I can't decide if I like this guy or not?

[Anonymous]

There's this guy (family friends son for years we barely got introduced to and started talking but he says he's known me for years although I don't remember him). He's cool, cute, hard worker, family oriented, sweet, nice, funny, great cook, talkative everything I could possibly want in a guy but one problem I can't decide if I like him or not. One moment I'm like damn you're like the perfect guy etc and the next I'm like your a cool friend but nothing else. But then I think damn where am I going to find another nice guy like you (I always end up liking assholes apparently according to people that know me) but there's stuff I don't like about him like he drinks A LOT when he parties and where he's from there's parties like every weekend and that's a turn-off for me or that he's months younger than me (have always liked older guys) and other things too. My parents like him a lot my brother doesn't really care but my parents keep insisting if I would just admit that I liked him everything would be so much easier and they also keep telling me if I don't act quick enough I'm going to lose my chance with him and that I'm going to regret it later on down the road especially since he has almost everything I look for in a guy they act like I'm going to marry the guy. I kind of feel like he may like me but I'm not so sure. Also the distance is something that bothers me (I live in Texas he lives in Mexico) and I think what if he only likes me because I have papers but my parents think he's not that shallow or type of guy to think that way. I just don't know what to think at this point I'm so confused. What are some suggestions that could possibly help me decide if I like the guy or not. His parents like me to don't know if that's important but like if we ever did go out if I figure out my feelings and decide to give him a chance I know my parents/his parents would be cool with it. Also sorry if I didn't put it in the correct category I'm new to this site /.\

[BertMacklinFBI]

if everyone keeps telling you that you like him, that's most likely going to hinder your thought process, unless you don't care about that shit. do the pros outweigh the cons? start there. and another thing, we all want that perfect partner, everything we could hope for in our life, im gonna save you a lot of time and tell you right now, perfect doesn't exist. every guy you meet will have flaws, see him for how he is, not for how you want him to be measured up too. and its not a ultimatum, you don't have to choose to like him right away and start being his girlfriend, if you are somewhat interested, then go on a freakin date (even if he's in Mexico), whenever he visits or you go visit. like Lily Aldrin said, "its not that hard to be in Love!" yeah I know we're not talking about love but you get the gyst.

[BertMacklinFBI]

@Tdieseler

[dipta]

But isn't it hard to tell sometimes if you really like the person the way they are, with those flaws you may hate, or you're just lowering your standards?

[BertMacklinFBI]

@dipta I think she should realize if she's beginning to settle for less, in that case, don't do it.

[dipta]

You reply super fast!
But like you said yourself, everyone wants that perfect partner... but maybe it's good enough when you're able to picture yourself with someone you like and also likes you back and treats you right? Hmm

[BertMacklinFBI]

@dipta hahaa do I? well maybe no this time xD im like 6 minutes late lol. yeah all we need is to find that person who finds perfection in us in their own eyes, as do we to them. that's all that matters. two couples that are perfect in each other's eyes turn a 7 into a perfect 10 <3

[dipta]

And probably a really fast internet connection as well, lol.
I like it how you say "all we need is to find that person" like there's no doubt that person will be found sometime soon, haha. Gotta be positive <3<3

[BertMacklinFBI]

@dipta always be positive! :D there is literally no other reason to not live life in a optimistic way :) that's why everyone should be Awesome x)

[Tdieseler]

so basically you want us to tell you what to do? to make your mind up for you?
because you can't tell if you like someone... interesting
considering the fact that you used the word "like" almost 20 times
i think it is a pretty safe bet to think you like him

@BertMacklinFBI what you got?