in the wrong ways.

[BumbleDeev]

It's not telling people to "get over it"
It's showing people the effects self harm has on themselves and other people, and maybe people can remember these things when they feel like picking up the razor again.

[Anonymous]

Number 5 is the reason I did it I wanted to be dead number 9 too my mom's dead

[Anonymous]

I don't like this take especially. since I'm a cutter (I have my reasons) but a lot of this. is wrong

[BumbleDeev]

Care to explain?

[Opinion Owner]

I do care because. it would be a waist of time to explain and cutters know the truth people that don't cut though just judge and don't understand and if a butterflies to explain the b other person never listens

[BumbleDeev]

Well, you obviously think I have no idea what I'm talking about when it comes to self harm. So please, give me at least one example on one of the things I said that was wrong and why it was

[Opinion Owner]

1 and 3 some people actually many are comfortable with their scars and feel weird when they're gone and t shirts and shorts are still an option haven't you heard of bracelets seriously and shorts are. easy too you just wear Carlos guys don't even wear short shorts

[BumbleDeev]

But a lot aren't comfortable with them as well. A lot of people are afraid to get judged by strangers or want to hide them from friends and family. And if you have cuts all the way up your arms, then bracelets aren't going to help you. The shorts part, well you are right.

[Opinion Owner]

Honestly. I don't know anyone who. cuts all up their arms and it's kinda. unheard f to me but we also cover them with makeup so even if we look down oh look we can't really tell it's there

[BumbleDeev]

Cutting just isn't a good thing. I don't get why you're getting all defensive, it's nothing to be proud of. A lot of people who self harm always complain that nobody cares or nobody listens. When other people offer to help, or try to give you advice, you turn it down and refuse to accept any help from anyone. It's like everyone who does it just does it to get attention. Which half of them do. If you really didn't like the points I made, then fine. But call one of the numbers I put up there, get help. Please

[Opinion Owner]

Because you dint know their stories you can't. judge a bunch of people in one way no cutters do it for. attention you. just think they d and honestly nobody listens or cares half. of the time I'm defensive because you giving false statements and are being critical people turn it down because everyone thinks we need fixing when we don't because we know what were doing and. how. to. end things that's why I. really refuse to call a help line so you can forget that because I don't need help at all so take that and walk away bye

[BumbleDeev]

You could stop any time you wanted to. It's not a drug. You can't have withdrawals from it. You just choose not to for whatever fucked up reason that is in your head.

[Opinion Owner]

It's not a fucked up reason see you. have no clue what it's like and you. should stop fucking judging people like that just wait one of these days you. will no. but for now I suggest you leave the subject alone

[BumbleDeev]

Yeah I'm not going to take your suggestion
We all understand. Teenagers get lonely and depressed. Every single one. You're not the only one. Just the normal ones don't mutilate their bodies like you do. And the reason you think nobody listens, is because you're not talking to anyone. Im sure you know what you're doing is wrong, and that its making your depression worse. But you continue to do it anyway. Tell me now, really tell me. Do you want to stop cutting? Do you really really want to stop?

[Opinion Owner]

That's where your wrong again because I talk to many. people and patently not normal hmm there's another reason why teens are depressed your judging someone from what they do and are saying they aren't normal and from the way you talk it's easy to. tell your a bully and think our better than everybody trust me I know. I'm. not the only one I'm standing up fir basically everyone and yea I wanna stop cutting it's why I haven't in 2 months

Cutting. isn't a daily thing for majority of people but you wouldn't know that would you?

[BumbleDeev]

You are getting mad at me for "judging" and then you go ahead and judge me by saying you think I'm a bully. 1. You don't know me, so no need to make false accusations. And 2. If you know cutting is bad, and you haven't been doing it, why are you defending it? Like really, I was trying to help people. I was giving advice I thought could maybe save someone. But all the advice I was giving was "judging because not everyone who cuts does that" okay yeah I get it. That's why I used words like "most" and if you had half a brain you would know that the definition of "Most" means NOT EVERYONE. Just because you didn't experience this with your whole self harm phase doesn't mean there aren't cutters out there who do. So these points are valid. Just because they don't apply to everyone doesn't mean they aren't true. And I advise you to really think about the next thing you're going to say, because everything you've said was incredibly stupid and if you say another stupid thing again then I'm just

[BumbleDeev]

Going to block you

[Opinion Owner]

Go ahead and block me

[BumbleDeev]

Are you sure you don't have any other dumb shit to say before I do sweetheart?

[Opinion Owner]

Botch block me now

[Opinion Owner]

Bitch**

[BumbleDeev]

Wait you're in fucking anon.__.

[Opinion Owner]

Hahaha apparently I'm not that stupid

[BumbleDeev]

Well it shows that you're a big pussy -.-

[Opinion Owner]

If you say so. I'm not gonna argue. with you anymore I've made my point and I'm done bye

[2014raser]

I agree 100%! Very true.

[Anonymous]

What about scratching?

[BumbleDeev]

That's still self harm, so it still counts