I'm a 16 year old girl and I'm completely attracted to older men (25-35) but not so much to boys my own age. Is there something wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

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I literally can't stop getting hot every time I meet eyes with an older guy

[wingattebaby16]

I am 20yo (21 in August 2015) and dating a 41 yo guy.

No, I don't think anything is wrong with dating way older guys. The only thing when you are under 18 yo is the whole Statutory Rape thing parents get all weird about.

When I was 16 yo, I unofficially dated older guys, but I just kept it quiet and secret. I got what I wanted and they got what they wanted. I wasn't looking for a husband, just some fun with a real guy that has it together.

Be responsible and take birth control so you don't have any accidents.

Older men are not focused on only their needs, they are not immature, they have a job, they have money to actually do fun stuff, they have a car so you can go places. When it comes to sex, they know girls have "needs" and don't just do their own thing and roll off you (sorry to be gross). Older men are thoughtful and caring.

I have been living with the love of my life for 2 months, involved for 3 months. My adopted dad and I talked about it and he is cool with it as long as I know what I am getting into. I do. My guy has asked me 6 times already to marry him. I told him I need more time and want to be at least 21 yo before I get married. He has stopped asking coz I told him I will tell him when I am ready.

I have been with like 5 or 6 older men (30 yo or older) since I was 16 yo. I know what I like and every guy my age or a little older I have dated has been a total dud and loser! They get so focused on the "physical" looks and I have been dumped like 10 or 20 times by guys coz they met some blonde babe with big boobs and a bigger butt and hips than me.

Don't sell yourself short! Waiting until you are 18 yo to get serious is really important. Also, make sure the guy is not married or involved with another woman. Guys like that are only using you for sex and arm candy! I know from experience!

[CourCasey]

Are these men you actually know (spend time with and talk to) or people on the street/celebrities?

The reality is when men are older they have a confidence and attractiveness because they are (usually/at least more so) stable and independant. However... as a 26 yr old, I know guys who go after and date teenagers with a significant age difference typically only do so because they aren't looking for someone who can take care of themselves but someone they can impress. They want to be a daddy looking after and protecting their little girl.

But you also have to think... what would you have in common with someone that much older? Would they still be able to relate to you having to study and prepare for college? For them that's years behind... they're moving on with business deals, and accounts, and financial responsibilities.

And if they're not, it's highly likely you'd only be landing a creep/pervert or a man baby. The body of a man but the maturity of a boy.

5 year age gap used to be my max. When you're younger 10 or 15 years is a pretty big gap as far as life changes go.

[Asker]

Yeah that makes sense, still though I find them very attractive

[CourCasey]

And that's totally fair... just be aware of the other side and possible pitfalls of pursuing a relationship with such a large age gap. Don't leave you self open to being taken advantage of

[klittle105]

No it's not weird, you r probably just attracted to more mature men. It happens when u r mature for ur age and guys tend to mature slower than girls. Just be careful bc there are laws and u wouldn't want to get these guys in trouble bc ur parents may view the age difference a little differently than u. And keep in mind age doesn't really make that much of a difference except at ur age bc u hve yet to experience a lot of things including college. Just remember u r jail bait and that comes with certain responsibilities lol

[Mesonfielde]

Yeah, I can see how someone would prefer to be with more "mature men" because those people actually have a job and their own income. It's pretty easy to be materialistic if you're looking for "mature men".

[Asker]

I'm not a gold digger if that's what you're implying. Hell , maybe I think the sex will be good. You don't know me.

[HandsomeRaj]

I go with every syllable of what the MHO has stated :)

The older we get, the more experienced we are even if not smarter. Sexual attraction to younger people is natural but not everyone is ethical. Also attraction to older people is older than mankind itself so yes it's very much normal.

I'd say if you have an older friend who isn't attracted to you & vice versa + is knowledgeable & wise who you can confide in, it will serve as a good support :)

[LaikaFreefall]

No, I don't think so... Just be careful with yourself. Older guys who date high school girls are kind of creepy sometimes. Make sure they like you for you and not b/c you're so young, if you know what I mean... And if you don't get what I mean, you shouldn't be dating older guys.

