Do guys really like it when girls play hard to get?

[PrincessPie]

Or is that just one of those things you hear which isn't true..

[MrMysteryMan]

Nope. It just confuses and frustrates me to no end sometimes. Especially if I've show interest and I know she is interested, but, to see if I'm "worthy" or "care enough" she acts like she's not as interested. Then I start questioning her interest and if it's even worth the trouble. Or another thing I really don't understand (and it's happened to me a number of times) is when you get really sexual with a girl and on more than one occasion and you both are really hot for one another, but then she just all of a sudden just stops and says shit like, "Let's slow down here", or shit like this. Why NOW? Or, even more mind boggling, I was with this girl and we were just naughty as can be. Sexing out in parking lots, at friends houses, on her front porch. I mean any chance we get we were all over each other, just awesome sexual chemistry. But then this one time, when I was devouring her pussy and made her cum really hard really fairly quickly, she got upset with me and asked why I had to eat her like that? WTF? Then she wanted to break it off with me because we were too sexual I suppose, or something. I don't know, I think it was because she didn't know if she wanted me for me or for my sex, but still, why not tell me that way instead of blind siding me and painting it like it's my fault or something?

I love women, but will never fully understand them.

[AleDeEurope]

I don't like playing hard to get, but I like playing playing hard to get... confusing, I know, let me explain lol

When a girl plays hard to get, she basically avoids you, doesn't talk to you, tries to show she's not into you... all that stuff. I don't like that, because I don't like feeling like I'm wasting my time going for a girl that shows no signs of liking me back.

What I like is when a girl teases me and acts like she's playing hard to get. She shows signs that she likes me, while still playing the chasing game. Like for example you call her cute and she tells you you're not, but then gives the "I love teasing you" look. You know she's just joking, you know she actually does find you attractive and that she likes you, she's just being playful. So they're just playing, but still giving you signs that they like you, and when it's time to get serious about what's up between us two, she gets serious about it.

Did it make sense what I said?

[PrincessPie]

Yes! Gotcha :)
you like it when she makes its obvious she's into you but at the same time making you work for it a little bit to..

[AleDeEurope]

Exactly. I like having fun and laughing with the girl, and teasing each other. I sometimes am the one who makes her work a little bit :P

[PrincessPie]

Haha yup! play her at her own game lol :P

[AleDeEurope]

Thanks for the MHO

[PrincessPie]

welcome :)

[juliaaa]

I think they like to have to take the initiative at the beginning of a relationship. So they don't want someone that they think is 'easy' because she always texts him to hang out. However, they don't want a girl who ignores their texts just to play hard to get, or doesn't always say hi to him, etc.

[MarriedMale43]

I like this, except I think the male psyche will read "clingy" where you have 'easy'.

[demonology]

People have accused me of "playing hard to get" when in reality I am absolutely not interested in a relationship and they can't take a simple "No."

[MarriedMale43]

This. 1,000 times this. "She's just playing hard to get" is a rape culture line.

"It couldn't possibly be because I'm 44, married, and coming across creepy as fsck to a 19-year-old.. nah, demonology is just playing hard to get. I know she wants me."

What @AleDeEurope has described in his Opinion is a much better description of what men actually like: flirtatious, challenging, playful, confident. Make it clear to me that you would say "yes" if I have the confidence to ask, and let me demonstrate that I have the strength and confidence to stand up to you or for you, as the need arises.

[demonology]

At first I had to pick myself up from the shock of hearing the phrase "rape culture" from a 44 year old.

But yeah gr8 points.

[Kirah]

@MarriedMale43 stop blaming the elusive "rape culture" for everything, please. I know from experience that some girls DO legitimately play hard to get. They say "no", then they grumble when the guy actually backs off. Can't exactly blame the guys who might persist a little after that.

[MarriedMale43]

@Kirah How does the guy "know" that he shouldn't have backed off?

[Kirah]

@MarriedMale43 from what I've heard, the guy usually meets the girl a few years later, then the girl calls him "oblivious" for not getting her "obvious signs".

[vishna]

I don't play hard to get because the guys I gravitate towards don't, and I wouldn't like it if they did. I like things to be obvious.

[vishna]

thank you for mho

[xDocilexFaeriex]

Both hated it... but I'm a really bad girl... I'm a HUGE tease... next boyfriend I get should punish me <3

[LesterJester]

I'm not playing games. I never play games when it comes to relationships. If a girl is going to play games and lead you on, I don't have time for that crap and move on.

I suppose that will make the girl think that I must not have been that interested in her... I was... And now I'm not. Her playing games and trying to play hard to get answered my questions about her.

The thing is, when girls play hard to get, there is a very thin line most men end up trying not to cross. One side of the line is "Desperate" and the other side of the line is "Creepy Stalker who Doesn't know when to Quit."

I keep away from that line at all costs because being either isn't good.

[cth96190]

No.
At the first sign of disinterest by the female, an educated man will walk away.
To ask more than once can be construed to be sexual harassment.
Ask once, then walk away and do not revisit that place of rejection.
Any other course of action puts at risk the man's education and/or career.

