Because what you say is bullshit to me.. or at least your conclusions. Your partner is your teammate, they need to make room for the kids as well. The kids come first in priority. If your kid is sick and your partner as well, then the kid need you more. And then they have a ton more needs than your partner especially if they are small. Your partner is an adult who can take care of themself, like they hopefully could while they were single xD
Kids move out one day but you should aim for them to still want to see you afterwards. If I had felt I was lower priority than my parent's partners (they were divorced for longer than they were married), then I would lose a lot for them and might have even stopped my relation with them. I hear stories of this all the time. Especially the father getting a new girlfriend, a girlfriend who wants little to do with his kids and therefore eventually they are pushed out of the picture. Surely the new girlfriend is also a bitch, but prioritising the relation to the kids is the main responsibility of the father. But they sometimes choose the bitch over their kids. Disgusting.
I don't have kids and do not plan to either. But I will certainly not be with a man who prioritise anything above his kids.
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My future kids would be my number one priority but mainly in terms of dangerous and poverty situations. If there was one piece of bread, they would get it before my partner. If both the child and spouse were hanging off a cliff, i go for the kid first and then the spouse after. I would hope my spouse did the same in both situations. Basically things like that. On the other hand, i would not neglect my spouse in the bedroom or anything like that. Having kids does not affect me from having sex. If im not afraid to have sex in public places in front of randoms then having a kid in the same household is certainly not going to stop me. I’d just try to be less obvious with it then my parents were. Now If the spouse wanted to divorce, i’m not the type to “stay for the kids”. We’d just have a healthy coparenting relationship
Well if you want your relationship to last with this person then you're going to have to accept this because the children should come first that is her number one priority are these children to make them grow into good human beings is the guy is jealous because they get more attention than he does then he should just move on anytime did you start dating a woman with kids those kids are part of the package you can't understand that then you should probably just move on you don't have kids so you don't understand this but if you did it any other way it would be wrong as far as I'm concerned the kids are her number one priority not you you either accept it or you don't
If I have children, they are my priority because raising the next generation to be decent human beings is more important than a romantic relationship. The minute I choose to keep them, I am making a promise to always put them first and love them no matter what. I always keep my promises.
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I am a woman and I agree to your opinion to a great extend.
I often say that if you treat your marriage as first priority, your kids have a happy family.
If you prioritize your kids first, while you might be a good mom/dad, but you might end up being single mom or dad.
I deeply believe parents relationship/marriage is the foundation for kids to grow healthily and the two need to be TOGETHER first, be FULLFILLED first as human being before they can take up the parents role.
That said, the two of them also need to be together in taking up the duties. If the woman is tired to death by looking after kids duties and the guy is acting like another big boy wanting attention then resentment comes in.- s
Because we know how to not be selfish. When you become a parent you already sign up for know you are not going to be the main priority anymore. Those kids will always be first.
Now, that doesn't mean you no longer make time for your partner, its just always going to be done around the kids schedule. Nope, daughter is first, simple as that,
putting your partner first, irrespective if her mother, another woman etc is just wrong and incredibly selfish.
An adult should be able to manage both a child and a partner.
if a girlfriend wanted to go to the pub and we did not have a babysitter, we did not go to the pub, I put my daughters welfare first.
it’s not hard to work out.No, partner is priority number 2 same as I am to him with kids.
My partner will not die from SIDS in his sleep. My partner knows how ovens work and won't burn himself or worse, and can also make himself food.Exactly, children come last in the priority. Thats how people used to raise kids. Now they put them on a pedestal and its not even best for the kids because they turn into entitled little shit holes when you do that.
Agreed.
This is one of the main reasons why I don't want a partner who wants children.
I would never feel valued by a woman with this mindset, it's so obvious that men are nothing more than a means to an end for them.If you children are not your number one priority, I feel sorry for you and your children.
Lmao. I hope your aren't a parent... ever
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