[Keyspirits]

Dem old cabbage like to eat fresh potatos 😋

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

There's nothing wrong people like who they do some date younger
some date older. I had a former friend she is married to guy whose
26 years older than her self and she is like 49 and he is like 75 now
they been together since she was age 19 and he was 45 at the time..

[jshm2]

No. Even as a 13 year old I was attracted to older ladies, was even raped by one, but the whole idea of attraction vs actually going all the way is very different.

You get kids of all ages putting up posters of older people they are attracted to. Doesn't mean they will go all the way.

[LiveFreeorDieHard]

Not at all, there are lots of girls who are into older guys, they usually say they are into mature guys. I dont blame them, im 19 and my friends tied me to a tree to keep me from walking away because i was drunk off my ass.

[ChocEyes]

There's nothing wrong with you, kid. You have the right to feel attracted to whoever you do. Just make sure you know the implications of dating older guys.

Take care

[hmale80]

It is common for most of the girls to like someone older than them. To them, older men seem more attractive. Don`t worry and enjoy your taste.

[Hopeless_romamtic]

There is nothing wrong with liking older men! I tend to like guys older then me too.

[Emmy1999]

No there's nothing wrong with you, it's just what you prefer

[selenafae]

Same here.. I'd never actually think of getting with someone too much older though. I think guys our age aren't very mature, so we're attracted to someone more stable/independent.

[RoaringSpirit]

It's totally natural. I'm 32 and I love girls who are 16, I live in Australia and it's legal here. Just be careful to wait for an older guy who gives you feelings of safety, that'll treat you well. There's a lot of creeps around. But you probably know to trust your senses already.
Just know this. Older guys are just as attracted to you, as you are to them.

Hope this helps sweetie! Haha

[EveryGirlsBoytoy]

I am 20 and I just as of several weeks ago lost my virginity to a 16 year old girl. It is normal for guys to go for younger girls and girls go for older guys. Guys mature differently than girls do, so it makes sense.

[Zomgz]

No, nothing is wrong with you. You maybe mature for your age and feel guys your age are kiddish and want a more mature individual. But like Laikafreefall said be careful of the other guys intentions :)

[savvyridley]

No but you could at least wait till you're eighteen just for the sake of keeping it legal but age is just a number also lol

[med111]

@savvyridley... and Savvy wins the captain obvious AND on the ball statement award! Golden apple for her.

[tina15xox]

There's nothing wrong with you I'm the same just have to be careful of who you choose to go with but find someone great and its the best thing ever

[Random_chick_2384]

Nothing wrong. I find older guys attractive too even tho I don't want to date one. Like all my celebrity crushes usually are 25-35 years old.

[TravisG]

You might like that a man don't play like little boys but a man being that older than you is on another level in life because they live what you haven't had a chance to live yet.

[Koldhearted]

Na just your body telling you that those are the men most likely to be a good... provider.

[Saydou]

No its not a big deal, cos majority of girls are into older guys although yours is too much

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you just wanna be with someone mature... there's nothing wrong with you

[Mesonfielde]

Yeah, I think it's weird. It means you don't value your peers, and you see males as nothing but walking wallets.

[Asker]

Not true I don't really care about the money, I'm just turned on by older men

[Mesonfielde]

Riiiiiight. I've spoken to girls who claimed they 'like older men because they're more mature".

They're just fascinated by the idea that they have their own income. They certainly aren't looking for elements that are similar and compatible, considering there's a 10 year age gap between them; which you cannot just bypass with infatuation..

[Asker]

It's not about wealth for me. Older guys just have a harder look in their eyes that us super sexy. But whatever mate, think what you want.

[Aquariusmystery]

No you just like older guys

[Anonymous]

Yeah... something very wrong 😂😂😂

[fulloflife]

It's a phase. it'll pass

[Keyspirits]

Why not let us get it over tonight baby 😋

[Anonymous]

Nah you're just the future mayor of slutville.

[Anonymous]

mmmmm good girl ;)