[UnknownXYZ]

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It's just a massive shit test. It all depends on how hard the guy is willing to play. It is also depending on the girls' behaviour in the past. If she spreads her legs easily for guys who put little to no effort in the past and she is withholding her vagina for you then you know where you stand in terms of how attractive you are to her.

[FatherJack]

No , that only really works on you ladies , or the very small minority of " thrill of the chase " seeker men. Men think logically more than emotionally , therefore " hard to get " will = " She is NOT interested , don't waste time / energy on her " to most men & they will quickly break contact & forget you. Don't play games , it will backfire !!

[ubilockon]

Some guys do. I find a relationship to be best when a girl does 80% of the pursuing, and she really clings on to her man, and the man comforts and loves her. But, she submits to everything he says. It just depends on the masculinity level of the man.

[Anonymous]

Personally, I think girls playing hard to get is where they are misleading a lot of guys and can lead guys to think they're not interested at all.

At the end of the day, we're not forcing all girls to ask out guys but at least show him some respect and give him hints where you actually want him to ask you out.

Completely ignoring the guy is just way of saying that you're not into him therefore he will never ask you out.

[malfeasance]

it's the challenge that's appealing. If we take this to the extreme, how would a guy feel if a girl he didn't know came up, grabbed his dick out of his pants and started riding him? Is that attractive?

[Apope16]

Now. It is ridiculous and I hate it. It basically means that a woman is playing games with you and isn't being real and genuine. That is a waste of my time and life is too short to deal with that kind of thing. I want a woman that is upfront and real and genuine that does not take me for granted or my feelings for granted.

[5ilv3r]

In my opinion, I don't like a chase. If I like a girl, I want her to be straight forward with her answer instead of playing around while I try to chase her tail.

Sure, some guys may like it but for me, it's useless. If you like someone, say it to them, don't just play hard to get. If you're serious about them, don't play around otherwise they will eventually get tired of it and move on.

Guys like girls who can say what's on their mind clearly. Some occasional hints of interest will keep them interested but playing around and giving men the cold shoulder will make them think you don't like them anymore and eventually, you'll lose your chance.

[tyber1]

If you want to play like you're not that interested then I'm gonna treat you like you aren't that interested.

[Anonymous]

i really hope not
i don't like really playing games with a guy i like and i hate the idea of acting like im not interested when i am
if a guy did this to me i would move on so i don't see what's so appealing if i do the same

[swashdeadlove]

nope there are much beautiful or better persons in the world , sometimes not as good looking as this person but sure they might treat us better
i left my first girlfriend just cuz of this
and my 2nd girlfriend (current) is fabulous and isn't afraid to show her affecton

[JSmuve]

*huge sigh*

Here you go.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a10123-hard-to-get-what-does-it-actually-mean-through-the-eyes-of-a-guy

[Cruz_]

no guy loves it when a girl shows no signs of interest in him but guys love a girl that respects herself

[capturemyheartnow]

That's a game that boys understand. They need time to test us. And unless they are convinced that they are on the right guy , they will prefer to wait and watch and take a lot of time to form their opinion. But once they know that th guy is right , they will not take much time to express their like.

[Bandit74]

I like the idea of a girl who is genuinely hard to get, but I have no interest in a girl who is hard to get for me but easy to get for other guys.

[GingerGuy]

It's never worked on me. The FIRST sign of disinterest, I'm done. Why play games like this?

[Anonymous]

I personally hate it. It is hard enough to read how a girl feels normally let alone when she is trying to act a different way. It's stupid really and is just a game. I don't have time to play stupid games like that so if she plays hard to get I take it as she is not interested and move on.

But at the same time I do get why women tell other women that. If you come across as to interested or easy a guy won't be interested in you at all or just sex with you.

[ProjectBaby1K]

Do NOT do this. Maybe this shit worked in high school, but trust me, it won't work with adults. No man likes it when a girls plays "hard to get".

[Anonymous]

"one of those things you hear"

What people are you hearing this from?

[PrincessPie]

I've heard multiple times.. from things i read what people have said etc..
and wanted to know if there was any truth in it..

[Opinion Owner]

People who say this I'm guessing do it to others but have never had it done to them.

[ccal28]

no its the worst cause then if the girl actually likes the guy, the guy would back off thinking the girl isn't into him

[Kirah]

Of course not. If you play hard to get, you will end up being hard to want.

[Blueeyes2016]

No... not really. Id be quite disappointed if I invested a lot of time into something only for a girl to just be stringing along. Just let me know straight up.. i would rather you tell me in a clear consise manner in detail why and what you feel leaving no room for doubts.. why's that so hard?

[GarthArts]

If you play hard to get with me, then i won't try to get you. Love me or dont. Dont play games.

[Mary_June]

I do this with my boyfriend sometimes to annoy him xD

[Waths]

NO : If you play hard to get, you are boosting your ego and decreasing your real value.
WE DON'T LIKE THAT! Boys will not send you appeals every single morning!

