That's a good question man.I started dating a girl and she acted so into me,wanted to text and email and talk on the phone everyday.Told me we would talk everyday and get to know each other.told me I wasa great guy.then she stands me up on a hike date.no call or anything.even ignored me when I text her to ask what was wrong.then sends me a 2 sentence email saying.sorry for everything but my ex boyfriend wants to work things out.,said she was so confused.I just asked her why she didn't call me and explain and cancel,and she said I guess you want pity now,well here it is.what did I do to deserve that.said I didn't do anything wrong but she completely ignores me now
I'm not that type of person. Either you're interested or you're not. I think she's come to the conclusion I'm not the type of guy who will chase her. Her loss.
If I were you, I'd wait for someone worth waiting for, as in someone who will not play head games ike many people have already mentioned, someone who will tell you straight up how she feels, although that can be difficult
Maybe she´s not actually into you. This happened to me last week. I have a friend, and that's all he was to me. I was nice to him and liked hanging out with him, then he decides to ask me out... ever since then I have not talked to him or seen him. We had a good friendship and I don´t know what made him ask me out. Move slow and make sure she´s really into you.
I don't understand why you're avoiding him. You might be a little caught off guard, but why let that mess up a good friendship? Why not just go back to the way things were?
I'm not friends with her! I don't even know her! She went out of her way to get my attention. Then I catch her staring and when I would look at her she would either blush, look away or look down at the ground. I took as she was shy and liked me, so I asked her out on spot and she told me she had a boyfriend... then the next week she came back and tried to get my attention and talk to me, but I ignored her as I was confused by her behavior. Since then we just pass each other and nothing happens.
Then your name fits you, because guys do have feelings, we just hide them the best we can, because society brought us up that way, and most guys don't like it when girls play hard to get, even though most girls like the chase.
I think there is a fine line of playing hard to get. I understand why girls do it but it's when they over do it and string along a guy that it can become hurtful... as a guy is thinking she likes me and keeps going after her, yet the girl just likes to tease him and lead him on.
shake that seen bro. i use to play those games with those girls and i'm going to tell you that these girls are ALWAYS headaches. Low self esteem bullshit. Its called SELF esteem not "other person esteem"
haha umm its funny you feel this way because sometimes I feel the same way about guys. but truthfully... I guess we have to act like that. its nature. we think things through. it could take forever. emotionally unbalanced and stupid. haha. don't give up on her if you want to know her. find out what she likes. ex. sports. band instrument. then next time you see her, just bring up those topics in the conversations. that's usually how guys walk up to me and start talking. good luck.
It means that she's into you, she's sent you signs but you've not responded to them so she just started to ignore you to compensate for the too much attention she gave you. It's a common reaction. So try to get back to her, if you're interested.
I have a tendency of go for guys I can't have. So when the guy isn't interested in me or not showing as much interest, it's an instant attraction for me. But when I have him and he's around all the time, he becomes less attractive
well girls can say the same thing about guys that is happening to me right now... it just depends on how the person is and if your really into them and them not being into you as much as you are to them ... maybe you liked her way to much and she didn't like it or something
2) Maybe...real vs. player I can see that argument. Now she told me she's got a guy, so all I can do is back off, so not sure where being a p**** fits in here...
Based on your answer is definitely number one because you are thinking too much about her, that means you already scared her away.. Your insecurity reflects in she rejecting you.
I'm in the same situation with you. Although with me, it's a month and a half of going out and she out of the blue starting to completely ignore my calls or texts. I'm trying to back off but don't want to completely give up.
It's a lose-lose. Either we are too pushy or we aren't passing their ' how interested is he in me' test...
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welll maybe she's intimidated? Are you popular and constantly surrounded by friends and are you overly confident? that's the reason why I aviod my crush even thoughh I really really would lovee to talk to him, I'm waiting for him to approach me.
I'm usually alone doing my thing but I do socialize with other people. Recently, she has been checking me out. One person told me they saw her, and I caught her myself. One day it seems she's interested, then other days she just ignores me like I'm the plague. Can't figure her out.
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That's a good question man.I started dating a girl and she acted so into me,wanted to text and email and talk on the phone everyday.Told me we would talk everyday and get to know each other.told me I wasa great guy.then she stands me up on a hike date.no call or anything.even ignored me when I text her to ask what was wrong.then sends me a 2 sentence email saying.sorry for everything but my ex boyfriend wants to work things out.,said she was so confused.I just asked her why she didn't call me and explain and cancel,and she said I guess you want pity now,well here it is.what did I do to deserve that.said I didn't do anything wrong but she completely ignores me now
you goota keep them girls interested by playing games with them .. just work on flirting and keeping girl interested. link
I'm not that type of person. Either you're interested or you're not. I think she's come to the conclusion I'm not the type of guy who will chase her. Her loss.
If I were you, I'd wait for someone worth waiting for, as in someone who will not play head games ike many people have already mentioned, someone who will tell you straight up how she feels, although that can be difficult
Maybe she´s not actually into you. This happened to me last week. I have a friend, and that's all he was to me. I was nice to him and liked hanging out with him, then he decides to ask me out... ever since then I have not talked to him or seen him. We had a good friendship and I don´t know what made him ask me out. Move slow and make sure she´s really into you.
I don't understand why you're avoiding him. You might be a little caught off guard, but why let that mess up a good friendship? Why not just go back to the way things were?
