Girls, When you really open yourself and make yourself vulnerable to a guy what does it mean?

[Anonymous]

I have a girl who considers me a friend but some of the stuff she has told me is deep personal stuff that really affected her and she's only told a few people who are extremely close to her

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[MissChocomilk]

Im this type of girl... hahaha

Anyway let me be honest, the reason is that we need someone to talk to basically.
But be careful, the longer this girl talk with you in this manner lets say over 1 year+, she has that interest in you and see you as someone capable to protect her or at least someone who she could trust.

Love cares nothing about appearance. If you like her too maybe this is a good sign for you. If not, only way is to keep distance and keep reminding her you're only her friend and nothing more. Better tell the truth before she keeps her hopes high if you dont like her. It would save both of you. Keep yourself away from drama in future is best if you have no interest in her.

We girls often see a guy we trust as a friend but later on, might fall on him as he is (in our head), have that trustable aura on him. If she has boyfriend, then my advice would be- run for your life!

Good luck.

[Asker]

Yeah she has a boyfriend

[MissChocomilk]

if she still with him, make the boundary clear. It is troublesome. Trust me.

[Asker]

You had this happen because she seems to grow closer and closer and is really opening up to me and telling me stuff she never told anyone

[MissChocomilk]

On my case, if I talk with a guy I would care about myself too because I know Im easily fell for nice guy who cares about me (in this situation, the guy who ALWAYS listen to my story). You know this is either:

1) She got infatuated on you

- she THOUGHT she fell in love with you but she got fooled by her own feelings and confusion. You posses quality of her "dream man" which is someone who cares a lot about her only by listening to her problem. (This is highly possible on you)

2) She really fell for you

- this is dangerous if she still with her boyfriend. If he found out, drama will start. Will hurt both you and her (not physically only).

3) She is just needing someone to talk with

- on this girl's case, I dont think she is. We girls have limit on what to tell someone and what is not.

After I found myself a guy who is special to me, I dont talk to any guys on deep problem matter anymore. I want to be loyal. haha

[Asker]

So your saying there's limitations on what you would tell a friend

[MissChocomilk]

true. Deepest secret only goes to either best friend (this best friend is girl), sister I trust or SO only. Other men won't know including my male best friend.

[Asker]

Yeah I know so much about her from her past and things that deeply affected her

[MissChocomilk]

you're her potential protector even if she won't admit this.

[Asker]

Protector as friends or her boyfriend

[MissChocomilk]

boyfriend. Just in case things doesn't work out with her current boyfriend sadly.

[Asker]

Yeah it's like when we talk nothing else exists around us I personally can feel electricity

[MissChocomilk]

this is... omg.

[Asker]

What do you mean

[MissChocomilk]

Look, everyone used to tell me that nobody would build specific interest on me even if I talk with him

They were wrong. It takes time to fell for someone and there is no assurance that you won't fell for the girl that shares everything with you, esp the private things she hide from the world. You too, by time would catch that feelings either you realize or not. Of course this might be nothing wrong if:

1) You dont know her boyfriend and he is not one of your friend
- I think no guys would want to be traitor of their brothers in love term (or maybe some did :/ but yes, too much drama).

2) If her boyfriend abused her and you're becoming her knight in shining armor
- well that boyfriend might be jerk if he did this but there is a girl's code when we have interest in a guy which is we won't share whatever it is with any other guys except to him.

Be careful on not getting used by her only. Keep yourself maintain, until you're sure of this.

[Asker]

My hearts kinda guarded it's why I'm asking these questions

[MissChocomilk]

at least now you know the possibility on her side. :D

[fabiolaaa]

It demonstrates that she trusts you. When people open up to you it demonstrates trust. You should feel good since this person thinks of you in a positive light. Even this person was open to you about difficulties you cannot change the past.

[Asker]

Could it be more than friendship

[fabiolaaa]

I cannot read her mind but this can be the beginning of a relationship. Sometimes we like someone and we want to rush but take things slowly. The fact that she is opening to you says something. If I were you, I would continue to be her friend.

[Asker]

I just feel so close to her now

[Madslovestacos]

She trusts you and well you are one lucky guy if she is opening up to you like that because let me tell you I can be really hard to do.

[Asker]

Well she's opening so much that I'm thinking she's catching feelings

[Madslovestacos]

Honestly she might be.. I know when I like a guy I will start to open up to them more

[Asker]

Like seriously she even said I never opened up to anyone like this before

[Madslovestacos]

I believe she said that just to hint that you're special to her. If you have feelings for her try showing her

[Asker]

Yeah she also accepted my invitation to go to a sporting event

[Madslovestacos]

That's good and well if this girl isn't one who's into sports that's a dead giveaway that she likes you and is going because it'll be a way to connect with you and spend time with you

[Asker]

Well originally when I texted her she said it's not her thing but today I was talking about it with her and before I left she goes when is the event and what time

[Madslovestacos]

Well then I think she has feelings for you or is starting too:)

[RedRobin]

She considers you a really close friend and nothing else

[Asker]

Ok would close friends go to a sporting event together

[RedRobin]

Yes...

[Asker]

Alone just the two of them

[RedRobin]

Yeah

[PegasusGirl]

She probably think s that she can trust you, because you are her friend. That, and she needs to get some stuff off her chest/she thinks if you as more than a friend.
Xx

[Asker]

She thinks of me as more than a friend