Sexy ways to initiate sex?

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I'm going to initiate sex with my boyfriend for the first time. We've had sex three times and now I want to give him a surprise. I'm usually not very sexy so I think this would be unexpected. So what's something sexy or cute I could do? Please don't get too crazy I'm still new to this and trying to learn how to be sexy without falling on my face.

Answer 1

sumfin

Xper 5

Ok first off, that's cool of you.
Second off, you can't go wrong. YOU CAN NOT GO WRONG. I can't say this enough. You could literally act like a complete doofus, and the fact that you are trying, at all, you will be lucky if he doesn't jump you in the middle of whatever you decide to go with. Women just don't understand.

I could give more answers if you defined "initiate sex" more. i. e. are you talking about the lead-up, the flirtation before, or after you're making out etc?
One hot way to flirt beforehand is to do a little sexy movement with your hips.
When he's sitting on the edge of the bed, standing in front of him with your back to him, put your feet apart and stick your butt out a little, swoosh it to the left, then to the right, then left again. If that doesn't get him hot, he's as cold as ice. Seriously, we are really that simple. It's like some kind of biological button in our brain that is irresistable. In my opinion.
Then turn around, and stand close to him, so his face is in between your breasts, cup his head, and sit down on his lap and make out.
If, however, you are talking about what to do to switch from making out to sex, it's hard to give advice without knowing what you already know and what you don't know. in my opinion Grinding first is better than just ripping off the clothes, because it gives him a chance to get a hard on, and then the clothes coming off is less awkward, and usually happens faster :) So start grinding (pushing your pelvis against his so you're basically rubbing his dick with your pubic bone/clit). Another hot move a girl used on me - was she straddled my thigh while making out with me, so her pussy was grinding against my thigh. Oh lord, grant me the strength to resist that if I need to. Of course all the obvious things like kissing/brushing his neck below his ear, and other sensitive areas is irresistible. Wear a skirt for quick off. Try masturbating earlier, to get your libido peaked. (you said you're not sexy minded).
Don't overthink

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Asker

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Okay also do you have another one for the flirtatious lead up, I want it to be a little more surprising/fancy (but not too fancy). Just something that will wow him
sumfin

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1. Tender kisses/being extra gentle. Treat him sweetly.
2. Dancing is a really really sexy way to get in the mood in my opinion, very flirtatious. Starting out maybe a little playful, and then getting closer and slower or more primal, it can be a great way to begin rubbing against each other. It's a great opportunity to be wearing something sexy, like a dress with straps, so your shoulders are exposed - very hot. Preferably thin soft material, fitted to your body. Maybe dim the lights, spray the room before with some nice smell like real rose water, or essential oils you like (lavender etc)
And get him ready. The key to wooing someone is timing. Don't expect him to just be ready all of a sudden. Plan it, so he has time after work to relax, have a shower and eat and digest. Maybe spend some time together watching a romantic movie with the lights off and a blanket over you. Then lead him into the bedroom, put the music on, get dancing. Good idea to practice dancing and fluid hip movement
sumfin

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Also, a bit of physical attention never hurts, while you're watching the movie you can be snuggling, getting close, and maybe give him a footrub or hand rub. Or leg rub (calves get tight) but be gentle and not too forceful. It's like petting a cat, you want to be responsive to how he seems to be reacting.
This attention sends a biological signal, reminds him of how you could also be rubbing him somewhere else. You can even try to send that intent with your hands, like be kind of getting off on his body as you touch him. A leg rub is a great way to do this, because you can be hungrily enjoying his muscles as you rub him. He will pick up on this subconsciously and feel wanted and feel your desire, which will turn him on to no end.
Oh and one last tip, for when you're dancing:
When you want to turn the sexy dial up, try:
1. Turning around and rubbing your butt into his crotch - called bumpin'n'grindin' or booty dancing, he might get hard just from that.
2. Straddle and grind on his thigh
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sumfin

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When you're at the between making out and sex stage, try kissing his stomach softly it is a hint at oral sex, so it's a big turn on, but also there is something about someone giving your tummy some affection that is very relaxing and sexy. Also, don't be shy, if you are dancing and you want him to grab your ass, you can put his hands there. And grab his butt if you like to feel it, because it feels good to be grabbed there. And remember, the sexiest thing of all is intimacy, so eye contact is good, not constantly, but don't be shy with it. And whisper in his ear softly, loving sweet things, and feel free to get raunchy too, like how you want to feel him inside you or whatever feels hot to your imagination. This will turn him on like a Christmas tree, believe me. You don't need to feel pressured to say a lot, a little goes a long way and better to use your lips and hands for the most part.
Also, oral foreplay works wonders, and let your hair brush/tickle his stomach and inner thighs.

