Why do I lose interest when a guy is too nice? (Page 2)
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I used to be like that. Because how my father treated my mom. I got too used to seeing that and made me think that I don't deserve someone that is nice, treats me good and loves me for who I am. Now I'm with this wonderful guy who treats me like a princess and loves me. so deeply. I just think it is because of your self esteem. Just can't think of any other reasons.
Yes you're doomed... No im kidding I used to be the same way till I got tired or getting hurt and decided to love myself... We usually dislike good guys cause they're too available maybe you like your space but a good guy will smother you and live gets boring when everything is perfect we need pain in order to make things work
''We need pain in order to make things work''? Wow you have issues.
you're only ever going to fall in love with guys who despise you. some part of you WANTS to always be dissatisfied. you're afraid to be content, or you're not comfortable being desired.
The problem is you have certain standards for men. I'm guessing you want a guy that doesn't want to give much attention to you because you don't want be overwhelmed by his feelings towards you. You feel bored when a guy shows too much kindness, having maybe no challenge for you in a relationship. I think you want a relationship to be somehow challenging to keep you on your toes. Probably an ideal person you want to be with is the type that balances between nice (not too much) and jerk (not too much) making the person be challenging for you to figure how he may feel towards you but somehow cares in some way by not expressing which could be rare.
If that's what you like and you don't like nice, i guess yea that is what you're doomed to :s
Not all nice guys are boring though, not all do all that crap, some are fun and stuff and treat you well while still giving you space. Just nice guys who aren't people pleasers and who aren't so desperate to make a girl happy are more rare than a normal guy who treats you good.
Why do you lose interest? Plenty of people can explain that.
However, only I will thank you for demonstrating to inexperienced guys why they need to be very sparing with the niceness towards girls.
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Agreed I'm done being nice to girls it's not worth.
It's normal, maybe it's because you like a challenge and nice guy's just don't do it for you, maybe you should date these so called assholes to get a learning experience but I would recommend staying single for a while until you figure out what you really want, you're still young so no need to rush it.
You'll get messed up with enough cold and emotionless guys, to learn appreciating nice guys.
And honestly, you would like to just feel like shit and lonely? Urgh.. Girls are crazy.
uhm yeah you have that crazy lady syndrome
you know whats good for you but you choose the other path
Maybe one day your interests will change, keep dating who you want, listen to your heart but think with your head sometimes too
LOL its funny as a nice guy I wish you would tell me. LOL honestly my problem isn't so much that they lose interest as that when they do lose interest they start assuming I am only being nice to try and win them back which ruins our friendships.
I actually lost a really awesome female friend a month back, I totally ignored her and she basically kept coming on really strong. After a few weeks of dating one day I randomly said I liked how it was working and she freaked out and went 180
because they're boring. it's also hard to trust someone is being real/honest when they're always nice.
Because there is something seriously wrong with you.
Because you like to get treated like shit and have a mental disorder. And you're probably to young and immature to recognize when something is good for you like many women out there. It's like a fat person who sees himself or herself getting fatter everyday but still keeps doing harm to himself by eating the same shit everyday.
The reason you lose interest is because you never been misstreated or had experienced anything like it.. once you do you would want nothing but a nice guy who considers for you and is nice...
After all these women claiming that guys who complain about this are fake nice guys and that being too nice doesn't turn women off... Haha...
why "doomed" to date assholes? isn´t that what you want if you don´t like nice guys. you are probably just not yet ready to settle down.
If you had low self esteem most likely you wouldn't know. That's kind of how those things work.
Some nice guys are nice a-holes too but you'd have to give 1 a chance long enough to find out
This sound like a made up question by a guy pretending to be a girl. never heard anyone say stuff like that in rl
So many cold girls are leaving nice guys, just because boys they want to be happy with her and they would do everything to be with her.
You're probably used to guys being mean to you, and believe that's all you deserve or how you were treated.
There's difference between being nice and being needy. Needy vs wanting. You don't want to smother her.
sometimes nice boys seems like they are needy, and it's true.