My girlfriend is not talkative, what to do?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my girlfriend since 10 months now. We are in a distance relationship, since I'm studying abroad. It will be for 1 more year. The first month after we met was fine, we dated some times and we had some periods of silence sometimes, but I assumed it would just be because we didn't know eachother that well. I did my best to talk more to her, tell her more about my life, what I do and like to do etc. But things only got worse. Where in the beginning I did about 60% of the talking and she 40%, now it became 90% for me and 10% for her. She really doesn't say anything more than just "how are you?", "yes", "no", "nice", "I love you", and directly and shortly answering my questions. We have spent quite a lot of time together this summer, I really like her and she is very nice. She really cares about me when we are together and is seriously interested in how I am. She just is not telling anything from herself or commenting my stories. Can someone please give me some advice how I can get her to talk more? It's the only thing we can do at the moment, and probably for the comming 8 months.

[Michelle892]

Ask her questions that she can't say yes or no to and require a more descriptive answer. A few examples could be "What's a funny story that you remember from your childhood?" or "What are your thoughts on (current event)?" And when she gives a more descriptive response it's important to praise her for it and say how glad you are that she's comfortable sharing more with you. You'll have to work at it for a while, but it should become like second nature once she feels more comfortable talking about herself. Best of luck!

[Asker]

thanks, I'll try this