Flashing boobs online, cheating?

[Anonymous]

So, I have a boyfriend and he means a world to me. But, couple of months ago, I was bored and it occured on my mind that I could go on a chatroulette, so I did. And I showed my boobs to some guy and it gave me a new feeling, I enjoyed watching someone who admires my boobs. (YES, I KNOW, IT WAS SO FUCKING STUPID!!!) And after that, I started crying, it felt SO BAD. I was depressed for a couple of days, I really felt bad about it. And 2 months later, my stupid brain decided to do it again, and I did it at least 5-6 times. And the last time, I didn't even want to do it, I knew it was bad and everything. Part of me felt satisfied when I did it because I felt like I was showing something worth admiring and it gave me a great excitement, but in the other hand, whenever I started doing it and after it, I felt like a piece of shit and that really bothers me because I'm scared that it is changing my view on a relationship, I am constantly asking myself if I really loved my boyfriend ( I mean, I do, I really do) but would I do it if I really loved my boyfriend and if my love was pure or something?
I feel like there are two persons inside of me, and that the other person (the normal one) has to put up with all the shit because of the mindlessness of the first one. I can't forgive myself. I mean, I'm not going to do it ever again, but it destroys my mind.

[Brontosaurus]

How would you feel if your boyfriend showed off for another girl on Chatroulette?

Anyhow, what constitutes cheating should be something you work out with your boyfriend. Maybe he'd even like it. Some people are even okay with their partners having sex with other people, while others are mad if they find a racy text message to somebody else.

As far as why you're doing it, it seems you, like pretty much all girls your age, like the sexual attention from guys. There's no reason to beat yourself up over it. Your choice of outlet might not be the one others girls regularly choose, but how it makes you feel to have guys wanting you sexually is quite normal.

Now, some would argue (perhaps even correctly) that it demonstrates you don't yet have the emotional maturity for a serious long-term relationship. Others would say that your boyfriend is clearly not giving you enough positive attention and it's all his fault, so do what you need to do. And still others would say that even if that's the case, the correct thing to do is to talk with him about it, not to run off and seek satisfaction elsewhere, because today it might be flashing tits on the internet, but it might evolve into something worse that gets people badly hurt.

[OzFarmer]

You tried something new... good for you!
The important lesson here is that it may have given you instant gratification, after a while it wasn't so good...
We've all done things we regret.. I've sent x rated pics and received them too but never show face and rude bits at the same time...
Learn from it, re-evaluate your relationship and move forward, you can't see what's coming whilst you're still looking back...
Hope this helps..

[OzFarmer]

Thanks for the MHO

[BumbleSuperBee]

It's not cheating but it's definitely wrong... u did it once, felt bad about it, then did it again? What would ur bf think if he found out? I'll tell ya what he'll think... he'd think you're probably not worth being with and he'd just believe that you're tryin to seek attention from others and he'll feel bad and offended cuz he thought he gave u enough attention but wait... apparently not!

[BumbleSuperBee]

Lol. I sounded like ur mom.
But hey, u needed real talk..

[Keyspirits]

Ma baby <333

[Succcesssfulll]

Well, I don't really consider it as cheating unless you are dating or maybe flirting. But, personally if I was him I wouldn't like it not one bit and consider breaking up. I think this is more of a experimenting thing. I would tell him, you might feel better about it.

[abundantlyrich]

He just saw it. He didn't reach out of your monitor to touch your boobs. Seeing is not the same as touching... So no cheating there. You seem to be needy for attention. Is your bf not fulfilling that for you?

[cavmanier]

I think you flashed guys because you felt attractive feeling desired. That's a normal desire. It sounds like you may have some self esteem issues. Maybe your boy friend doesn't compliment you often. Maybe you haven't gotten much attention with guys over your life. It's hard to know exactly based on what you said. You're not a bad person for wanting that feeling of admiration. It may be a sign you aren't ready for complete monogamy. Maybe you want to flirt and experiment with different guys you can attract.

[Bandit74]

It's technically not cheating but it's a grey area. I'm going to go out on a limb and assume you didn't let your boyfriend see your boobs on the first date. He probably had to take the time to get to know you, form a connection, and gain your trust before yoh were willing to let him see your boobs. Then for you to just go and show them off to a bunch of horny losers on chat roulette is kinda a slap in the face.

Also people can and probably do screen shot stuff on chat roulette so you could end up on some website but it's not too likely. Point is that it's foolish. Like others have suggested, maybe your boyfriend doesn't show your body enough appreciate. Not that it justifies your actions but I would explain why you felt the desire to do what you did. So if you do feel like you're not giving him enough appreciation then talk to him about it.

As far as telling him, maybe ignorance is bliss might be the best approach on this one >_<

[Bandit74]

*He's not giving you*

[Illusive_Man]

"my stupid brain decided to do it again"

it's time like this you can't simple blame it on your brain because your brain IS you.
Anyway, it's not exactly cheating because you are not forming any sort of real relationship with the people you're flashing but it's a HELLUVA thing to do that's for sure lol

Your boyfriend is dating a helluva freaky girl lol

[Iron_Man]

If my GF was doing it I would be thinking wow what's going on here she has a dark side I don't know about. I would then start thinking she could prob cheat on me in the future and what if she has already. I would talk to her and then prepare myself mentally to end it for good, can't have that kind of stuff going on.

[Frost_Byt3]

I think flashing your boobs for any guy besides your BF is technically cheating. At least, it would be to me if i was in your BF's shoes. But at least you felt remorse...

[Anonymous]

Not really cheating, you just have a bit of a exhibitionist in you

[Anonymous]

So you have answered your questions and have show your boobs to bf and does he feel. I think you love bf but that notice that bf doesn't have enough interest in you and seeking from others. But you have to make a decision do love bf or do prefer flashing boobs online?

[vekin]

Everybody does things we later regret, this doesn't make us bad people... maybe when you keep feeling bad about it you should confess to your bf

[Anonymous]

Nah just makes you a basic bitch dont worry

[Kiwifun]

Harsh!

[Anonymous]

Hey, you really made some guys day. It's all good.

[AprilJust4Girls]

Absolutely not.