Answer 2

Asker

Okay also do you have another one for the flirtatious lead up, I want it to be a little more surprising/fancy (but not too fancy). Just something that will wow him

Answer 3

sumfin

1. Tender kisses/being extra gentle. Treat him sweetly.
2. Dancing is a really really sexy way to get in the mood in my opinion, very flirtatious. Starting out maybe a little playful, and then getting closer and slower or more primal, it can be a great way to begin rubbing against each other. It's a great opportunity to be wearing something sexy, like a dress with straps, so your shoulders are exposed - very hot. Preferably thin soft material, fitted to your body. Maybe dim the lights, spray the room before with some nice smell like real rose water, or essential oils you like (lavender etc)
And get him ready. The key to wooing someone is timing. Don't expect him to just be ready all of a sudden. Plan it, so he has time after work to relax, have a shower and eat and digest. Maybe spend some time together watching a romantic movie with the lights off and a blanket over you. Then lead him into the bedroom, put the music on, get dancing. Good idea to practice dancing and fluid hip movement

Answer 4

sumfin

Also, a bit of physical attention never hurts, while you're watching the movie you can be snuggling, getting close, and maybe give him a footrub or hand rub. Or leg rub (calves get tight) but be gentle and not too forceful. It's like petting a cat, you want to be responsive to how he seems to be reacting.
This attention sends a biological signal, reminds him of how you could also be rubbing him somewhere else. You can even try to send that intent with your hands, like be kind of getting off on his body as you touch him. A leg rub is a great way to do this, because you can be hungrily enjoying his muscles as you rub him. He will pick up on this subconsciously and feel wanted and feel your desire, which will turn him on to no end.
Oh and one last tip, for when you're dancing:
When you want to turn the sexy dial up, try:
1. Turning around and rubbing your butt into his crotch - called bumpin'n'grindin' or booty dancing, he might get hard just from that.
2. Straddle and grind on his thigh

Answer 5

sumfin

When you're at the between making out and sex stage, try kissing his stomach softly it is a hint at oral sex, so it's a big turn on, but also there is something about someone giving your tummy some affection that is very relaxing and sexy. Also, don't be shy, if you are dancing and you want him to grab your ass, you can put his hands there. And grab his butt if you like to feel it, because it feels good to be grabbed there. And remember, the sexiest thing of all is intimacy, so eye contact is good, not constantly, but don't be shy with it. And whisper in his ear softly, loving sweet things, and feel free to get raunchy too, like how you want to feel him inside you or whatever feels hot to your imagination. This will turn him on like a Christmas tree, believe me. You don't need to feel pressured to say a lot, a little goes a long way and better to use your lips and hands for the most part.
Also, oral foreplay works wonders, and let your hair brush/tickle his stomach and inner thighs.

Answer 6

edumazonni

Xper 5

I still think people should get to know each other first then and starts kissing neck from behind and slowly I'll just stick my hand down in her top then it's on

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Answer 7

Anonymous

I'm pretty sure whatever you do he will find sexy, so don't worry about it. Well you could just start kissing him and touching him and end up putting your hand in his pants and start feeling his dick - they usually know what that means. Or get some sexy lingerie and just go sit on his lap and start kissing him. Or you could go with the really crass approach that I did to my ex once - it was early evening, I got up while watching TV and said "I'm going to bed". I never went to bed that early so it got his attention really quickly "Why are you ok?". "Yeah... I just wanna f*ck" and I kept heading to the bedroom. After initial shock he was in there with his clothes off in no time - haha...

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Em_Power

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Lol that last one is such a good idea..
Opinion Owner

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Yeah, it just came to me on spur of the moment... he loved it - he talked about it a lot. haha

Answer 8

Em_Power

Lol that last one is such a good idea..

Answer 9

Opinion Owner

Yeah, it just came to me on spur of the moment... he loved it - he talked about it a lot. haha

Answer 10

Em_Power

Xper 5

Well I would saunter up behind a partner and gently put my hands on her hips and pull her up to me, kissing her neck and shoulders from behind her. That spells things out I think. Try that with your boyfriend and maybe push into him a bit and run your hands gently up his torso, holding someone from behind is always hot though so he should get the message you're up for some fun. Also, you can't go too far wrong and worry you're looking silly while you're doing it :)

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Answer 11

Mgoods

Explorer

Haha, you're so adorable. Ok, less X-rated version of something I do.
If he games a lot (and isn't someone who rages, lol) approach him, sit on his lap facing him and begin to kiss hiss him all over his face and then finally his lips... Hopefully he will be compliant lol, then he puts the pad down and you take it from there...
They're so into the game, it's usually unexpected! Good luck :)

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Asker

+1 y
Thanks this is great, nothing too complicated. If this is the non x version then what's the x version! Lol
83yeah

+1 y
Good advice 👍
Mgoods

+1 y
Haha, the X version starts with oral, not kisses ^_^

Answer 12

Asker

Thanks this is great, nothing too complicated. If this is the non x version then what's the x version! Lol

Answer 13

83yeah

Good advice 👍

Answer 14

Mgoods

Haha, the X version starts with oral, not kisses ^_^

Answer 15

Shaft50

Guru

Guve him a sexy/private dance, lap dance or otherwise. Just have fun with it

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Answer 16

hypno-trip

Guru

You should meet him in a new environment or wear a sexy outfit/roleplay

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Answer 17

Anonymous

Take him to ur room then go to the toilet and walk in naked

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Answer 18

dev765 | 110 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Yoda

Just go ahead and tackle him.

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