She keeps staring but won't talk to me, what gives?

[Anonymous]

We rarely see each other and she'll go from staring me to pretending I don't exist by social butterflying with everyone but me, then I'll catch her staring again. I try to start conversation with her, and she'll answer and generally be positive but keep it short, so I just let it be. Problem she still keeps on staring and talks to my friends but again if I try talking to her or enter the conversation she just starts looking in every other direction and gets quiet?

What gives?

[Smilewide]

umm, sounds like me three years ago, in a sense.

She may like you. I know it may sound crazy or weird. But sometimes girls get super nervous around the guy she likes and then will keep on staring, but will avoid communicating as far as possible. She probably doesn't want you to know in order to avoid embarrassment so that is why she looks away or is quiet.

Otherwise she's just being weird, and she doesn't know how to speak to you. I'd only be able to fully tell if I was there, but that's the best answer I can think off. However, there may be other reasons, I'd only be able to truly tell if I knew her.

[Asker]

Thing is, she's in her 20s! I mean I could understand this from a younger girl, but by your 20s? Isn't it a bit odd?

[Smilewide]

Depends on her personality. I wouldn't be surprised, and a girl may 'act older' and more mature, but girls can still be very childish at 20, especially if this girl is an introvert. I'd say she's actually shy. Otherwise, she may dislike you for some or other weird reason, and tries to get your attention that she is ignoring you.

[fragilebird]

I agree with everyone. I think she might just be shy and probably like you. I don't think there is any age limit on that sort of things. Even in your 20s you can be uncomfortable around someone you like. Maybe you intimidate her or something? The first instinct most of us have everytime we feel like someone has a certain effect/power on us is fear. We fear they might see it or that they might hurt us like we've been hurt before. It's stupid but true.

[notcreativethough]

She's obviously shy, shy girls get nervous around the guys they like. Just keep trying and let her warm up to your presence. Be gentle.

[Asker]

Surely there's a limit though between being shy and being... well rude/avoidant? I mean as soon as I entered a conversation she was having with my friends she immediately started playing with her phone and looking at signs around the room?

[notcreativethough]

It's hard to tell the difference I know, but it's actually fairly common for people to lock up when around the people they like. The anxiety associated with is enough to overpower some. If she's consistently staring she probably likes you, like I said bro, keep trying and be patient and gentle.

[Asker]

Would you say it's still common even for girls in their 20s?

[notcreativethough]

Not sure, don't have much experience with girls over 20, but I'd guess so. Confidence takes a while to build up.

[JBSampson88]

Guy here, and I do this with woman I am interested in. As someone above said, she is attempting to get your attention. Example: There is a woman I am interested in. However, I am introverted, and somewhat shy. I have visited the restraunt she works at, and when she stops to talk to my little brother (They worked together there.), I pull my phone out, and play with it. I also become short if she happens to speak to me, and even have ignored/avoided her. Heck, she came into my workplace once, and I avoided her. Anytime I see her around town, I avoid her! Why? Fear of rejection. Low self-esteem. Where does my low-self esteem come from? My ex, and my very own family! She unintentionally made me feel lesss than what I am. My family? Well, lets simply say they dont like seeing others happy, if they aren't! So, they belittle those people! Long story short, she may be a social butterfly around others, and shy with you. She may feel as if you are out of her league. Give it time. ;)

[Michael_Rc46]

Happened to me too. I was very confused and she still does it.

[Asker]

Have you tried talking to her?

[Michael_Rc46]

She just looked at me and kept walking... awkward. she still stares at me all the time though.

[Andon17]

maybe she likes you... I don't know i have the same problem with this one girl I've liked her ever since first grade but she acts like an ai she'll look at me then she'll stop for awhile then I'll stop then she'll keep staring at me again and then when I start staring at her she'll stop again... I'm very unattractive but she's really attractive, I don't know but i added her once on social media and she was asking me if I was ok, then she started ghosting me on social media, so then I unadded her, then she would stare at me, then I'd stare at her and stop and then a year later I added her back again and she said she misses me. Then we talked then she stopped, then later I unadded her then she kept staring at me and now she's not and I don't know how tf to read her

[Anonymous]

That’s a hard one. Either she RRALLLLLYYYY likes you. I mean like obsessed with you.

Or completely cannot stand you. Absolutely dislikes you.

Depends, are you good-looking? Do women seek you naturally? Do you have ease with getting women? That’ll pretty much answer your question.

[WhitneySnow]

I think she likes you and get shy around you