Why is she ignoring me but will talk to other people?

[Lopezz1999]

This makes no sense, and just pisses me off every time it happens.. I show interest in a girl, she shows me good signs that she likes me, but will only ignore me out of everyone else, even when she's in her happy mood. She will approach other guys and is usually quiet, but why me? Why is she doing this?

[rwlock]

Bitches are crazy man. Like literally. Fortunately, I figured out their insanity and how to use it against them. She's doing this to drive you crazy, and it's clearly working. I use the same tactic myself when I'm trying to pick up a girl. I'll talk to everyone in the group except the girl I like, and before long she'll be begging for attention. It drives people crazy, and that's the whole point. But two can play that game, my friend. If she keeps doing it, then just all of a sudden pretend like she doesn't even exist. If she does actually like you, then she will start to panic and think that she accidentally drove you away. This will be very easy to notice because her behavior will change almost instantly. Then that's when the tables have turned and the power is back in your court. It's the only way for you to play this. Good luck man

[ChanRin]

I'm in awe.

[rwlock]

It's all just part of the dance of seduction

[Lopezz1999]

Haha I actually do that as well, especially whenever I'm in one of my happier days. I don't know why she's trying to drive me crazy even though I've done nothing wrong, but my frustration can't be seen by her. Whenever she makes me mad that way, I usually just play music. Though I can understand why she would try to make me feel the same, since I'm usually chatting up everyone except her, because I had no reason to talk to her since she's so quiet. What should I do the next time she's happy like that? Talk to everyone except her while I'm pissed? Or ignore everyone (something I'm unlikely to do anyway)?

[rwlock]

Well how long has this been going on? It's hard to know from the context whether she's flirting or just straight up doesn't like you as a person haha. In my case, I only do this for a few minutes or so, the goal is always to talk to the girl in the end haha. Some girls just get sick pleasure from mind control and driving guys crazy. The only way to know for sure is do what I said and pretend like she doesn't exist. If her behavior changes... then congrats, she likes you. But then one of you is gonna have to grow a pair and start a conversation eventually haha

[Lopezz1999]

Her behavior changes as soon as she steps into the classroom, and she does it for the entire class period. She goes from outgoing with her friends to shy and reserved. If I decide to talk to her, it feels like she's having the best day, but any other time, she appears to be unhappy or saddened.

[Anonymous]

I was just wondering, how did this all end? My crush is pretty much acting like this towards me. I know that this is not actually an opinion, but I am just curious about the outcome.

[NyomiMcClinton]

It may be the vibe that you are giving or it may have nothing to do with you, Not sure of your age but a lot of younger females tend to want attention by multiple of people. One guy may not satisfy their needs. I would not stress over this. But I will tell you this, leave some mystery to yourself. Dont be so quick to be an open book and tell a female everything about you. Its a give and take with getting to know someone. You tell her a little about you and she should do the same. And if she goes off with other guys, do not welcome her back in your life with open arms. Because she will more than likely do that again.

[Lopezz1999]

What vibe do you think that I'm giving her? Yes I am 17, and she doesn't like to attract attention, but she does like it whenever she can get it, much like a shy person since she is one. Every time she talks to someone else, I can sense that it's purely platonic, but it still pisses me off nevertheless since she will never approach me.

[DramaGirl2000]

Well, sounds like she likes you back. I know it may seem strange, but us girls act that way when we like a guy. I ignore my crush all the time, but when he's not looking, I stare at him for minutes. That's just the way we are. Your crush likes you and is trying to act like she doesn't to make you jealous. Try talking to her. Maybe it'll help.

[Lopezz1999]

I see.. that's good to know. It's just that every time it happens, it feels like she likes those guys more.

[DramaGirl2000]

She doesn't. Believe me. I flirt with other guys I don't like to make my crush jealous, and it works.

[Lopezz1999]

Oh I see lol. Do you do this to get him to approach you?

[DramaGirl2000]

kind of. I do it to make him want me more, do other guys can't get to me first, you know?

[Lopezz1999]

Oh I understand now. Usually whenever this happens, I think they're not interested and move on. Hopefully they weren't hurting

[DramaGirl2000]

I hope so too. Good luck dude. Be confident!

[Lopezz1999]

Thanks man. You've got my upvote.

[DramaGirl2000]

by the way, I'm a girl. I just like saying dude

[Lopezz1999]

Ah I see. Fair enough, I like saying it too.

[DramaGirl2000]

Cool. I'm kind of tomboy

[Lopezz1999]

Really? They're actually great female friends.

[DramaGirl2000]

yeah. I have some friends that are boys, but when I try 2 befriend more, they act weird.

[Lopezz1999]

It's probably because they find you attractive, and so they can't be your friend. Personally, I can have a friendship with tomboys.

