How can I get my girlfriend back? I'll do anything

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my girlfriend ended but I think she still likes me but is scared and prob needs time. what can I do

Elcristoph · Accepted Answer

Hello,

this is an emotionaly tough situation so I understand what your going through, I've been there and I know how much you want it but please listen to what I put

if she got rid of you it means that her fear of being hurt is more then her wanting to be with you, and trust me when I say this...

the best thing you can do is cut yourself off from her. I know its hard and you don't want to do it but if she was really interested in you then she wouldn't have ended it with you..

Chances are by keeping in contact your just setting yourself up for more pain, one day she will be ready and when that happens I'm sorry to say it won't be with you. I know this becouse she was with you but decided not to carry on with the relationship..

Save yourself the pain and delete her number, block her on Facebook. (you DONT want to see her status go to "In a relationship" when its not with you) if she calls you don't answer, if she DOES want you then she will have to fight her demons and go to your house.. anything less then that is to easy for her and just gives you false hope.

the fact is that if she left you becouse she was "scared" then you met her at the wrong time, its that simple... she will be different with you now and this is somthing you will need to understand, the girl you fell for has gone,

Now you may ask why I say all this, well I know women who've said that to guys and I've been with women in the past who said it to me, that they were honestly "terrified" of getting hurt by guys again, sooner or later they meet guys and feel strong enough for him to get past that fear... my freind to her your just not that guy.. it sucks becouse you know you wouldn't hurt her but this is her desision..

dont try to be there for her becouse this will only make her think your creepy in the long run..(Im not sure why but it always ALWAYS does) and when she meets a guy whos fun she will go for him, that said the only reason he's fun is becouse SHE didn't fill his head with HER horror stories (girls please keep horror stories from your past to yourself for this reason)

Hope this helps

Chris

thetheme · Accepted Answer

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, Don't contact her, don't chase her... She will just blow you off trust me. If you have already done all of that, STOP doing more. Let me put it this way. What is more attractive, someone that has their act together, cool, calm, confident and manly. Or someone who is needy, has low self esteem, clingy, begging, crying, and trying to reason. A hungry dog doesn't get fed... The best thing to do is be ok with the break up, start to move on and move forward. Hang out with friends and family but don't talk about the relationship. Set some goals and work on them like better grades, getting a promotion. Work on yourself, get new clothes, make new hobbies, start going to different places and so on. If she hears about the new you or see the new you, she is going to rethink her decision about the break up. Not calling her has the same effect. Don't call, no texting, no emailing, and for heaven sake NO STALKING PLEASE. Now is the time to work on YOU. By the way, doing this is a good way to move on, and meeting other people to date. Don't jump into another relationship too soon. Whatever you do, DO NOT BE "FRIENDS" WITH HER! Just give it time and be patient.

rachel_Croniser · Accepted Answer

i am gana share this with you from personal expirence. the break up feeling chart is in stages. first you want to die because you miss him so much it hurts so bad. then it goes to man I hate him/her if you want better go!. third it is man he is really gone. fourth you miss him/her and feel guilty moveing on! even when you do there is never that closer and you will always miss him. but time works wonders I guess. just think wisely with you next choice don't get pushed into it don't settle for the first thing you meet. even though you think it is the safe way out by just getting new he/she is not a puppy! people mean a little more lol! take time to get yourself together and see when that chance is to make that closer or move on. I rushed and things turn horrible! but I'm the end the guy I loved came back but now its for good! good luck hope it helps!

Standingpretty · Accepted Answer

Get another hot girl to make her jealous, don't call her, if she calls you don't pick up the first time, make yourself "busy", only small talk with her. It's a proven fact that people want what they can't have so if make yourself emotionally unavailable to her then she will wonder why you stopped dotting on her and turn the tables and try to get at you again.

Alohabella · Accepted Answer

it depends on how you guys were when you had relationship tohether and also how it ended.

but if you are sure she still feel sth then tried giving her anohter shot. However, sometimes love is not the only reason, you knw I mean sometimes we love but we know it doesn't work : / hmm

themastaplan · Answer

ok for me to give you my full blown out answer I'm going to need A LOT more information as should the other people need before deciding if its A) worth it or B) if its possible...what happened, why did it end(think about it), why did she call it off, could you have done something, was it something you didn't do?, did it end badly, good, how was your relationship when you dated, fight much? were the fights controllable...that kinda stuff...give me some detail on your relationship and let me know why YOU think it ended...

my advice right now is give her time, let her clear her head as well as you clear your head...go work out...if you do, do it twice a day just to keep that stress off you and her off your mind so you can think clearly and maturly...but if you want some advice or opinions id recommend doing another post with A LOT more detail my man.,..that way I can analyze your relationship and give you my opinion...delete her number from your phone (thsi way when you dial it you'll think twice before calling and making an ass of yourself - I'm sure you have her number memorized)

ArtistBboy · Answer

Get in contact with her; Call her, talk with her, interract with her, etc

- The more you interact with her (Verbally or physically) the more she will know you are around and that you care. Some women will outcast you for this for being the "nice-guy".

It's not a problem that you are available, but it is a strong problem when you are overavailable; etc.

Watch your P's and Q's and maintain what is respectful of her, so that she doesn't push you away.

~ ArtistBBoy

Anonymous · Answer

give her time time solves everything sometimes time will bring her to a conclusion where she will see you but won't be the same sometime's the go right back, long distance message her tell her how you feel and short distance leave her alone.come back to her later.

chocolateboy23 · Answer

leave her alone. that's the best and probably the only thing you can do at this point. make it known that you have a life though so your not hurting as much as when your alone thinking about how to get her back

prepstar02 · Answer

Give her space and try your best to live your own life.  You're not helping yourself by focusing on her.  Focus on you.  Go out with your friends, join a team, take a class, do anything for YOU.  If she still likes you then she will appreciate the time you gave her.  If not you will have a much easier time moving on

_JustSmile_ · Answer

be cool, calm. don't try to contact her so much. let her be.

ALICELOVE044 · Answer

tell her you love her buy her buqet of roses a box of chololets teddy bear good lucky

Anonymous · Answer

give her space! ever heard the madonna song "Sorry"? you're gonna annoy her with anything you do rite now. try moving on

iloveshanebeck · Answer

it depends on how you lost her, what happened?

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