I agree. :/ This happened with one of my guy friends and me once. He thought that I liked him but I was just being friendly. x____x;;;;
I'm not friends with her! I don't even know her! She went out of her way to get my attention. Then I catch her staring and when I would look at her she would either blush, look away or look down at the ground. I took as she was shy and liked me, so I asked her out on spot and she told me she had a boyfriend... then the next week she came back and tried to get my attention and talk to me, but I ignored her as I was confused by her behavior. Since then we just pass each other and nothing happens.
i act like this.
its mainly because we like to play hard to get.
and no girls like me don't think boys have feelings lol.
your gona have to show her how you really feel
Then your name fits you, because guys do have feelings, we just hide them the best we can, because society brought us up that way, and most guys don't like it when girls play hard to get, even though most girls like the chase.
I absolutely hate when girls do that "play hard to get" :(
Whats the real point of playing hard to get? Except wasting a guys time
Because so you don't take us for granted or think were easy. you got to admit you hate clingy girls...
I think there is a fine line of playing hard to get. I understand why girls do it but it's when they over do it and string along a guy that it can become hurtful... as a guy is thinking she likes me and keeps going after her, yet the girl just likes to tease him and lead him on.
shake that seen bro. i use to play those games with those girls and i'm going to tell you that these girls are ALWAYS headaches. Low self esteem bullshit. Its called SELF esteem not "other person esteem"
Hi, you're 30-35. You have no time for these childish games...or do you?
Ignore this idiot. She's just annoying. She sounds like a weirdo...be careful, she might just be a vampire and try to suck your blood!
I thought about the vampire... but she looks more like a witch. As for games, I think none of us at any age has time for them.
+1
AMEN on that lol I hate head games. Games just waste time and energy lol
haha umm its funny you feel this way because sometimes I feel the same way about guys. but truthfully... I guess we have to act like that. its nature. we think things through. it could take forever. emotionally unbalanced and stupid. haha. don't give up on her if you want to know her. find out what she likes. ex. sports. band instrument. then next time you see her, just bring up those topics in the conversations. that's usually how guys walk up to me and start talking. good luck.
She makes it hard now as she wants me to see her yet makes herself not available to talk... I don't know if she's p*ssed off or is playing a game.
It means that she's into you, she's sent you signs but you've not responded to them so she just started to ignore you to compensate for the too much attention she gave you. It's a common reaction. So try to get back to her, if you're interested.
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I totally agree with 100%! RIGHT ON!!
Yea but she told me she has a boyfriend and still gave me signs. Don't you think she should try saying hi?
I have a tendency of go for guys I can't have. So when the guy isn't interested in me or not showing as much interest, it's an instant attraction for me. But when I have him and he's around all the time, he becomes less attractive
I can see this... but its also immature.
It's life. same goes for guys
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She's right, I feel the exact same way. I hate it when a girl starts to smother me. :(
I think she does like u
so she acts az if she doesn't
n a way 2 protect herself
u saying" she followed ma around like a puppy dog"
seemed kinda ignorant...
2get ova a guy I tlk 2 others
so mayb she's over you lol
Probably because they found a deal breaker that is unique to them. I wouldn't worry about it. If one girl looses interest, then on to the next one.
Did you met over the internet and she was into you before you met in person? :)
I did not meet her over the internet. I was at place to rehab from an accident and she was out in area outside the facility.
Explain your thought please : )
I have met a few people that way, but it's always the same thing;
get interested, feel really compatible, date goes good, afterwards they avoid like the plague.
Guessing it's all about looks no matter what they say.
Makes no sense to me, I wouldn't ignore someone like that no matter what.
Ignore her and forget about her. She sounds like a migraine.
Yes. Big headache. Wish she would act like a woman and not like a little girl.
+1 again!
well girls can say the same thing about guys that is happening to me right now... it just depends on how the person is and if your really into them and them not being into you as much as you are to them ... maybe you liked her way to much and she didn't like it or something
If no alcohol was envolved in either case..
Then in most cases the guy became too clingy...
Or sometimes she met someone else.. but most cases the guy became too clingy...
There are only two options:
1) You was in a good mood and this became contagious to her, once your mood changed, hers changed too.
2) She is trying to see if you are for real and can take a little social pressure without pussying out.
1) Doesn't apply to my situation.
2) Maybe...real vs. player I can see that argument. Now she told me she's got a guy, so all I can do is back off, so not sure where being a p**** fits in here...
Based on your answer is definitely number one because you are thinking too much about her, that means you already scared her away.. Your insecurity reflects in she rejecting you.
Maybe you're right.
I'm in the same situation with you. Although with me, it's a month and a half of going out and she out of the blue starting to completely ignore my calls or texts. I'm trying to back off but don't want to completely give up.
It's a lose-lose. Either we are too pushy or we aren't passing their ' how interested is he in me' test...
welll maybe she's intimidated? Are you popular and constantly surrounded by friends and are you overly confident? that's the reason why I aviod my crush even thoughh I really really would lovee to talk to him, I'm waiting for him to approach me.
I'm usually alone doing my thing but I do socialize with other people. Recently, she has been checking me out. One person told me they saw her, and I caught her myself. One day it seems she's interested, then other days she just ignores me like I'm the plague. Can't figure her out.
Can you give us some more details of the situation? How did she show she was into you? What did you do once you knew she was into you?
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