[DramaGirl2000]

quick question. if you don't mind me asking, what state do you live in. I live in Pennsylvania

[Lopezz1999]

Tennessee. That's a pretty long way away from there.

[DramaGirl2000]

I know right! You're actually the first guy I've had a good talk/text with, and you're like 1000 miles away

[Lopezz1999]

Ha for real? Well in that case, let's move this into instant messaging. This may start a good friendship.

[DramaGirl2000]

OK. do you have g mail?

[Lopezz1999]

Yep, mine is lopezian067@gmail. com

[DramaGirl2000]

Kk. mine is danielaafutu@gmail. com

[Lopezz1999]

Alright I'll go ahead n send a message,

[DramaGirl2000]

OKay

[DramaGirl2000]

wait. try hangouts

[DramaGirl2000]

Good night

[Sevenyoung]

I think she's just doing that because she wants you to talk to her first. I would do that too, because i want my crush to come up to me first and i dont want him to know i like him by talking to him too much. So instead, im gonna make him feel like im not thinking about him, so he gets confused and comes to talk to me

[Lopezz1999]

I see. I was always taught that if someone ignores you, you've either made them angry, or they don't want you speaking to them since they don't like you, and don't want to lead you on.

[Sevenyoung]

It could be possible that she just doesn't want to lead you on, but only you would know that best. Do you think youve done something wrong or anything?

[Sevenyoung]

Or are you certain she likes you or not?

[Lopezz1999]

Basically she does these things, but the signs still confuse me.
-I approach her most of the time, but she has sometimes come to me
-I believe that she stares at me
-She does smile and touch her hair when I talk to her
-She will stand close to me
-She will adjust her clothing when I'm in her presence
-I can always effortlessly make her laugh. I basically never try
-She treats me very differently than any other guy I see around her
BUT
-She breaks eye contact a lot
-She ignores me and will only do these thing if I approach her
-She can directly look me in the eye when she isn't smiling
-She will uncomfortablely fidget if I'm sitting very close to her
-She will openly talk to other dudes, and she will approach other dudes.
-She made friends with my friend, but will only approach him
-When asked if she liked me, she said as a friend

[Sevenyoung]

Ahh i see.

- i think she ignores you because she doesn't have the courage to talk to you first so instead she waits for you to do the work
- she might be fidgeting because she's nervous about you being so close to her. When my crush was assigned seats next to me, i remember feeling uncomfortable and i constantly played with my pen
- she talks to other guys because she has the courage to talk to them and not you because she likes you and she's afraid of saying something wrong. I do that. I could talk to any guy confidently and will approach them (but boys at my school are d***s so i dont) but i will never approach my crush because when i try, my heart and stomach pulls back and in afraid to say something that will make him think im weird. And i feel like if i approach him, he might find out i like him.

[Sevenyoung]

- she made friends with your friend so that she'll get closer to you through him. I did that. I started talking to my crush's best friend so if i become friends with his friend, i'll be friends with my crush too, and it'll bring me closer to my crush
- i think she denied that. I would definitely say that i only like my crush as a friend because if i admit that, what if that pushes him away? What if he thinks im weird? What if it makes him uncomfortable and what if he doesn't feel the same, then i just confessed for nothing.
- with the eye contact, maybe she got nervous and didn't wanna seem awkward so she breaks it

[Sevenyoung]

- making her effortlessly laugh is the give away. I would laugh at whatever my crush says to form some sort of bond and develop our relationship. If i dont laugh at what he says, i'll seem so serious
- i try to stand close to my crush too. Actually i try to be around him a lot

How does she treat you differently?

[Lopezz1999]

She seems to act differently around all of her guy friends. She won't touch me or my friend that she made friends with, but I noticed that she'll touch/hug those friends fairly often. Though everything you said here makes complete sense!

[Sevenyoung]

Thats great! Not sure why she hugs or touches those other guys but maybe she's more comfortable to them? And maybe she doesn't touch your friend because he's not into that kind of relationship or she just has a different comfort zone around different people

[Lopezz1999]

Ah I see. Looks like I still have a bit to learn about your minds lol. Still though, you were a great help.

[Sevenyoung]

Happy to help :))

[Anonymous]

It sounds like she's trying not to show that she likes you back by trying to seem cool, but by singling you out, it's a bit obvious either way, and she's probably hoping you'll get the hint or at least ask her why she's treating you like this. Just a way to get you to come to her.

[Lopezz1999]

This makes a lot of sense actually lol. Today it actually did get me to talk to her, but to be honest, I don't know if that's a good thing.

[ChanRin]

she might br playing hard to get but she might also not want to talk to you (if something happened between you two)

[Lopezz1999]

Why do girls play hard to get anyway? I've shown my interest..

[ChanRin]

That's primitive reaction bro, you can't do anything about it. most girls just are like that. natural selection and shit

[Lopezz1999]

It's what now?