[COCOCHANEL]

i don't think there is a universal way of ”playing hard to get”. what i picture when i hear this term may not be what others imagine. people have different standards.

[MyThoLoGy]

No.

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[MakingMeHiiiigh]

No because I'm forward and honest, playing hard to get ruins it and just frustrates me

[rairai]

i hate it
but if he wants to play this game... challenge accepted :))))
i can beat him at his own game 😈

[TacosRAwesome]

I suck at playing hard to get. Some girls can do it and make it work, but my version of hard to get is pretty much fuck off.

[TacosRAwesome]

Basically for some reason, if I'm disinterested it looks like I'm playing hard to get and if I'm trying to be too excited I seem disinterested.

[1988fido]

Not crush , but girl in relationship yes like tease me and make it harder for me to get a kiss or stuff like that XD
Coz crush playing hard to get can be easily misunderstood as not interested

[Anonymous]

Shit if anything the dude is the one playing hard to get and I straight up told him it's a turn off and getting on my nerves!.

[DarklordOdin]

Only cuckolds like such a trait.
I value honesty. Play not hard to get, nor should you throw yourself at one's feet without challenge. Simply be yourself. No mincing words, no frilly distractions.
Firm confrontation is the best.

[d2796]

if it's easy to pickup on. a lot of women need to be more subtle, and not overdo it.

[StickStickity13]

Yes, but only if women do it right. Most are terrible at it

[Browneye57]

Girls communicate covertly. Guys communicate overtly.

If you want a guy to understand you spell it out for him. Guys just don't get it with the fine points of nuance. They just don't.

[rairai]

they re too stubborn

[Browneye57]

@rairai Nah, that's not it. You're just getting that they're different. FI is telling there's something wrong and that's just not it.

[rairai]

they would not see what s in their front even if it looked like an airplane lane with lights and signals 😂😂😂

[Browneye57]

@rairai You're still not getting it are you? Guys are just not girls - deal.
Seriously, it seems you're one of those that tries to make things other than what they are. Guys are simply not keyed into the same things you are. Call them dumb, stubborn, stupid, whatever you want - not going to change it.
Find one you like, choose wisely, treat kindly.

[rairai]

no. no. i understood. i was just making fun of it :)

[Browneye57]

@rairai Thank dog. :)

[Robin48]

First of all, I do not play those type of games. It very immature, inappropriate, and very childish. Real mature teens and adults who what real friendship and relationship do not play these types of games.

[ThisAndThat]

My time is hard to get too and she'd be the first to the back of the line, I'd pass on her.

[jakeofalltrades]

no, rather know if they are interested or not and quit playing games

[Gonetowardthewind]

I don't mind a little of it once we are boyfriend and girlfriend, but while trying to get a date then no.

[Belgie]

No. Most guys if not all guys, hate it and it doesn't work.

By girls repeat it as advice, perhaps because they know it would work on them.

[Anonymous]

Fuck no. Playing hard-to-get is one of the biggest turnoffs for me. It's childish and inconsiderate. Either straight-up tell me you're interested, or not interested, if I ask you out. There's nothing wrong with not being interested.

[TomBradysJersey]

I have had my heart played with before, I don't want to play games. If I like you I need to be sure you like me back. Playing hard to get won't do that.

[Anonymous]

No, only girls fall for that shit. Most men hate the "chase" entirely, but since they already have to do it, they want it to be quick and simple

[Bananaman177]

The instant I suspect you're playing games with me, you're dropped.

[FaithfulGuardian]

I personally don't like it but I think people like it because of the thrill of the chase.

[DarkHumorRUs]

No, I've only heard this from girls. No guy likes that, it's stupid.

[Anonymous]

most guys on here will say no but deep down they know it's true. I am a psychology major so I know this. You want what you can't get. By playing hard to get it increases the value since you know you had to work harder.

[Anonymous]

I honestly don't think they do I myself get annoyed when people play games

[litty]

When it's flirty hard to get like they are teasing you for wanting to see them as opposed to straight up ghosting

[Anonymous]

Its one of the things women do thst leaves me confused.

[Pizzalover101]

Not to hard to get or to easy to get cuz we want a girl who's nice but not a player or trashy

[ThePetSquirrel]

No. I'm a very blunt person, so I'll tell a girl if she's pretty or attractive the moment I first speak to her. I have zero interest in playing games.

[Words_and_Wisdom]

Guys fucking hate it. Trust me. Just be honest and straight forward. Don't lie to yourself, and don't lie to the guy on whether or not you like him.

[sp33d]

Do not have time enough in one day to give a fuck. If she wants to play games, by all means, I've got more important things to do, anyway.

[Sam19XX]

Not even 1%.
Why can't you people just communicate like normal human beings?

[Wwwyzzerdd]

Doesn't work. If she doesn't want to clearly communicate what her intentions are then good riddance.

[Anonymous]

No, it's frustrating, i just want some pussy and you making me skip through hoops just to break your heart afterwards and leave your ass for my next crush, lets speed things up people.

[ladsin]

What no, we're both adults, stop playing games